I'm feeling particularly dominant today, so I thought I would write this entry from the perspective of a dom :)


Levels of domination exist within the context of a diverse hierarchy:
social/intellectual, financial/material, physical/sexual.


PHYSICAL: I control functions and aspects of your material body: when and where you are allowed to stand and sit; when you achieve orgasm; your attire; what you are permitted to eat; what orifice I will penetrate; how much of my seed you will consume and internalize.


MATERIAL: I control your possessions and concept of space, or more appropriately, lack thereof; There is no designated space which you can designate as yours, even the frigid steel cage in which you are locked; As a submissive, you are not permitted to own, for that privilege belongs to me as a Dom; I control the space in which you allowed to travel, which could be limited to a meager pathway between the kitchen and the bedroom.


SOCIAL: I control the social interactions in which you can partake; You will remain silent unless addressed; Your intellect and judgment should defer to mine, though your opinions will be taken into account.

These levels of dominance can exist consensually and non-consensually. Non-consensual domination is illegal and largely unethical. However, consensual domination requires the dominant to designate a certain degree of the power to the submissive: minimally, the ability to specify and uphold limits.


To achieve a harmonious, consensual balance of these levels is to tread closer to the concept MENTAL dominance. If I dominant your body, your concept of space and ownership and your social interactions, then your mind will re-conceptualize its surrounding world to accomodate: SUBSPACE. That is definition of mental dominance: a situation established by the dominant which forces the submissive to restructure his/her mental processes to adjust to a novel environment. Rather than furthering your own happiness, every one of your future actions will contribute to mine, perhaps unconsciously. The way it should be.


SPIRITUAL/TANTRIC dominance is the final tier and the most difficult to describe: the stage at which the soul of the submissive is completely assimilated into that of the dominant's.
At this stage, you will not only passively recognize, but genuinely admit to yourself that you are not an indepedent person, but merely a vessel designed to further the happiness of another. You are a mindless component of a dominance entity, like the cells of an organism. I am the brain, directing the energies and activity of the entity, while you are the foot, whose only purpose is to obey and trust.

Hmm, I'm not exactly sure why this background appears green, but I'm going to write an entry anyway...what exactly is the appeal of submissives to dominants? I'm sure that there would be no uniform answer among the members of the dominant community, but....
Is it the process of complete submission, itself (i.e. resistance and/or resilience of the submissive)? In other words, do most dominants prefer a little bit of spark and sass in their human property, or would they rather have their slaves accept orders without response? Are dominants ignited and arroused by the thought of resistance and dissent among their slaves? Do they greatly enjoy - or even require - quelling any possibilties of a change in power dynamic? Or do dominants prefer more constancy and stability in their reign?
We can divide dominance into two categories: physical/sexual - which subcategorizes into insertive and receptive - and mental/foreplay - which involves manipulation, puppy play, housework, etc.
Of course, doms could possess one dominance without the other; The physical and mental components of dominance are certainly NOT co-dependent.
In a very strange way, though, I've always wanted to be in an abusive relationship (which entails mental dominance at the very least, if not physical dominance as well).
Do these desires render me a mentally sick individual, as society might say? A controlling boyfriend would certainly satsify me in more ways than one, yet I can't help but wonder whether I would be endangering myself. Thus, I'm currently trying to separate the voices of society from my own voice...
Rousseau might state that the individual is/ought to be sovereign over his mind and body, but was he including the notions of BDSM in that statement?