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Dominant Couple, 42, Palm Desert, California
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Male Dominant, 49, Orange, California
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Female Dominant, 42, South West
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About CanYouMakeMeFly
I am intelligent, independent, passionate, outgoing, confident & submissive at my core.
I have no interest in game players, BS, dishonesty, liars, married, attached, or submissive men.
If your an experienced Dominant who knows who you are and what you want without playing games, we should talk.
Relocation is not an interest.
Update....,
I've been asked what it is I seek in the One..,:
A natural connection, chemistry, and intensity. Intelligent, ambitious, outgoing, independent, caring, respectful, honest, open communicator, a natural Dominant.
I'm not looking to turn my life over to someone to control.., my desire is in turning over my body, mind, and heart to One who embraces my spirit while setting me in flight.
I don't need a Dominant in my life ~ it is what I desire.
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Through the course of spending more time with a 'vanilla' friend & getting to know him more intimately.., it seems more and more as though I'm allowing him to unleash what appears to be natural Dominant tendencies. Sharing with this friend the safety, acceptance, & openness that allows him to experience something that comes so naturally from within him. Welcoming that part of him that in the vanilla world has not been able to be expressed & explored.
It has been mind blowing to see unfold.
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Yes, my profile is lacking pics. They were up for awhile then I thought about switching some.
Ever since..., I haven't been able to get any pics posted on my profile and still not sure why.
So.., someday maybe they'll be back. If I figure out the mystery!
And yes, I'm still going to be around here - checking emails & staying in touch with friends. Oh.., and reading the forums which I've found to be great!
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A reality....,
there are some men who are real - very real.
And when you cross paths with one and it seems only natural to see what tomorrow brings, it's an incredible thing.
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Okay..., yes - I hate housework. What the hell is so funny about that? 
I'm a submissive - that in no way means I'm looking to clean someone's house. Hell I pay to have my own house cleaned. I have no desire to clean someone else's. That being said, it's only fair to mention it as an 'interest' I hate isn't it?
So.., if your looking for someone to clean your house - when they get done with your's - send em' my way!
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I'm on a rant! Run, run far, run fast if you don't want to read my rantings. I'm trying to be fair and forewarn you!
There is something to be said about attraction to another. We all find others attractive on various levels and find various things attractive.
When interacting with one where the initial contact is via an online environment, many ask for a picture immediately - others get to know one another and then exchange pics if not already posted.
WHAT is the point of sharing pics that are not current or do not at least resemble what you look like today or at least capable of looking like before the likelihood of meeting face to face?
Do you think that everyone will say. 'oh but he is so nice, he is so caring, he is blah, blah, blah or he has blah, blah, blah.?' My reality is, it's an immediate 'he was not truthful about his appearance - why should I trust him on any other level?' He is not in control of himself, self-confident enough, to be 'real' in every aspect of who, how, & what he presents of himself - why would I consider extending any further trust when the one thing you cannot hide is who you are face to face and if what you've been portraying yourself as is real..., or merely part of the game played.
A simple, 'this is an older pic' and a brief update on how your appearance may have changed gives way to 'be open - he's telling you this isn't recent' - which starts things off on a whole different path vs ending them before they get started.
See.., told you I'm on a rant. Three times now recently this has happened and I'm bout ready to start being a bitch and simply turning around and leaving instead of being polite, meeting, continuing conversations, and seeing if they EVEN mention the fact they look nothing like their pic before deciding it truly is time to end the meet.
Urghhhhhh. What is up with that? What is to be gained?
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How true hindsight is often 20/20.
It's always good to take time to reflect on the past. It's always good to have plans and dreams for the future. And it's always good to take time to see where one is in life today, where they were yesterday, and if that is where they need to be to get to the tomorrows of their dreams.
I look back over the journey of the past 3 years and where my life is today and I know I'm on the right path. I look closer at where I've been the past 1 1/2 years and realize how far I'd ventured off the right path though at the time, you could not have convinced me otherwise. I can't have regrets about where I could be had I not gotten sidetracked.., I can only learn the lessons offered during that time and use them to further my journey down the path intended for me.
The key to it all.., be true to yourself & follow your soul. |
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To those who think simply by emailing and asking for pics..., I will send some - don't bother.
I'm not here to trade pics randomly. Those who know me.., know I'm real. Those who take the time to get to know me.., see I'm real. Very real.
So.., pic collectors - be gone. Don't waste my time, nor yours.
A thanks to those who know me, and those who have taken the time to get to know me without being jerks.
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Lessons never cease...,
Back in touch with a friend tonight.., I'm asked several questions. Our friendship has been slowly unfolding.., somehow finding our paths crossing time & time again. He asks.., what are my priorities -
My reply in part..,
Happiness & living true to myself.., which includes sharing & surrendering parts of myself to one who can welcome, accept, challenge, support & encourage me to be all that I can be.
A thought occured as I said this.., and I shared with him.., it is my inner self.., who I am at my core.., that I desire to have nutured, supported, encouraged, uncovered, unwrapped and allowed to fly. It's not whats on the outside. I've been told many times.., I'm not a doormat. I'm not meek, weak, incapable of making it in the world on my own, wanting someone to decide everything and take care of everything because I can't or won't. I am quite the opposite of that.., until you dare look inside and see the depths of what lies waiting to be shared and set free to fly.
The smile said it all.
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Lesson for the day....,
I NEED TO CATCH UP ON EMAIL REPLIES!!!
I have seemed to have fallen behind..., and it drives me nuts to not reply. Some are easy enough for a quick reply.., others I tend to sit back, reread, check the profile again, and then respond accordingly. Seems to be more of those lately.., which is not a bad thing at all, except when one does find the time as often as one would like.
Being the dba I am.., I find myself wishing I could 'tweak' the email system 'just a bit' to make mail management easier! Hard to track prior email exchanges between profiles, sort by profile, and no way to make 'notes' on prior emails/etc. I guess where there is a will there is a way!
So today..., I shall try. Or maybe I need to seek out a sub boy to become my secretary.., and someday..., O/our toy. (yes.., I did say that. Didn't I?)
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There is a difference between..,
Knowing what you seek and finding yourself venturing down a shared path with one who brings you happiness, smiles, & incredible times. Staying true to yourself and your desires. Never settling.
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Thinking you know what you seek.., venturing down multiple paths trying to find that happiness, the genuine smiles from deep inside, and never quite having those incredible times. Not being true to self, nor anyone else. Always settling, always juggling, always 'on' to stay ahead of the game. Yet never quite experiencing those feelings that make you feel so incredible inside.
The difference?
How you feel at the end of the day. Is the emptiness still there? Are you mentally/emotionally on empty because you find yourself trying to keep up and keep it all straight? Do you wake each day knowing you're being true to yourself and those in your life?
When you smile..., is it from deep inside?
When you look in the mirror..., are you proud of who you see?
When you lie down at nite.., do you sleep soundly - as you have before?
Do you know...., or think you know?
Do you live.., or simply exist?
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Fresh perspectives come with clarity.
Clarity comes when you allow for quiet.
Quiet comes when you stop, breath, and let go of it all.
Letting go of it all comes when you realize you are not in control of anything other than your thoughts, feelings, & reactions to what comes in to your world.
Let go.., and just 'be' all that you desire to be.
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It's been many days.., many lessons learned.
The most important of which ~ is that it truly is what it is and not what it was.
There comes a time when it's best to leave parts of the past where they belong.., in the past.
And there comes a time when it's best to take the best of the past and simply see what tomorrow brings.
There is something surreal about having a calm come over you that centers you to the depths of your being. So easily taking you to a place no one else ever has.
Take each day for what it offers.., enjoy each moment ~ even more when spent with those you love.., and always "be true to yourself and follow your soul."
oh.., and this was definately a Sunday morning that left no question that it's time.
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Ever have one of those days?
Life's been crazy lately. Par for the course and it to shall pass.
I've learned several things in my short time on CM. First off.., tonight I check my mail - and what do I see - a RESPONDED box! Woooohoooo make my day! Now I can tell who I haven't replied to! Thanks site owners! 
Secondly.., there are some great people on this site who have made me feel very welcome. I can't say I've encountered this type of interactions as a whole on any other alternative lifestyle sites.
I appreciate the welcome, the positive comments about my profile and journal enteries, (and my toes!) and those who share their insight, perspectives, and knowledge with me. I appreciate those whom I've had to respond that our interests aren't a match being gracious and respectful.
Anyway.., a great thing to find in a site that a close friend told me about some time ago. Thanks 'Me'..., from ~just me.
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Lessons at every turn...,
I continue to learn there are many facets to the D/s and BDSM lifestyle. Many who openly share their true desires and turn-ons.., many who share only those that are more commonly sought while harboring the reality of their true kinks & desires.
At what point does one ever really know just how far one's interests & desires truly lie? What are the limits if any..., what are the risks playing without true disclosure..., just how much trust do you place in the unknowns with another?
Someday I will again fly...,
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Lessons exist within the smallest of things..,
This morning when checking my emails I learned something as well as found myself smiling.
I learned I can't easily track when I reply to an email or make 'notes' about a profile and I'm playing catch up - sometimes poorly. Bare with me if you will..,
The reason for the smile?
I have received emails from many who compliment me on the conciseness and clarity of my profile and knowing what it is I seek. When I posted my profile.., I questioned myself on how & what I stated. Know what it's like to feeling 'too demanding' for being a submissive at your core? Talk about constant conflict.
Anyway..., the emails give me reassurance that I can 'tell it like it is' and that others appreciate one who knows what they seek and clearly state it.
~ thanks to those who dropped me notes.
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Another day..., another opportunity to learn.
When one spends time reflecting on the past.., often you realize it was not reality..,
How does one live peacefully when there are so many lies to keep straight and so much juggling to do?
Isn't that simply existing.., not living?
One may be intelligent enough to go through the motions of appearing to be a Dominant, intelligent enough to manipulate ones mind in to believing they are a caring Dominant and you are the one they care for, but in the end.., one who is deceptive to their core will never find himself considered a true Dominant, nor respected as a true Dominant is.
Rewriting Sunday mornings..., in to something real. |
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Another day, another lesson...,
Someone here pointed out to me.., no one can 'make me fly'. One can show me how and unclip my wings.
Very true statement. |
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Life lessons...,
"Well, people change and evolve...I know I certainly have and continually do."
Lesson one...,
Give them a chance to show you who they truly are and if they have changed and evolved, despite the chances of being hurt once again. If you don't, you'll always wonder 'what if'.
Lesson two...,
When they show you who they truly are..., believe them.
Lesson three...,
True strength and power lies in ones character. Not in their words. |
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