Not sure why I even bother making a profile, when the majority of people here ask me what I'm looking for, among other details that are in my profile.
If you don't read profiles, just tells me you are not serious. If you are a sub/slave then wouldn't you want to read the profile first so that you can make an informed decision on whether to contact the person or not?
You claim that you are wanting to give your life to someone. Shouldn't you know as much about them as possible?
Goodness.
And you can lose the attitude when I am NOT going to answer your questions that have already been answered. Why answer? You didn't read the profile, what makes me think you are going to read the response? LOL
Thought it was time to add something to my journal. I seen someone had posted on here that they had taken a quiz, so I followed the link and took it also. I think it is cute and fairly accurate.
I was asked Recently, what I am looking for in a lifestyle.
This was my reply
I’m mostly looking for a healthy vanilla relationship where we are compatible and share interests Like eating out together, going to movies or theater, or galleries, or scenic walks, day trips, and occasional vacations where I have the Deciding vote yet I do encourage discussion, and I’m not looking for someone that is slavish. I want each of us to have our own valued roles. It’s a little like a 50s housewife situation for the male in that you would do the cleaning, laundry, and fix it stuff but you also need to contribute Financially to the household. I enjoy cooking, so I would mostly take that on myself.
Keep in mind that I expect my partner to do this out of love not out of a sense of being threatened or Forced.
Rather because you want to see me, happy and make my life easier.
As far as play goes, I would be the top in bed for vanilla stuff and I would expect you to take care of my needs. That also means you pleasing me without you necessarily achieving satisfaction beyond that. Chastity is important to me with my boy. I want him to save up his juices, so no masturbation. Role-play is fun and that may be part of it. I also enjoy spanking my boy occasionally for fun and if he has been lazy rude or naughty, there would be a punishment. But I won’t put up with a boy that just misbehaves because he likes being punished. That would be the end of the relationship. I don’t like stress and I don’t want stress from my partner, I want him to make my life easier not more complicated. I would cherish him and protect him, this includes using my witchy powers and highly developed intuition.
There would also be an opportunity for him to help me run my business, if he has aptitude
If you do not meet my must-haves, don't contact me. Don't send "if only you didn't want ___ I'd fit" messages. This play for manipulation/sympathy/exceptions doesn't work on me, and shows you don't respect me or other women as people who know themselves better than you think you know them.
Don't lie about about reading my profile when you clearly did not. It's extremely obvious you didn't, and lying is a bad look.Also don't lie about your age, ethnicity, etc. It doesn't increase your chances, and if I find out, I'm done. Yet again, respect my choice to not choose you.
Male wives, sissification, forced bi, and forced fem
(from Fet)
This is a long overdue update to a previous post. It felt kind of vague when I first wrote it 6 years ago, but with new insight, I'm going to attempt a bit of clarification.
Why am I looking for a male wife?
I only experience initial primary sexual attraction to a very narrow subset of people (thanks, demisexuality). It shortens the extremely lengthy process of friendship and emotional compatibility leading to sexual attraction.
To me, a male wife is more of a genderfluid, androgynous, or crossdressing AMAB who doesn't rigidly adhere to stereotypical gender roles in real life. Some buzzwords may include metrosexual or femboy. He finds enjoyment and comfort in incorporating stereotypically feminine roles, attitudes, and attire, just as I do on the masculine side of things. He craves the freedom that comes with true gender equality on all fronts. I think I have more in common with heteroflexible, bi, or pan guys (I, too, like men), but I'm definitely not turning away straight guys with a healthy mindset lol
Anyway, he's generally also more confident in himself and open-minded in regards to exploring gender identity and sexuality in kink as well. If not, he's actively working on eliminating misogyny, misandry, or elements of toxic masculinity that may be causing him to struggle in his life. There's no sissification, forced feminization, or forced bisexuality. If this is you, contact me :)
Why is sissification a hard no for me?
Unfortunately, there's an element of misogyny and mockery of women related to sissification. Before you say "not all sissies", please keep in mind that your counterparts are badly misrepresenting you. Personally, sissification gives me old-school minstrel vibes. A select few minstrels put on blackface and made a point to use it positively to honor and represent black people in a way that most white audiences had never experienced. Unfortunately, it was overwhelmingly used by white men to mock with offensive caricatures and harmful stereotypes for the pleasure of themselves and their audience.
Think hard about why sissification is so prevalent in a subset of domination that's supposed to be woman-positive. It concerns me because your extremely loud counterparts seek a dominant woman, yet appear to believe that being a woman is somehow inferior. Are they honoring women by honestly representing us, or are they using it as a way to mock us with caricatures of ourselves and harmful stereotypes? Are they using that internalized misogyny to fuel their humiliation kink and to entertain their audience so they can all get off to it?
(and before you come after me, I'm both black and a woman - so yes, I can make these comparisons and they are definitely fair)
When I see so many people who identify as sissies looking like they just stumbled home after drinking heavily and puking in the bushes at a frat party, it's disheartening. The makeup is clownish and smeared, the outfit is hideous, the wig is terrible and crooked...it's just a mess, and it truly hurts to see ourselves represented this way. It's humiliating to us and to them, and I understand that humiliation may be their kink, but their future dominant may not want to see someone dressed as a caricature of themselves. This is likely why sissification doesn't sit well with the majority of lifestyle dominants, and they may not be able to explain it past a basic "ew, no thanks."
Why are forced feminization and forced bisexuality a hard no for me?
There's misandry and aspects of toxic masculinity related to forced feminization and forced bisexuality. There's rarely any true "force" involved. Instead, there's a great deal of transferring emotional responsibility to the dominant to avoid feeling guilt for enjoying something they feel societal pressure to dislike because it's not considered "manly."
I am completely uninterested in incels, alphas, or whatever ultra-toxic pick-up artist crap is going on out there.
2017 version of this post, titled "Comparison: Male Wife vs. Male Partner in FLR"
To me, a male wife is more of a genderfluid or androgynous man who doesn't adhere to masculine stereotypes and has no issue with it. There's no need to feminize him as he's already naturally more feminine in mindset and/or body than society prefers. When in womenswear, he prefers looking as natural as possible and eschews excessively frilly "sissy" wear. He doesn't call himself a sissy, either, as the term has a negative connotation for me of "femininity deserves humiliation and mockery." He's generally also more confident in himself and open-minded in regards to exploring gender identity and sexuality in kink. In summary, if I tell this man he looks beautiful in a dress, he'd accept it as the compliment I intended. If this is you, send me a message.
On the other hand, a male partner is more stereotypically masculine and more reticent to explore gender identity and sexuality in kink without being "forced" to, e.g. forced bi, forced feminization, forced sissification. There's a great deal of transferring responsibility to the dominant to avoid feeling guilt for enjoying something they feel societal pressure to dislike because it's not considered "manly." It concerns me because they want a dominant woman, yet they believe being womanly is somehow inferior. In summary, if I tell this man he looks beautiful in a dress, he takes it as an insult or believes that I'm trying to humiliate him - which will either turn him on or repulse him. I'm not interested in this guy.
Stop contributing to the reason why "there aren't any dominant women out there who aren't pros or scammers." Yes, there are - and I'm one of them. By treating lifestyle dominants like we're empty-headed fetish dispensers, you increase the likelihood that we'll delete our profiles and find a hobby instead.
Seeking a long term serious relationship that incorporates regular discipline,
and any kink that exites You !
I have a kink for oral pleasing, and love it when strapped on a bed face up and my owner using my face to rub her hairy cunt on her juices flowing over my face until she comes drowning me in a gush. Then left there strapped and gagged until she again need to rub her dripping cunt on my face.
A dream scenario for me is to be the servant slave of a Dominant Lady who operates an online site where she act out dominance openly, using me as both servant and as prop for active and real bdsm-play online, real punsihing etc. I can be naked, in chains or kinky costumes according to wishes of Her onlookers. Restrained and Enforced play and domestic housework is a STRONG turn-on for me.
A Domme interested in experimenting with electric TENS stunning to add to the effeiciency of my education and mental impregnation, is interesting for me to be exposed to. A chastity cage wired with a tens stunning remote control, in combination with a buttplug electrode, to give pain without warning can reinforce mental programming.
I have ticked off some kinks and likings, but that is NOT in any way to be understood as a wishlist, it is just to indicate what I am prepared to enter into. Also I want to admit that after a vasectomy that turned a bit wrong, there is no need to to use contraception if you want good old fucking, but my dick isn't huge, but adding a realistic penis erector or strapon, I perform well and I can go on for long and repeatedly, and will even have my orgasms.
Your wearing kink and Power dressing is not important to me - that You want control, role reversal and ownership is. A vanilla-like relationship, even without kink, will fullfill me very much as long as I feel your leadership and control. Hopefully this demonstrates how I leave it to You to have it Your way.
The two main fetish kink-elements driving me are first serving in a FLR, and second being consensually exposed to mind manipulation developing and cementing my submissive personality.
There are things in my head I tell no one; cravings and desires that I hope you will know what to do with. The dark places in my mind that I am a bit ashamed to have exposed, but which I also very much want out in the open as the very base of a relationship, at least behind doors. Those are the things that I hope You will take from me. I want You to take those embarrassing kinks and turn them into something useful - for You!. The Woman I seek is an owner who like to work on my vulnerability, snake Her way into my mind, reinforce it as a way to make me dependent on Her. That way I also want to learn to love, admire and respect Her and get my fullfillment when I see and feel Her satisfaction in Her ownership and what she has turned me into. It is my belief that in a D/s relationship there should not be equality, and that the Womans ownership over her male and in Her household, should be for real and not play. Such role reversal may be an unrealistic wish but I do believe it to be attainable.
As for the framing in a possible relationship I am open to work in a Female Led Household as nothing more than your domestic, to be married, or any kind of arrangement that suits You,evenings, weekends or 24-7, including working as domestic servant in a bi-lesbian household chaste or cuckold. My understanding of work is that it is to be for real, not playing, but real usefullness and the main purpose for employing me. This has a strong erotic element for me, but if I am to serv Your erotic pleasures too that is for you to decide.
Up at a redonkulous hour working on an art project because the middle of the night always seems like the best time for it.
I just wish I had some pizza in the house!
And a fireplace.
Taking a minute to pause and miss a former partner. It's funny the things we miss about someone, often things we never mentioned to them. There was just never a good time to say, "I really like your snoring."
It's one of those nights where I can't sleep. I have created two new designs to relax and may try to sleep. Where is decent conversation when I need one?
Thanksgiving, a time for indulgence and revelry, found me exploring the fine line between culinary artistry and delightful mischief. Amidst the laughter and clinking glasses, I orchestrated a symphony of flavors that danced upon palates, teasing the senses with each decadent bite.
But oh, the evening held more than just a feast! Secrets whispered in candlelit corners, glances exchanged that spoke volumes, an air pregnant with unspoken desires. For isn't Thanksgiving a celebration of abundance in all its forms?
As the night wore on, amidst the echoes of laughter and the savoring of delicacies, I found myself contemplating the delightful blend of flavors and experiences that define true indulgence.
When you decide to approach me for consideration and I trial you, your role & goal is to acquiese to MY lifestyle/desires.
That "previous training" is moot to me. I give subzero fucks about what's easier for you & how you used to do things.
If you're just chasing the feeling you had with someone/something else then you're an addict, shifting the ideal from tacitly serving to satisfying your own urges and desires-- hence why you perpetually fuck up this elusive dynamic you long for. That will never be worth my time and/or effort.
Greetings to those who seek solace in the enigmatic dance of dominance and submission.
In the dimly lit corners where shadows and desires intertwine, there exists an allure—an unspoken symphony of wants and yearnings. Among these whispers, one finds echoes of opulence woven seamlessly into the fabric of seduction.
In the silence, where words remain unspoken, the essence of indulgence finds its sanctuary. No mention of material allure, for here, the exchange transcends tangible offerings. A mere glance, a subtle gesture—ciphers of devotion beyond the ordinary.
Let the mysteries linger, let desires bloom in secrecy. Within these veiled whispers lie the cravings that beckon a lavish devotion, where the allure of treasures isn't spoken but understood in the unspoken language of desire.
To those who navigate these shadows, know that the essence of submission lies not in explicit enticements but in the anticipation of the unspoken, the subtlety of desires shared in silence.
Stole this from Dr Gupta on CNN but I think it's helpfule advice on sites like this....
1. Understand the purpose of the app
These apps are not dating apps, per se.
“All they do is introduce you. That’s all they do,” Fisher said, adding that she prefers to call them “introducing” apps but jokingly admits the term probably won’t take off. “And then it’s incumbent on you to go out, meet the person. And the human brain is — we are — built to try and figure out who somebody is.”
2. Less is definitely more
Do not binge on the app. Your brain is not built for it.
“The brain, as you know, is built to cope with about five to nine choices,” Fisher said. “And then it’s cognitive overload — or what’s called the paradox of choice — and you choose nothing. You just get overloaded, and you choose nothing.”
She advised, “After you have met nine people — and I mean met, either through video chatting or in person met them — stop, get off the site.”
3. Climb out on the proverbial limb
Whether it’s in person or through video chat, get to know at least one of those five to nine people better.
“There’s good psychological data that the more you get to know somebody, the more you can like them and the more you can think that they are like you,” she said.
For 12 years, Fisher has conducted the Singles in America study, a survey based on the attitudes and behaviors taken from a demographically representative sample of 5,000 US singles between the ages of 18 to 98, funded by Match. It contains the question: Have you ever met somebody whom you initially did not find attractive and eventually fell in love with?
“Every year it’s gone up. This past year, 49% said, ‘Yes.’ They had originally started out going out with somebody they did not find attractive and eventually … fell madly in love with them,” she said. “You have to give the brain a chance.”
4. Think of reasons to say ‘yes’
Resist the tendency to remember the negative over the positive.
“The brain is built to remember the negative,” Fisher said, calling it a survival mechanism.
“So when you go on these introducing sites and you’ve just met somebody, you have very little information about them. So you overweight the information,” she said. “And you’ll say to yourself, ‘Ah, he likes cats and I like dogs. (It’ll) never work!’ Or ‘Ah, she’s wearing those bizarre brown shoes. I could never introduce her to my friends.’”
“Try and think of reasons to say yes,” Fisher said.
5. Don’t hurry, be happy
Take the time to learn about yourself as well as prospective partners.
“Every single part of the life cycle is slowing down,” Fisher said. “Childhood has gotten longer. Young adulthood has gotten longer. Middle age has gotten longer. And senior life has gotten longer. They are spread out.”
Members of Generation Z and millennials have pushed marriage later than previous generations, giving them time to discover who they are, what they want and what they don’t want, Fisher said. She called this process “slow love.”
“They’ve got this long period of ‘slow love’ in which they’re trying (people) out,” she said.
Now back to my actual profile here:
PLEASE DO NOT SEND ONE LINE MESSAGES AND PLEASE READ THIS SHORTENED PROFILE BEFORE WRITING. IT'S UNLIKELY THAT YOUR PROFILE WILL ADDRESS ALL THE ISSUES I MENTION HERE SO I MAY NOT WRITE TO YOU EVEN IF I LOOKED AT YOUR PROFILE EVEN IF WE MIGHT BE A GOOD FIT. IF YOU HAVE AN INTEREST OR THINK IT'S POSSIBLE WE COULD FIT IT WOULD BE A GOOD THOUGHT FOR YOU TO WRITE AND FIND OUT......
Because this site mangles punctuation and foreshortens some words I have tried to get around some of the issues as best I can. Please don't think we are illiterate and don't have good communications skills.
We suppose the best thing is to eliminate the majority of people on this site who don't fit with what we're seeking. That is not a judgement since not being right for us doesn't mean you're not right for many people here. We are seeking a slave or two who can be comfortable being owned by a fairly radically liberal Dominant man. We have cats and 2 Great Danes so pet allergies are a problem. We need to live with bdsm as the focus of our household so custodial children won't work. Even though many people think I am younger than my years I am old and probably only going to be able to function as a Master for another 15 years or so. Once a family is established we will seek another dominant to be mentored and groomed to provide continuity for the family but there are no guarantees. Even so I still expect a one hundred percent buy in and c0mmitment. That literally means NOTHING held back, total honesty and devotion. Anyone afraid of hard work, total honesty or keeping a daily written journal won't work out long run.
I've been a live in slave owner most of my adult life but still have a lot to learn. If you need someone who has all the answers or can tell you exactly what you'll be doing in a year that's not me. My experience is each relationship is unique and takes on a life of it's own meaning as we each grow and evolve together our path will open up in front of us but neither of us can know exactly where it leads until we're on it.
We are a sadistic male dominant Master and his masochistic but highly service oriented slave. We work hard at living bdsm full time and still have active careers and time for the vanilla world. We are very liberal, open minded, caring and dedicated to our way of life. Master is experienced and even skilled with over 50 years in bdsm communities and having owned live in slaves for most of that time. He is not judgemental and can probably address most any fetish or bdsm need you may have if he beleives you are capable of dealing with the outcome of living it as part of your way of life.
We seek open, honest, drama free and not jealous slaves to join us in creating a caring small bdsm poly family. We don't tolerate bigotry of any kind. The mantra of ALL OF US BEING ON THE SAME TEAM might explain a lot. We require an extraordinary amount of c0mmitment, complete honesty and devotion. The ability to trust and share everything going on for you is critical.
Together as a family I expect us all to work for common goals, be supportive of one another, always be excited and willing to explore further everything in bdsm. Adventuresome and self aware of your need to serve and live bdsm would be good. I am flexible and will consider slaves of any legal age or gender or situation as in couples, singles or even an existent poly family because everyone has something to offer that could be useful to this poly family at each stage in their lives. But do keep in mind I ask for and expect a lot from slaves, That means literally 100 percent from you whatever that turns out to be. We believe we offer a lot in return and if we connect this is an extraordinary opportunity for you and us.
Please write if you feel an interest. We hate to waste your and our time if you cant envision an older owner or being expected to stay in slave space mindset almost all the time. There is a lot that we havent said here but again in the interest of not wasting your time I will stop and have more to share if you have an interest. We always answer questions as honestly as possible, feel free to ask anything.
Single guys if your going hit me up , you should read the profile. While I do enjoy a masculine sub , you need to be in shape and submissive. Also if you dont like mutual oral, kissing . I'm not for you .
Hi
I'm looking locally for a person (s) to have regular lunch dates or coffee date here in NYC Manhattan or Brooklyn ..
A nice restaurant conversation and see where it goes . No pressure at all.
I'll send a recent face photo to anyone who inquires . No more then say two week between talking and meeting. all genders, almost all kinks but diapers and scat please no.
Can anyone out there suggest a good site for maintaining a blog about my journey? I know I can write in my journal here but I'm not sure it's the best place to post stuff for people whi'd like to follow where things take me. Does anyone use a site that they'd recommend??
Theres a huge huge difference between people who do things for you because they have to, through obligation manipulation coercion threats or whatever Versus people who do things for you simply because they adore you and want you to be happy
The 1st set are worthless to Me The 2nd ... Priceless
Not saying I don't enjoy enticing puppeting manipulating coercing even mindfkg .. bc I absolutely do!! In fact I used to find subliminal manipulation and blatant MindFucks particularly entertaining.. allatime everywhere lol weg
But only for Funsies with wellbonded friends at the Trust level of ConsensualNonconsent .. which I had with so many onceupon. Good times!! But so many relocated .. and too many passed, sobs .. venues closed, everythings Different, the World has Changed ..as it always does, and as must I, again.
Ik Ik. "The best way to predict ones future is to create it."
Shame Quality Muses seem superscarce this decade. ah well. Def past time to explore new Hunting Grounds irl .. nilla and alt .. hmm believe theres an alt party 12 16 somewhere ..
Life is good. It is nice to find new people fairly close but still too far. It isn't easy, I understand. Start out like you can hold out. In other words, there is nothing wrong with taking your time, just be honest with yourself.
Recently had someone make copies of videos I shared and threatened to report me if I didn't pay. That is called extortion. It didn't work. Understand why I insist on video chatting?
When you have the chance to get to know someone don't blow it by second guessing what you want out of the relationship. Take a leap of faith and just go for it
Finally speaking to a prospective slave. Funny enough, I didn't find her on here. Which I suppose should be no surprise. We've been talking for two weeks now and I've arranged to meet her in person tomorrow. She is a leather slave so there will have to be some adjustments made. But the future looks promising.
Sorry guys,I forgot to edit my location when I updated my bio yesterday, I was in CA when I created this account but I got back in China. No need to send me a message if the distance is a dealbreaker to you.To those rude people,stop sending me nonsense messages.I've mentioned that I don't like to reply unless someone interests me,we're just strangers,let's not waste each other's time. Thanks
