DavidVikram

In My life I have encounter a variable types of submissive whom have their individual characteristics.
all submissives falls in the realm of being a subordinate role, Yet  I have noticed that even tho some of these submissive do not take too well to the idea as being a in such a role. Yet they find them self's drawn to it. As such being a doormat, what is a doormat?, for a vanilla it simply means someone you step on and some one whom has a very low self esteem. But in the lifestyle it means something entirely different to a degree.

Such as a sense of modesty that is needed by being a submissive acceptance in seen in a lowly status. From that growing to learn as well as trust the owner.A good example of how the concept of submission is different between vanilla and lifestyle point of view.

1. Kneeling before a master could be seen in a vanilla point of view as being a doormat, yet in lifestyle and in the eyes of a submissive it seems natural.

2.Inspection, in the eyes of a vanilla they would state you are being treated as a animal, and yet in the lifestyle it is how you should be treated. Would you as a submissive expect anything less?.

3.Begging/groveling/permission. In the point of view of a vanilla person this is the max ideal doormat. As to you a submissive it is ideal way of treatment something you as a submissive desire very deeply to preform, a primal need that a submissive cant explain.
Would you as a submissive desire to change that?

So I ask you as submissive what is a doormat?. Of-course most submissive have their own personal Idea of their own fantasy of being dominated .But eventually you will do all of it. Why because you will expect noting less then being dominated even the way. Does that make you a doormat. Again everyone has their opinion just not you a submissive.As a Master, I expect those and more. So will other dominants. In short do not worry about the what a doormat is, just follow your instincts. It is after all you, if the life of a submissive is what you desire in your heart go for it. The heart needs what it needs.

My advice do not measure things in the lifestyle by using a vanilla ruler. Learn about it, have a open mind, take your time and enjoy your self, as always remember your place.Cheers!

surrender

I have noticed a singular question among submissive which has always been constant and at time leads you all in to trouble.which is "How do i surrender?" or "how do i know he is right?". Which leads to more fears of being led astray and even the fear of losing your self. The image of any submissive mind (for new subs) is the image portrayed in most bdsm porn sites where it is a 24/7 orgy without the understanding that is just the tip of the iceberg.

In truth its more then that, it is a relationship like another with a slight difference where the master leads and the slave follows.communication and trust is very vital, why?, submissive are afraid and I don't blame them, to surrender is a hard thing to do, you could say a leap of faith.

As My previous blog stated that you should not only learn what your master is teaching you but also your who your master is. That is key always has been. Take your time to learn this and I promise you it will help in the long run.Then comes the other question like example: "how will he fit into my life?' or "do i need to abandon my current life?". No not really, think about it for a moment would you be happy without a master?, in-short what I am saying is you have a empty slot in the center of life which is empty, you have always known that.As for your life it will change for the better, a rewed sense of confidence, self assured sense of well being and etc. In short it will be raw power as an extension from your owner you will feel him.

There have been many submissive whom have lost their way, some with fear they end up getting married to live with a over consuming need to be with her kind.Bound down by the slave's responsibilities to her family. Or a slave that has been discarded due to what she looks like, That one erks Me the most, the most beautiful part in a slave in My opinion is her submission. A total hard-on for Me, noting gets Me as aroused or as interested a submissive slave. So slave girl not all Master seek simple beauty but a complex submission and mind that has much prospect to fulfill decadent needs.

Then comes the third kind of slave, the one whom has just stopped trying yet sticks around with some flicker of a hope of being of use. A slave like that is going no where if you still carry fear from the past, I have met a few some in real life and in chat rooms, setting preference to find that ideal master. Most common once are older master, or a more creative master and the list goes on. And with that a slave if filled with spite, No one can change the mind of another person unless they want too. It is a common mistake all women make in the life or vanilla.Trust Me when I say this a older master will look for younger flesh if that's the case, secondly if that master is into looks then what really matters he is not good enough to be a master, third sexual gratification from a image in your mind is fun but wont it be better to feel it on your flesh. Fear is the usual suspect, always has been. don't give in to fear girls strive to try don't give up.
Remember you are a beauty to behold your submission has value. Forget those preferences and focus on understanding with whom your speaking to real/chat, Give benefit of doubt. Remember We master are humans too and if your expecting something big from the 1st meet and fall short, that's you and your loss. And with that I bid you all a safe play and have fun.

Fetish

[-ish, fee-tish]

1.any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.

2.Psychology . any object or non-genital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

Each one of these fetishes for example: humiliation is to teach a slave humility and a better acceptance in her status. No its not as simple as it sounds for it can help a slave as well as hurt a slave's self esteem which personally is not a good thing either for the master or slave.

A proper understanding is required by the master over the subject in question. These tools in the arsenal of a master belt is to promote a better acceptance of a submissive inferiority and educating her of female inferiority.

The goal of any master is to instill a sense of well being in the slave mentally as well as in a physically it is important for the owner to keep close watch over the slave. Giving her re-assurance and goals to strive for to be a better slave. Of-course lets not forget the fun aspect of all these.

There are slaves out there have a unique fascination in certain fetishes and some whom don't. It is always important like in any relationship to be open and ask questions. I personally have noticed that sub-missives just don't ask questions. I have to say girls do ask them.

Why?. Most slave either experienced or in-experienced tends to read up about the lifestyle yet forget to learn about the master, I am disappointed when a slave does that, it shows a lack of experience even when some are experienced . girls learn about the master don't expect to just be told what to do, remember your not a robot so don't behave like one.

Remember being in a relationship is fun, either up or down its always something we all look forward to. As a slave it is your task to learn not only what the master is teaching but also the master. After all he is learning you. I hope this brief blog gives you an insight in being a better submissive as well as better understanding of what fetishes are used for. have fun.

Finding the true slave.

What is a true slave?. A question many Dominants have always strived for to find the ultimate perfection in submission and obedience. From My experience a slave is made, or should I rightly put it mold into. For a slave is born a slave, like clay just needs the right pair of hands to mold into a master piece.

We have sought after that, hell even the submissives had their own opinions on that subject. Thus I say to you perfection is in the eye of the beholder as in the owner. As for the submissive well they do have their fantasies of a ideal master, what sub doesn't imagine one that matches par with fantasy. Unfortunately fantasy is just that fantasy, every woman/girl out there wants prince charming rich as well as handsome to just sweep them off their feet alas reality is cruel.

Every slave girl I have chatted with or met have often claimed they are obedient follow commands without any problems or even misbehavior. I can tell you with a level of certainty that doesn't exist, Robots do and slave are not robots. Why such a claim simple, slaves are flesh and blood. Secondly it never is that simple.

A slave has lived most of her life as a free woman, until she gets her privacy by herself in a room then she removes the mask of a free woman and opens the little box she has hidden deep in her psyche. There she fantasies of submission and the allure of the whip. So when she does lets say gets involve in a relationship with a master, there are still two sides of her one the free woman (whom has always taken the drivers seat), two the slave (whom only comes out when its safe). As a Master, My self I have had a few slaves with a few years and I can tell you its not that simple.

It starts out small things that might erk her, can be almost anything from having a play date to just saying a wrong word. Still it would bother them but they usually just sweep it under the rug. Until it just builds and builds. Pop! you see a whole new side of the slave girl, the true side anger, rage, conflict (with her self or your idea's). It can be just about anything. A female lovely creatures are driven by their emotions well who isn't. You might consider such misbehavior as a No-no, but I say to you that the best part.

Why?, well thats when she is most vulnerable, her emotions and thoughts all mixed together into a chaotic mesh of confusion as well as the free woman side conflict with the new outlook.Stay the course be calm and collective., let her scream, shout even swear like a sailor, she may even run away, log off from her PC, run to her room or any number of things.She will fight you or her free woman side will. Until the slave side accepts her self as one. Don't fear she will come back, she will feel guilty, confused or even angry with her conduct. You must stay calm and in-control of your self, for this a good thing she is learning to surrender. Mind you its no easy feat, she will beg for an apology, she will be confused and feeling very vulnerable. It is up to us to take charge and be dominant in this situation, No not by giving her a hug and saying "awww its OK". Thats a big mistake, why you ask?, she is a slave and how do we dominant show our affection to a slave. By being true to our self, she has misbehaved and she needs to be punished, in-fact she expects it. tell her to stand by the wall facing it, tell her to remain there until you return. Then leave the room and try to get all that negative energy out of you.

Let her stay in that position as long as you want, the point of the punishment is to show that you do care,love and still her owner.And that's My friends is how the first step is taken, it is a long journey but I am sure you are worth the effort and time.

I was watching from many places that most whom are in the lifestyle are in it for the kink of it, taking the kink into a hedonistic levels without purely understanding that sexual use as well as other fetishes are tools to be used by the master to better train the submissive to surrender her self. Yet I see these submissives just revel in the decadents of lust and wild abandonment.

Where is the desire to submit?, to surrender her self and understanding purely that she exist to give pleasure to her owner and to how ever the owner sees fit. Its only proper, for those submissives understand this that is your purpose the need that drives you to seek a dominant. If you cant accept that then you are in the wrong place.

Tittles, Why are submissives so engrossed with tittles?. How can one measure what it is a slave and what is a submissive?. is both seeking the same thing. enventualy doesnt a sub/slave submit. Forget the tittles and focus on being the very thing you were born to be, accept the role that has graced upon you. Accept the owners guidance and who he is, for that is what you will become as a extension of the owner.

well this is My two sense.

been on a couple of dates with a few subs, I found that they were very new had little or no understanding what it means to be a submissive, always hung down to tittle's like slave, sub or just adjoining the two.

how can a sub be a slave or a submissive without being led by a master/dominant. After all that is what We are there for. To guide, educate and train as to bring out the true submissive to better understand her self and to find the will as well courage to surrender with trust, humility, acceptance and the need to serve with pride.

I hope soon I will be able to find such a girl to share My will and desires to own and to have a perfect masterpiece of My making. For you see a submissive is made, Crafted by the dominant to his liking to encourage the submissive to open her self in her most vulnerable side to be naked before the dominant and know she is cared for, protected without negative judgement.

well this is My two sense.