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I did not write the following. I took it from someone but it does really show how I feel.

For me, submission and D/s is not just about what He tells me to do, it is the little surprises you can put into every day, if He has to work late or has a particularly hard workout session, it is the bath that you run 2 minutes before He gets home, or the massage you offer to revive His aching muscles, the text messages to let Him know how much you want Him essentially, the culmination into a feeling that when you look at one another, whether she is sore from His sadism or not, that there is no where in the world either of us would rather be, than right here.

A girl can be trained to keep the schedule He wants, to come when summoned and to cum on command, but if the little things are missing, I don't see the relationship as fulfilling to them both. I often call it Jin and Yang, both parties need to be putting in, and while I do not diminish the role of the sub (it is really not easy at times) I feel the sub should realize just how much thought and energy is expelled by her Sir, to keep her on track and her best interests at heart.

Repayment for this does not just come in submission, or to me it shouldn't. She should care as much for Him as He does for her, and show it at every opportunity, (yes even when she's sore or feeling like death) It is those moments that define the D/s and keep it strong.