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I'm the type of person that you would never think would be entering a profile on a site like this, but as I've gotten older, I've become more interested in role playing and exploring the more sensual and erotic aspects of power dynamics in relationships.
As I've reflected about my beliefs about power and how it should be used, the principle thing that I've discovered about myself is that I like to use power for a common good, and that along with power comes a great responsibility to use the power wisely and judiciously. Within my professional life, that means using power to share a vision, organize those around me, and guide them to attain the vision. Within my personal life, it's a little more complex, since within an interpersonal relationship the boundaries aren't as clear, and so there has to be much more intricate and complex communications between the parties involved.
Ultimately, what I've discovered is that open, honest, and clear communications are the basic foundation when exploring a relationship that involves power exchange. Revealing your own "kinks" to someone takes both a great deal of courage as well as good introspective and communication skills. Courage is required to actually examine your own desires, and to accept them even if they may be in conflict with the "socially acceptable" image you have of yourself. The introspection is required to know yourself well enough to be able to know your desires and your boundaries. And communication is key because you have to be able not only to communicate your own desires and boundaries, but also be able to listen, hear, accept, and even embrace what your partner is communicating to you, even when it might be something you have difficulty accepting.
More often than not, people take on a role and ignore the parts of themselves that don't fit the role. For me, I want to know the entire person, and to understand the parts of them that fit the role they want to play as well as the parts of them that don't exactly fit the role they want to play. What I have discovered about myself is that I enjoy using power to help others achieve their desires. Within my professional life, my "peak experiences" have been when I've been able to guide a team of people to reach a common goal.
Within my personal life, the "peak experience" I envision for myself is to have a relationship where there is a level of communication and understanding so deep that I understand the subconscious desires of my partner, and I'm able to liberate these subconscious desires, by instructing her and guiding her, and ultimately creating a safe and secure environment where she can explore those desires. My ultimate peak experience would be to help her discover her own "peak experience". The ultimate turn on for me would for both of us to help each other achieve our "peak experiences".
If any of this makes sense and appeals to you, drop me a line, and let's chat.
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