If I Lead, Will You Follow?
I am a single white
Dominate man, you could say a Master. I joined backdrop for the first
time some 22 years ago. Taken many classes and attended many BDSM
events over the years, I have even designed some adult toys. The public
scene is not my favorite. I enjoy controlling for a positive effect. I
want a woman that is willing, and will listen to a whisper. I can guild
both inside the lifestyle and in normal life as we explore what is
wanted.
Does
on line work, no!
Can
we make it work, maybe?
If
you are phone phobic, lets not even start.
Almost
everyone tells me that they are intelligent, and almost 10 % of you are
correct.
Men
and women are different, if we dont agree here, lets not start
Ok,
Time to start the balance.
Most
men and lots of woman are visual. You dont need a photo right away.
But to be taken seriously, at least a brief description should be
exchanged in the first hour.
If
you have a photo and its not of you, good bye, thank you for playing.
If your photo looks just like you do, 20 years ago with 3 hours of a
beauty salon help, You have cast the first lie. Then when I read that
you are looking for an honest man, my level of respect for you goes
below zero.
Next
what do you do and what is your background.
Also
what is you experience in BDSM? A hint or two of what you might like
or are looking for.
Tell
of your life; number of patents held, number of ex-husbands, number
of kids, how you feel about the last movie you saw, how work is going
for you, pets, best toy as a child, number of brothers and sisters,
favorite game, hobbies, current book you are reading, last vacation,
how involved you are with the local community, one or two deal
breakers, one or two qualities that you hope to find in someone new,
why you are looking, something that makes you vulnerable to say.
Say
things as if your words were the bait of your line of what you are
fishing for.
If
you are fishing for a jerk, talk like a jerk, but then dont blame
him. If yopu are fishing for a man talk like a woman, if you are
fishing for a Top talk like a bottom, If you are fishing for a
Master, talk like a sub. If you are fishing for a good Master talk
like a good sub.
Dont
play games. I will wait until you prove you are a Master then I will
act like a sub is a game, what if we both played that game?
Answer
question in a way to leave the door open for him to answer the same
question. Ask question as you answer them about you.
Dont
ask for 3 hours answers that talk 5 days to explain, likw exactly
what do you want in every way possible. This is just the beginning of
the end, and should be learned as time goes on during as few weeks.
Dont
jump into the future, but be open to a future. What you might be
comfortable doing now is different than in a few months.
These
guidelines are bilateral and apply to both, and getting to know each
other is just that, not a goal of ruling out each other.
Now
the process is started. Decide if you want to move to the phone or
not. If yes make it happen, If not part in a nice way.
