Love is giving someone the chance to destroy you, and trusting them
that they won't.....;]

"Trust BEFORE obedience; submission is EARNED {the old fashioned way....;]}"

Well no  longer attached.  My sub is the greatest, but the timing was
off.....so back out here for new friends and....?

You never REALLY know until you meet RT,....but looks like I found THE sub
of my dreams....;]

firm, but gentle. Dominant, but not controlling (yes, there is a
difference). structure mixed with romance; spankings mixed with kisses; and
an understood mutual respect.

Just written to a woman who just wishes to play games but who means well and is very nice: Thanks for the dialogue, and I will not debate with you about what I believe " serious" means vs. what you feel it means..... ALL I know is that after MANY years of doing this off/on, there are many red flags/signs which scream at me about my perspective being correct, and I am almost never wrong when those signs are present..... They are, among others; -Looking for the "right one". That one is 99% a red flag that she is dreaming and likely just have read,"50 shades of...". in the end, there is NO "right one" except in her fantasy.... -She starts providing a laundry list of demands of what he has to be which 99.8% of men do not have.....that one is beyond silly. I have heard the most absurd ideas from not being willing to speak over phone/skype EVER to him having to be so hairy that he has hair EVERYWHERE to having to be willing to live in the Ozark mountains! - she tells you how serious she is, but has to go VERY slowly because of....too many examples to count. They range from how busy her life is to how dangerous she knows this is because she heard a story of a woman who was beaten badly {as if that NEVER happens in the vanilla dating world!} to her cell phone is broken and won't be fixed for a week to her cell company does not give a good cell signal where she lives and on and on and on and on.....;] MOST women out here are either CONSCIOUSLY fake, or pretending/lying to themselves WAY more than they lie to us men about being serious! Now to be sure, men may be worse, but frankly I have no clue since I search for women! what seperates serious from not is not TALK but ACTION. Until a woman has actually been submissive, and more than once it is ALL talk....FULL STOP. So I wish you the best of luck in finding someone equally serious who lives EXACTLY where you wish for him to live, and desires to see you NO more and NO less than you wish to be seen.....and is exactly the age and financial/emotional degree that you wish/deserve....;]

Self-Mastery-Only one who devotes himself to a cause with his whole strength
and soul can be a true master. For this reason mastery demands all of a
person.  ~ Albert Einstein

A Veteran is someone who at one point in their life wrote a blank check
payable to the  country of their origin for an amount up to and including
their  very life.

"Hypocrisy is the homage vice pays to virtue."...
The great epigramist Francoise de la Rochefoucauld

"Without trust,...there is nothing"...Gina

I heard your voice commanding me as you bound my wrists and unbound my
heart. I heard your voice demanding me as you spread me wide before you and
then saw into my soul. I heard your voice encouraging me as you took me to
the highest high....... I heard your voice inspiring me as you slowly
entered me and then made us one.......
I heard your voice tonight, so quiet and gentle. It will enter my
dreams........

       "To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the
day, thou canst not then be false to any man."

                              - William Shakespeare

Breaking News: Syria Vows To Abide By UN Security Council Resolution - Well that sets my mind to rest. North Korea News: North Korea has developed their first-ever smartphone. It is just like an iPhone, but if you ask Siri any questions, she reports you to the police. Russia News: Russian President Vladimir Putin revealed he may run for a fourth term in 2018. In fact, he already came up with a campaign slogan: "Putin in 2018, Whether You Vote Or Not." Vatican News: Cardinal Gianfranco Ravasi is claiming Jesus was the first Tweeter. Also, the Shroud of Turin was the first "Selfie." National News: After Congress failed to reach an agreement on a new spending bill, the federal government officially shut down. So roads won't get fixed, public employees won't be able to help you, and getting a federal loan for a house will be very difficult .but there will also be a lot of differences. FYI: Since 1976 there have been 17 government shutdowns. The longest one was during Jimmy Carter's presidency. It lasted for four year. Personal Note: This government shutdown has made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside; although that could just be a reaction from uninspected shrimp. Polling News: A CNN poll shows that Congress' approval rating is down to 10 percent. Do one out of 10 people really approve of the job Congress is doing? Who are these people? I want to work for them. IRS News: Most people think the IRS is just out to audit people. But that is not true. In addition to the people who do the audits, the IRS has people dedicated to defending taxpayers who get audited. But guess which group just got furloughed Obamacare News: The new website to register for health care is not working due to too much web traffic. You can't campaign saying that millions of people don't have health care and then be surprised that millions don't have health care. How could you not be ready? That's like 1-800-Flowers getting caught off guard by Valentine's Day Health News: A study found people who have sex four or more times a week make more money. Especially if they charge a hundred bucks a pop. NASA News: NASA announced it is taking volunteers who are willing to live in a colony on Mars. They would live in a protected bubble and pay no rent and be provided free food and free drinks. What is the big deal with that? Americans have been training for this mission since the New Deal. Random: A new study says it's harder to sleep when there is a full moon. I sleep fine when there's a full moon. But when I wake up, my clothes are torn and a bunch of people are dead. Other than that I sleep fine. Reminder: Never give a stranger your fingerprint over the phone.

   Never take blindly someone's advice who doesn't have to live with
the consequences.
_______________________________
One day your life will flash before your eyes....DO something worth
watching.

THIS song is certainly one of the best ever written for  playing while having  BDSM sex!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UIVe-rZBcm4

Never ignore the person who loves you, cares for you, and misses you, because one day you might wake up and realize, you lost the moon while counting the stars. - unknown

I have been given permission to slightly tweak  the perspective of an anonymous TRUE Master {a bit verbose, but  well put}: As it is often important and  perhaps even necessary for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations and needs of another, I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity. I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel more intelligent {though sometimes wiser}. I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women. Yet, to you I am Master. I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions and allowed   me to give you previously unknown emotional security.  You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility  with honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the  relative strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs. You are sure, strong, and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man  to be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because  your  trust has  been earned. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your word with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions; And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you. What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body, mind, and soul. I dominate you only because you have allowed me to, and when I see your body kneel before me in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other women and all the treasures of the earth. Within the bounds of our relationship it is my duty to protect you, and that you will know, that under my care NO harm will come to you as a result of actions taken by me   or you. That is my responsibility, to protect you from yourself if necessary. What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.

Can you help me understand something?
Why are almost all woman from this site unwilling to move to the next step?
Emailing is nice....for a week or two. IF the person is happy staying at
that stage....than can they/she be REALLY serious about finding a RT
Dom/Master? REALLY??

Below sums what I am determined to find:While kneeling down to her Master,
she looks up to him for his guidance and patience as he sees the submissive
within her that has been tucked away for  too many years. To be loved and
cherished and rewarded for her good/proper  behavior and her willingness to
learn/share. To be in the warm loving arms of her Master is always the best
place to be. To feel safe and secure knowing that she is taken care of and
will never be hurt emotionally. He appreciates her submission to him for it
is a precious gift that she gives him. To honor,cherish and obey is what she
is as his, to tend to and to take care of his needs as he is her world, her
everything. Without him she would be lost for only he knows what is best for
her and she knows what is best for him.Together they experience the love and
domination of a true D.s relationship. This takes time as they learn more of
each other to be happy and both lives are  truly fulfilled. She is a jewel
in his eyes that sparkles when he sees her, to watch her body quiver at his
slightest touch when she looks into his piercing eyes of the domination of
the man she yearns for, she respects him and adores him.