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Dom/Domme Couple, 37/36,  Menifee, California
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Gender Identity:










 5' 11"

 215 lbs




Gender Identity:









 5' 11"



Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Switch Women

Sub/Sub Couples

Friends Only

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Movies (Expert)



 Breast Play


 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Housework Service (Expert)


 Massage (Getting) (Expert)

 Medical Play

 Mental Bondage

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Denial (Expert)



 Vibrators (Expert)


 Comedy Shows (Expert)

 Horror Movies (Expert)

 Science Fiction (Expert)

 Web Surfing

 Blogging (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse



 Writing (Expert)

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Alternative Music




 Amusement Parks (Expert)

 Raves (Beginner)

 Renaissance Faires




 Anal Play

 Body Worship





 Massage (Giving)

 Outdoor Bondage

 Public Play  (Beginner)

 Serving as a Maid/Butler

 Arcade Games (Expert)

 Board Games

 Cartoons (Expert)

 Role Playing Games

 Simulation Games


 Art Collecting





 Goth Lifestyle

 Nineties Music

 Atheism (Expert)



 Art Galleries (Beginner)

 Bar Hopping


 Coffee Shops

 Fine Dining



 Musical Theater




 Horseback Riding






 Plastic Wrap

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Role Playing

 Sensory Deprivation




 Online Chatrooms

 Puzzle Games (Expert)

 TV News

 Alternative Medicine


 Photography (Beginner)






 Gorean Lifestyle




 Eighties Music

 Heavy Metal Music

 Industrial Music

 Rock Music

 Show Tunes



 Badminton (Expert)




 Flea Markets


 Garage Sales



 Corner Time

 Speech Restrictions

 Online RPGs

 True Crime

 Candle Making

 Conservative Politics



 Liberal Politics

 Libertarian Politics

 Old Guard

 Curious About:






 Martial Arts

 Surf Boarding

 Ultimate Frisbee


 Canes and Crops



 Electrical Play


 Local BDSM Community

 Domestic Servants

 Fire Play

 Foot Worship

 Gas Masks



 Knife Play

 Masks (On Partner)


 Rubber Fetish



 Vacuum Stimulation

 Wax play


 Body Art






 Blue Grass


 Classical Music

 EMO Music

 Pop Music







 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Masks (Wearing)

 Needle Play

 Pantyhose Fetish

 Romance Novels

 TV Sports

 Diet and Exercise

 Female Supremacy

 Low Carb


 Hard Limits:





  I have been into BDSM for years, My wife recently has decided to take a dip in the kink pool. She is new to this and is really embracing her dominant side. We’ve been together for eight years and now we are actively looking for a sub/slave of our very own. If you read my old profile I described my self as “pleasure centric,” while this may still have a place, I have become far more liberal with the riding crop. (A well kept slave should wince when she sits. Lol)   We are looking for someone who knows not only how to take commands, but has a desire to obey. A good girl earns her rewards, a bad girl, her punishments.   If you're a good girl and complete your tasks you will be rewarded, if you're bad, you will be denied rewards.   As for us socially, we’re a very laid back couple, we love movies, wine, our pups, video games, board games, and all kinds of naughty things.   Send a message and get to know us.

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Journal Entries:
4/8/2018 12:48:26 PM

Cleaning is for slaves

I hate chores. No, that’s not true, I don’t hate them, I just hate being the one doing them.

Today was shower cleaning, a teadious project really. Sure I’ve made a few upgrades (scrub brush heads attached to a power drill) but it’s just not “fun”.

I have a different preference.

I prefer my slave, completely naked (as she should be) on hands and knees laboring away at this “mobius chore”. We start by running the shower, hot a steamy, ensuring all the walls are damp. Then the Commet is applied, liberally, caking to some surfaces, becoming a wet cleanser sludge at the bottom. Pushed to her knees (If she isn’t already on them) she will take the scrub brush in both hands and proceed to scrub.

And scrub.

And scrub.

Sweat will bead up on her brow from the hot water used to moisten the tub, her knees will ache for sure, but that’s what service is. With her knees spread on the tile and all the heat the only relief she will feel is her tits brushing agains the cold surface of the tub. And in this position, how could we not take advantage. Fully exposed, knees spread, cleanser flicking and caking to her skin. Our hands there to spank, tickle, or violate this hard working serving, a servant who we will have no problem with Reminding them of what happens if she stops scrubbing.

“Keep scrubbing, this isn’t about you” (maybe clamps next time...)

Every surface, every edge, ever corner, working hard for us. Sweat will be dripping down her face, stinging her eyes, licking salt from her lips. All the while we enjoy the show, glass of wine in one hand, riding crop in the other.

When finished and the work is inspected, the slave will be most likely be filthy (as a hard working slave should be), and must be cleaned.

But not yet.

No no, after such a show we need a shower first, and it will be the slaves privilege to wash us in the pristein shower, head to toe. Her hands will be cleaned to provide soap for us, her sweaty fave may receive a slash of water or two from our bodies.

Once she has finished, and once she has taken care of us, only then will she be rewarded with a nice long soak in the tub to relax those hard working muscles.

But not too long, there are other chores to be done.

2/7/2017 12:03:08 AM
Sometimes it's just nice to chat, even if the person is not a potential play partner. Just say hi, compare notes. 

2/3/2017 5:42:07 PM
I always feel like you can't trust the profiles that only have a name and a picture. If you can't tell us who you are how can we know if we're going to want you?

1/29/2017 5:47:04 PM
Given the nature of this lifestyle I feel that even if you get a message from someone you may not be interested, the polite thing to do is to reply. 

A lot lot of people are venturing into this lifestyle for the first time, it can be scary. 

we were all new here once, take the time to help someone else. 

1/26/2017 12:42:22 AM
Wow, I've been out of the loop for a long time. When collarme went down I figured it was lost forever. Who would have thought I would find it again. I'm updating my old profile to fit my new life, so far so good, except all the pics are coming up sideways. Lol

6/3/2009 11:29:14 AM

someone needs to go through collarme and clean it out. i can't count how many fake profiles are on here.

you wonder why most doms seem to send out templated messages? because for every genuine profile, there are ten others who want you to check out their pics on their web site.

3/22/2009 5:16:55 PM
last night i had a few vanilla friends over for burgers and drinks.

while we were al hanging out i thought about how much i would have liked to have a little slave girl here.

a good slave girl should be able to blend into what ever situation i need. she should be able to play the slut when i want it, the slave when i ask for it, and be vanilla when the need be.

to be what i want means becoming what i need, when i need it.

2/16/2009 11:23:36 PM
there are people on here looking to find some seriously kinky shit.

diapers, urination, having sex with people's feet...

all this weirdness can be found here, and in mass quanity, but finding someone who you can love and trust? why is that too bizzare to hope for?

12/23/2008 8:03:47 PM
Everyone is a slave to something.

11/9/2008 12:48:15 PM
One of the most important things to me with a sub/slave is a devotion to service, this applies to the s/m and vanilla parts of life.

service in the s/m is at times obvious, my subs learn that to serve me is to follow my rules and my systems until the structure i have laid out becomes second nature.

last night i had a little party in my home, and i thought about how things would have differed.

at my parties the majority of my guests are vanilla, and my sub/slave must play said vanilla role. but at the same time i would want her to be on her game. it would be her job to make sure everyone has a full drink in hand. she would also be sure to clean up any spills that may happen.

above all, she would make sure that while i'm cooking and cleaning that my needs are being attended to as well. this means that if i want a beer she will have the bottle ready and open, and she will be my sneaky little slut, doing naughty things on the side that only i will know about.

there is more to service than just being by slut.

10/8/2008 11:17:07 PM
ok little subs and slaves, i have a request for you.
please, pretty please, make sure the following things are listed on your profile:
1. whether you are collared, owned, or something else put it on your profile in the first few lines. it's annoying to read all the way to the bottom of a profile after you're very interested and find out they're not.
2. put your city in your location. what the hell is with putting down California? gee, that narrows it down... somewhere between Washington and Mexico, right?
3. finally, throw enough pics up there to give someone an idea of what you look like. if nothing else, a clothed body shot will do wonders more than just a facial or disembodied nipple.
*pant pant pant* i have ranted.

10/5/2008 8:50:51 PM
wow, my "who's viewing me?" blew up today.
i should have posted on th message boards a long time ago.

9/29/2008 9:06:36 PM

so, every time i read a sub's profile they always end with the hard limit: "absoultely no animal play."

most of us are on here trying like hell to find someone. yet somewhere out there are people out there working to get their animals laid?

um, did i miss a meeting or something?

9/24/2008 11:20:08 PM
i've been toying with some new ideas... a body wrap outfit made from a single (really long) strip of electrical tape, and a few fun things with my clamping work bench. all i need is someone to test them out on

9/10/2008 11:00:04 PM

Definition, need some.

in past entries i've defined my self, but now i suppose i should define what i'm looking for in a sub.

i am looking for, not just a sub, but a sex slave. someone who lives to serve and knows she is only complete when she is servicing her owner. i want you to walk in the door, strip down, drop to your knees and ask how you may serve.

You will cook,
You will Clean,
You will satify your owner in every way.

be my sex slave, be my servent, be loyal, and be rewarded.

5/29/2008 8:52:12 PM
does anyone out there know of any good clubs in Riverside?

I'm trapped in the Inland Empire and i'd like to not have to travel all the way to LA just to get my spank on.

5/11/2008 11:53:48 PM

i miss my puppy, twenty days till she comes back...
while it sucks that she's gone, i can't hlep but to look forward to making up for lost time

4/21/2008 10:11:50 PM

Have you ever thought about having a "home away from home?" 

Yeah, instead of a roommate, I’m thinking I should just rent out my spare room as a "rent-a-dungeon"

Think about it, let's say you have a house, a family, and need to keep a very "vanilla" appearance. So where do you keep your leather love pony? Your whips, your chains, your shelves of butt plugs and dildos?

Ah, now you see the potential... a little private retreat where you can live out your kink with out worrying about anyone finding your secret stash.

Did I mention seven-foot tall mirrored closet doors? Just say'n...

4/14/2008 8:37:11 PM

Ephiphany! I need a roommate, and there are people in the kink that need a place to live. so why not rent a kink friendly room? anybody interested?

4/7/2008 8:34:38 PM
being a slave who isn't owned is almost as bad as being a Master without property

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