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About GentlemanBobIII
Chivalry is alive and well in my world. I am a Security Officer by trade, a volunteer firefighter and a Social Work student. I am a gentleman and nice guy who respects women, I love to cuddle and romantic comedies are my favorite kind of movie. I am a true romantic and I love kids and animals. I am new to this whole "scene". My only experience in this lifestyle is reading about it. I like the idea of being restrained and tickle tortured but have never experienced it. Point of fact I don't know if I am ticklish or not, since even as a child I was never tickled. I don't think I am ticklish, as attempts to tickle myself yielded no response. I did read somewhere that you can't tickle yourself though. On the dominant side I've always fantasized about tickling a woman esp. in nylons. I am also curious about other aspects of BDSM such as CBT, roloeplaying, and sensation play. If you are interested drop me a line. Have a great day. |
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Of Love and Life:
What is love? I have often thought about love, probably more than anyone should. I so want to love someone and to be loved in return. Is that really asking so much? I have had my share of heatbreaks and unrealized expectations in the area of Love. Even so, I prefer to look to the great writers of our times and thier viewpoints, as opposed to my own rather limeted experiences in this area. I believe almost everything ever written about love to be true. It was William Shakespeare who said, "Journeys end with Lovers meeting" What an extraodinary thought.... I have never experienced this type of love, but I am willing to believe Shakespeare had. It was also Shakespeare who said "Love is Blind" THAT I know to be true, for I have seen evidence of this in my life and in the lives of others around me. People choosing the wrong person believing they will change or choosing not to see thier faults. Love is a funny thing, for some, quite inexplicably, LOVE fades. For others, it is simply lost. In others, like my grandparents, who lived to celebrate thier 76th anniversary before my grandfather died, it continues on undaunted. My grandmothers love for him transcended the grave, and she would go and visit his grave every chance she could and talk to him, up until her own death a few short months later. One thing that amazes me about love is it's power to alter and transform lives. Once one has been
touched by love, positive or negative, it leaves a mark on our souls and we are never quite the same again. Even heartbreak is part of the tapestry and mosaic that shapes us and our lives forever.
I've been thinking a lot about mosaics lately. Mosaic is an art form often involving tiles that are cut and shaped and then assembled to form pictures, often very different from the source the tiles came from. In the movie "The Terminal", starring Tom Hanks and Catherine Zeta Jones, Victor Navorsky(Tom Hanks) makes this beautiful fountain for Jane Warren(Catherine Zeta Jones), to show his love for her. It features a mosaic made from collectable souvenier plates etc, that were broken and put back together to make something quite different. From what I've read about mosaic art, very often the raw materials are gathered from chipped and broken tiles that were being thrown away. I think all too often we do that in our lives. We get our hearts broke, shattered really, and we simply sweep up the pieces and throw them away, never seeing thier potential. I met a woman today like that, shes having problems with her estranged lover who shes been seperated from almost a year. She was going to move back down there to him at the end of August, but they are having problems and now shes not sure. She did say that if it didn't work out that she would never have another man in her life, just her cats. A shattered heart swept up, and simply thrown away. Ahhh, but the mosaic artist sees this and realizes she is right, that it will never, can never be put back the way it was, but he sees how the pieces can be used to make a different picture all together, not the way it was, but just as, if not even more beautiful then it was originally. He sees the potential in the broken mishapen remnants of of the tiles and pulls them from the trash. We in our lives have the same choice, to pick up the pieces and throw them away, OR to resolve to save the pieces and form them into something beautiful, albeit different, than we originally hoped. However change is never easy, and it can be very hard to see any potential in the shattered remnants of our heart and life, esp. in the initial aftermath of the life altering event. It can be done though, and sometimes the mirror of our trusted family and friends can provide the perspective and support that we need to begin looking at the possabilities. Anyway, just something to think about. As always, I welcome your feedback. -Bob |
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Of love and relationships...
I am just a gentleman and nice guy who respects women, is faithful, and doesn't play head games I love kids and I love animals I am not ugly, not handsome either, and I have a good heart, so why am I alone?
Life's funny in a way. A man loves his independence freedom, and ability to do precisely what he wants when he wants, and yet somehow something is missing. Way back in the beginning of this earth God said, "It is not good for man to be alone, I will make for him a helpmeet." Not a slave, not a servant, not someone to be dominated,(obvious exceptions of course, because being dominated by choice is not what I'm talking about here) not someone to walk behind you, but someone to walk alongside of you, to share life?s journey with. A comforter in difficult times and a fellow celebrant when life is good. Yes there's sex, but that is a relatively small part of a marriage and it gets smaller the longer you are married ;). J/K Sex is not about meeting primal urges so much as a way to connect on a deeper level once you've grown as emotionally close as possible. For me one of the major benefits of marriage is having someone to snuggle up with in bed at night, and someone to wake up to in the morning. You become as it were one another?s haven in a sometimes cruel and inconsiderate world. Sadly, far too many marriages ARE the cruel and inconsiderate world, but it doesn't have to be that way. I WANT to get married, bring it on I WANT to commit to one person who I will share the rest of my life with. A man no matter if he has everything in the world but has no love, he is naught. We are all of us but angels with one wing, we need a another to be able to grab hold of in order to fly. Every one of us has their idiosyncrasies. However it is these very things that make life interesting. In some ways it's like a cosmic joke, women marry men hoping they'll change and men marry women hoping they won't. LOL My advice to both is take them as they are, love them as they are, because love is not a feeling so much as a conscious action, a decision, a choice. Falling in love is easy, that's why it is called "falling", it takes no effort at all and it serves the purpose of getting you to the altar on an emotional high. Ahh but to BE in love takes effort, and when those mushy gushy feelings start to fade in two or so years, you better have built a strong foundation to continue that relationship. Sadly, many don't and so they get divorced. When you truly love someone that can never and does never go away, even if you part, or ARE parted by death or circumstances. To truly love you must love unconditionally. So ask yourself, LADIES, when you are proposed to, if he remains just as he is and never changes are you going to be happy with that? Men sometimes do change and the love of a good woman can accomplish much, and at times it has. Usually though they don't change. Us men are funny that way. And guys before you propose ask yourself the same question. Most women are not like Sophia Loren who still looks great at 60 something, appearances can and do change over the years, sometimes better, more often for the worst. If you love a woman for her heart and mind and spirit, barring a major psychological trauma, that will remain the same, a constant over the decades. To both men and women alike I say, if you are looking for the perfect person you are liable to be single the rest of your life. You decide whether the good outweighs the bad. No ones perfect though looking through the eyes of love they may seem that way. I may be alone the rest of my life and I have resigned myself to that fact. Some folks would be perfectly content with that. Not me, I love my freedoms but I'd give it up in a heartbeat for someone to snuggle with at night, to eat out with, to cook for, to cherish, and to love. I feel somehow incomplete and somewhere out there, I hope, is the woman who will complete me, to enable me to be the best ME I can be, who complements my strengths and shores up my weaknesses, and vice versa. It was Samuel Clemons who said " After a woman there is nothing so desirous and necessary to the comfort of a man than a dog" I agree, AFTER a woman, that is the key. Have a blessed day, and I welcome your feedback. -Bob |
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