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First things first, just so no one can say Im not upfront about this subject. Im married to a nilla man who has no interest in BDSM. Yes he knows of my interests, and knows that I will be with another. Although he will be aware of it, he is not going to participate in my Ds relationship. Im not seeking to find someone to replace him. I love him and will never leave him for another. If this is an issue, then now is the time to stop reading and move on.

Im a submissive woman, who would like to meet a Dominant male to spend time with, get to know, and hopefully start a Ds relationship with. Would love to learn more about BDSM, experience new things, test my limits, and see if I can reach the full extent and depth of my submission. I hope to be able to shed my inhibitions, open myself to my submissive tendencies, and become the slut that my Dom so desires me to be. Doing things that so many feel are unspeakable, relishing in them and the fact that I did them with my Dom, for his pleasure.

Although others may choose a poly or triad relationship this is not something I seek. I choose not to be in a triad relationship with another submissive, for personal reasons. If a Dominant is in a similar situation as my own, or has an outside relationship, that is not Ds related, I do not see that as being a hinderance. As for playing with others, that is something that would have to be discussed, and decided upon when and if the time were to come.

Im not perfect, Im a normal average person, with flaws, just like everyone else. Like many I have insecurities. Im doing my best to learn to control them, and not allow them to control me. It is a long term process though, and at times I even fail. Many have said Im sexy, not because of what I look like, but because of my personality, my attitude. Whether you feel this way or not, I will let you decide for yourself. I am 5 7, have green eyes, and my breasts are 44 DDs. No they are not perfect and perky, but they definitely are real. Yes I do have a face pic, and if after we speak, I feel comfortable giving it to you, I will do so. Im working on self improvement, and am going to continue to do so to help my personal growth. Im overweight, not because of genetics, but because of procrastination on my part. No this is not a good trait for a sub to have, and that is why Im working on it. So if a barbie is what you seek, please move on to another profile, because Im definitely NOT A BARBIE, and I know I never will be.

Im NOT a pain slut, light spankings, and a few other types of light pain are acceptable, but pain isnt what I am interested in. Although I have often been told that I have many slave tendencies and qualities, I myself dont see them. I suppose it could be true, but that is only for a Dominant to truly decide. When I make the choice to serve a Dominant it will be because both of us wish for me to do so, and I have earned the priviledge to do so.

Control for me is the biggest part of Ds, that I need. Entrusting another for my care, safety, and well being, can be difficult in any relationship, but even more so in a Ds one.To allow another to guide me through the many aspects of Ds, to teach me, and to share in this life with me, is extremely enticing. Giving and receiving attention is another aspect I desire, I enjoy knowing Im giving pleasure to my Dom, because in doing so I receive enormous amounts of pleasure in return. For me mutual pleasure is an integral part of any relationship, because when you no longer share pleasure the relationship becomes stale. Therefore Im very open to trying new things, or exploring others further in new ways, in order to keep a relationship fresh and vibrant.

If all you can think about is sex, then please move on. Although I realize sex can be an important aspect of any relationship, I need my relationship to be about so much more. That does not mean I do not need to know how much I am desired, I very much need to feel my Doms desire for me, as I will strive to make sure he knows how much I desire him. It just means that sex is not the most important part of a relationship for me. I also need a Dominant willing to encourage, enhance, and engage me in my submission, so that it is allowed to flourish. If a Dom cannot do these things with his sub, then something is inherently wrong. Last but not least of course, is a mental connection, after all the brain is one of the biggest organs in the body, and when stimulated in the right ways, the results can be extremely fulfilling, for both the Dom and sub.

I have had very few real life Ds experiences. Of those I have had, many of them turned out to be very unfulfilling. My experience with sceening, toys, and devices in Ds has been very limited. As for serving, Ive only truly served one in a Ds fashion in real life. So if I should seem naive about something, I probably am. Throughout my Ds journey, there have been many different learning experiences, although most of which were very limited, all of them have taught me valuable lessons.

My ideal Dominant would be one who is willing to teach, explore, learn, experience, and LOVE, with me, in a Ds relationship. Someone to help me grow in my submission, to push my limits, and who will allow me to make mistakes, while helping me learn from them and how to not make them again. A Dom who will stay and work at the relationship through the ups and downs. One who will listen when I have an issue, and realize even if He does not see the issue, it is valid if I say I have it. One who punishes or disciplines, justly and fairly, because the worst punishments are those that are not earned by those receiving them.

In Ds I believe both the Dom and the sub are always growing, learning, and experiencing all things together, just in different ways. Each receives their own reward, and fulfillment from shared experiences as well as from each other. Both take something from the relationship that helps to complete them as a Dom or sub. That both are responsible for whether or not the relationship works or fails, as it takes both to keep a relationship alive. Both have to be willing to put forth the effort, time, and commitment. Neither Dom nor sub, should make promises they know they will not keep. If there is no trust, honesty, respect, or communication, a relationship is doomed before it begins. These things Ive listed help to build a solid foundation which is necessary for any long standing relationship. If youre serious about wanting a true Ds relationship, then taking the time to build one wont be something that is a hardship for you.

*On a side note to the paragraph above, is it wrong for a woman to want to be wooed? Or to want a Man to treat her like a lady? To show her when He has an interest in her, thus inciting in her excitement. Causing her to become enamored with Him, to desire Him, and to crave every aspect of Him with her entirety. With a Dom when He does this, it allows the sub to see the man whom she will be submitting to in a more basic way. Our history has many stories of chivalry, and Men who practiced it. If it could work for them, why can it still not work today? Is it wrong for a submissive woman to want these things?*

The longer we communicate, the more you will learn about me, who I am, and what it is I desire in a true Ds relationship. If after reading this long profile, you still have an interest in getting to know me, please feel free to send me a message. As long as its not a one liner, or one that is egotistical, I will respond back as soon as Im able.