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	intelligence is generally defined as the ability to reason and adapt. wise men talk when they have something to say. fools talk when they have to say something. patience is waiting, not passively waiting, that is laziness; but to keep going when the way is difficult and slow - that is patience. placement of trust allows actions that would otherwise be impossible. humility is a virtue that all preach, none practice; and yet everyone is content to hear only power that has been mastered can be exchanged. offering or taking power that you have not mastered is like taking credit for the wind. it is innocent enough, harmless when the breeze is slow and cool - but will you take responsibility for the destruction of the hurricane as well? the first 5 quotes are some favorites of mine. the last one is my own. for those who are wondering - i am attached and lead a pretty full life, i am most interested in friends and play partners at the moment - people who respect my time and my privacy. you will get the same respect in return, of course.

1/9/2010 6:47:15 PM

I've been asked more than once why I don't 'sound' (write) like a Dom.

Truth be told I don't know what a Dom writes like, I write like me. I know I'm dominant. Therefore, it is my opinion that the way I write is one of the ways a Dom might express himself - perhaps it's not a common way... it certainly is not the only way. Never the less, it is a way and it is mine.

I believe that the power exchange that I'm looking for is not generally 'role-played'. Sure I suppose you could add a Daddy/Teacher element to it, if that's a turn on - I'll play along, I'm not in this just for my own pleasure.

The point is I don't have to pretend the things I enjoy and share with friends (who happen to be submissive). I am skilled with rope, I don't pretend to be. I am physically strong and skilled at grappling and submission. I like the struggle, I like when she fights to her last ounce of strength so she knows she's in good hands. These things are a part of me, not a fantasy that I imagine myself to be.

Knowing that about myself, how could I feel the need to ramp up my messages with false bravado. Especially since I know that unless you want it and put yourself in a consensual situation with me, nothing will happen. So why pretend like I can do anything to you from where I'm sitting.

Better to be real, and act like a man.

Agree?

8/16/2009 8:28:03 PM

Something occurred to me while browsing profiles.

I've read a lot of 'dominant' profiles and would like to share a belief that I only recently was able to word. Although I've had it stewing for a while.

Someone saying that they are naturally dominant because they like to get their way, is like saying "I'm in the water, I must be a fish." - Everyone likes to get their way. There are some who would argue, but I know that few dislike getting their way.

Have you ever heard: "Darn, that's exactly what I wanted! crap..." ?

Not likely.

The ability to bitch and complain in order to get your way - does not inclusively and automatically make you 'dominant'. I would go as far to say the only thing that it certainly makes you is a complainer and bitchy. No one or two qualities make you dominant, or submissive for that matter.

It is a choice - one that I feel you must be able to back up with a lot of internal fortitude. Doms and Subs alike must start from a strong base (whether they are experienced or not).

There is always a natural inclination to be either the whipper or the whipped. The teacher or the student... But that natural inclination can not be established from the universal want of getting our own way.

That's all for now.

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mona

MOORDON

Age: 45

Stamford, Connecticut