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Hetero Male Dominant, 58,  Washington D.C.
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Many years ago, a person asked me to write about who I am. I really couldn't do it in good faith. I can tell you i am 50, divorced male in the east coast of the USA. I have a job, so i can support myself ...i've been in the lifestyle for over 19 years

I know I am a man who is looking to be a friend someone first and foremost, before he tries to dominate her. I know that concept sounds strange to many..but it is me. The lifestyle is very real to me. i learned first hand from my father., who was a dom with the trapping of stating it . I know what i am and is very secure with me.

we all know I can't promise the sub/slave/little girl ..all the world, a diamond filled collar, sex nightly, all the kinky positions, that in itself is pure cyber bull crap--What i wish is real people, not cardboard cut outs. i promise a deep supportive friendship that may grow into other ways. Being in one's soul starts with knows one's mind. and if there is a chance someone wants to be a sub/slave/little girl--that person will take a chance and reveal themselves

I am seeking people with like minds to chat with me. Explain themselves, their goals, their wishes, their fantasies and maybe we can explore them is an amazing power two share when their goals and they are the same or similar

i would enjoy anyone who wishes to chat --please message me acute_enigma on yahoo and lets talk










 Dominant Male

 Washington D.C.

 6' 0"






Actively Seeking:

Submissive female


Online Romance

 Lives For:

 Fine Dining



 Being Massaged (Expert)

 Erotic Hypnosis (Expert)

 Mental Bondage (Expert)

 Card Games


 Renaissance Faires


 Massage (Giving)

 Shibari (Beginner)





 Antique Shows

 Flea Markets


 Musical Theater

 Anal Play

 Blindfolding you (Expert)

 Theatrical Scenes (Expert)


 Wax Play


 Horror Movies

 Science Fiction


 Online Auctions (Expert)




 Local BDSM Community

 Role Playing


 Curious About:



 Female Sovereignty

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Journal Entries:
8/6/2017 4:46:39 PM
You know I am seeking real life and real time

what amazes me-most want an online relationship..

Example If I say "Lets chat  on the phone" they make every excuse in the book from distance (when they say distance doesn't matter ) to they have their kids or ex living with them and cant talk

Or they want to talk on gmail (why not talk here?) and they say in their profile--they dont want an online/email relationship--

Its funny of the 1 in 100 who talks on the phone state after 5 minutes they state they assume we are NOT a match--this  is after 5 minutes 

cmon people lets get real here--Opinions?

2/12/2017 5:19:01 AM
I got  an interesting email this morning  

Would you like to destroy a slut's holes?

of course this woman blocked me--so why send it?

11/11/2015 4:31:26 PM
I grew up devouring science fiction books. I was like a little Pac-Man, gobbling up everything I could get my hands on: short stories, novels, and, of course, comic books. Looking back, I realize that sci-fi and, to some degree, fantasy novels, were my first attempt at escaping reality (later attempts would prove to be a bit more problematic). Regardless, I now see that immersing myself in this kind of literature informs my current view of the world. The path of history is, for me, forever seen through the eyes and imagination of Arthur C. Clarke, Isaac Asimov, Robert Heinlein, Ray Bradbury, Roger Zelazny, Frank Herbert, Larry Niven, Philip K. Dick, H.G. Wells, Aldous Huxley, and many, many more. Which is why I consider all efforts to control human behavior through force as ultimately doomed to fail. Sure, they might work for a while. That's where the cool story is - the resistance and overcoming of authoritarian rule. But at the end of the day, the macro, sci-fi view is always toward greater freedom, regardless of what form it takes. The real evil, the much more insidious method of control, is actually what we do to ourselves. The abuse of drugs and alcohol, plus relentless consumerism and over-exposure to mind-numbing entertainment, are the real chains on the human spirit. Of course this means that I, having produced close to a thousand half-hours of television, am part of the problem. Sorry. I never meant to be a Minor Overlord for the Terrestrial Shadow Masters.--Producer Chuck Lorre (The Big Bang Theory, Two & a half Men)

7/25/2015 5:53:22 PM

“A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special.”
― Nelson Mandela

4/16/2015 3:18:27 PM
what is KIK-i dont know it

3/10/2015 9:40:35 PM
Why cant people be real on here? It is amazing how phoney and fake people are

3/26/2013 5:32:00 AM

so if it is spring, why is there snow on the ground?

12/14/2012 2:35:49 PM

sadness about the news in ct today, reminds of the shooting in pa 8 years ago-the question is why? Why did this happen again? Wasnt the Batman shooting in that Colorado theater enough? This is so senseless... Those small children! It makes me want to hug all those I love, care about  and hold dear--RIP for all the young children & OTHERS who lost their lives today and hope the families find peace this holiday season..


reply if you understand

11/21/2012 9:53:19 PM

To all my friends and others who can see these words, I am THANKFUL to all of you. In any way you have or can, you have shape my universe in some way. Not always for change, but it the spirit you have left me..Some have made me think, some have made me laugh and some, with their milk of human kindness, have given me a hand up in someway...Instead of a list of names, you all need to thanked for whatever you have done. So thank you for the bounty you all have giving this year. May your Thanksgiving be happy and may you enjoy whatever you celebrate this DECEMBER SEASONAL HOLIDAY..stay safe, stay sane and watch out for those bell ringers THEY ARE MEAN!


I welcome any comments 

2/22/2012 3:32:34 AM

I take great pleasure simple conversation ~ the mundane as well as an exchange of ideas.  One of my favorite things to do is to spend a relaxed evening sharing a good meal and good conversation ..i enjoy the art of talking

11/28/2011 10:01:07 PM

A very wise woman sent this to me


 ** A True Master **   


A Man who displays sensitivity will be a Master who is sensitive to you. 


A Man who displays humility will be a Master who will show you respect. 


A Man who is not afraid to cry will be a Master who understands your tears. 


A Man who is quiet will be a Master who will hear your faintest whisper. 


A Man who knows fear will be a Master who will not leave you to face yours alone. 


A Man who will listen to a child will be a Master who will always work to understand your words. 


A Man who can stand alone will be a Master who will not crush you under His weight. 


A Man who controls Himself with ease will be a Master with the ability to control you in the same way. 


A Man who does not have to prove His point will be a Master with many worthwhile points to share. 


A Man who never makes demands will be a Master who treasures anything you give. 


A Man who doesn't chase after you will be a Master you will never need to run away from. 


A Man who is calm will be a Master who can weather your storms. 


A Man who has walked the path to peace will be a Master able to guide you along that path. 


A Man who does not shout will be a Master who will never deafen you. 


A Man who knows Himself will be a Master who will have time to know you. 


A Man with an open mind will be a Master who never stops learning. 


A Man who never stops learning will be a Master who never stops growing. 


A Man who always seeks to be the best He can be for you is the only Man truly worthy of being called Master.

8/17/2011 5:53:32 AM

What is a Daddy Dom? A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created.  To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline. His love for his "little girl" goes without saying.  He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance.  She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his "little girl". He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him. He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the "little girl" to really trust, she must know he means what he says.  If his "little girl" is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined. A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.

5/15/2011 2:12:28 PM

So I've been logged in a grand total of 15 minutes this morning, and already I've gotten an email from a girl in Ghana and one from the Phillipines.  At least the spam email from Ghana has the good graces to pretend that she's a submissive looking for a master.  The one from the Phillipines was just a generic "looking for that special someone" email.  Seriously, are people stupid or desperate enough to be taken in by these spam emails, especially on a "specialist" site like Collarme?  While I'm on the topic...what about those ads where the girl invariably is 22, her photo(s) are professional model shots, and she mentions absolutely nothing about bdsm, but hey, she loves romance, chocolates and shopping!  Ridiculous...

5/4/2011 4:07:11 AM

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, People may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight. Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.//Mother Teresa / Kent Keith

11/30/2010 5:52:14 AM

borrowed from a friend


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

"One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

"The other is God - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied,
"The one you feed."

9/5/2010 11:58:40 PM
I enjoy some of the nicks people have like WORTHLESSCUMTAG, CUNPRINCESS, XBOXFORMASTER, USEME TOYOUR LIMITS, RIDEORDIEBARBIE... Everyday there is a new name that makes me laugh..HOWEVER what I seek to know someone first. Someone who can have an intelligent chat, rather than lifestyle goals. Sometimes the first question some subs  ask is "What is your  cock size?"  before ever knowing me. I would love someone to ask me "Well what is your brain size?"

7/24/2010 7:41:27 AM
Outspoken not rude
Confident not cocky
Precise not variable
Intelligent not conceited
Expressive not closed
Happy not medicated
Creative not conforming
Imaginative not dull
Spiritual not religious
Artistic not artsy
Chivalrous not entitled
Humble not superior
Disciplined not astray

6/3/2010 9:33:28 AM
why does all this have to be a jousting match? The concept seems easy enough. people of like mind have an avenue  to share their knowledge, their desires, and their questions with similar folk. Seems to be an awful lot of hostility for something so conceptually honest.

6/2/2010 8:28:23 AM
-Put this in your profile if you know someone who has survived or died of cancer

3/12/2010 6:49:39 PM
I found this on a profile--It was so good-I asked if I could steal it--Thanks to the sub who allowed me to

You do what you are." 

    "You mean you are what you do." 

 "No, I mean, you do what you are. You're born with a gift. If not that, then you get good at something along the way. And what you're good at, you don't take for granted. You don't betray it."

  "What if you do, betray your gift?"
"Then you betray yourself. That's a sad thing."

2/27/2010 1:33:57 PM
Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she will give you a baby.  If you give her groceries, she will give you a meal.  If you give her a smile, she will give you her heart.  She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit.

1/9/2010 12:00:19 PM

A good friend gave me this--i am reprinting it here

I have always felt a Master is not only the owner, but a great motivator, guidance counselor, father, mentor, gardner, protector and much much more. I have felt that a true owner guides in the best interest of the girl in question, not always in his best interest but what is best for her to follow. That he is devoted to her, earn his keep with his interest, dedication, communication, care and firm hand as well a gentle ear to all her troubles for she will never face anything alone. Over time the relationship will grow she will see what he loves to see, do what he wants, grow to find her ambitons mixed with his desires and goals, find herself lost without his words or email or whatever form of communication. she will wake to see his thoughts or feel lost until he writes. She will admonish him sweetly for allowing her to suffer so but he will warn her that good things always come to those who wait. If at some point he is not what is best for her, he will make the decision to find someone better for it is not his dreams that matter, at least just not his but hers as well. To see her grow and blossom as a property is his wish, even if it means turning it over to another for a greater better future

11/11/2009 11:56:21 AM
a friend said I could reprint this--THANKS

There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who wont anymore and who always will. So dont worry about people from your past..there is a reason why they didnt make it to your future...

7/13/2009 7:20:26 AM
I read this--it needs reprinting....................
Nigeria is a fascinating central-African nation with a population of 140 million. Of them, 68 million are women. Of those, about 30% are between ages 25 and 35, hence about 20 million. Another 60% of Nigerian women are illiterate, giving us about 8 million literate women between 25 and 35. Then you have the fact that only about 7% of Nigerians are of "non-black, other" ethnicity, leaving us about 570 thousand.

Did anyone ever notice that about 50% of those must be subs and slaves posting here on CM? Totally freaking awesome!!!

7/9/2009 12:23:14 PM
Justice means minding one's own business and not meddling with other's concerns. --Plato

7/1/2009 10:54:34 PM
a sub friend sent this to me..IT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE!

"The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend any hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

6/5/2009 11:51:29 PM
I love this phrase

salacious whimzy

4/10/2009 9:01:13 PM
Presenting Yourself on here is such a gamble and such a truly heroic act for any dominant. In doing so you make yourself vulnerable. At the same time You make yourself....available. It is yin and yang (as most things are). A true dominant is above those things and views the turbulance (it cannot be viewed as much else) in perspective.

3/27/2009 1:20:08 PM
Point to Ponder:  Just because you got the monkey off your back doesn't mean the circus has left town. ~George Carlin

1/27/2009 1:56:49 PM
I heard a very bad joke......Yesterday I checked into a motel room and said to the receptionist, "I want the porn channel in my room to be disabled."
"Sorry," she said sternly, "all we have is regular porn, you sick, sick bastard.

1/6/2009 1:35:31 PM
 I just heard a saying I LOVE... "I'd tell you to go to Hell, but I work there and I don't want to see you every day!"

8/13/2008 11:25:09 AM
I know this is an old poem and probably overused..but not used enough....


Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.
Nuture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labours and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy

2/25/2008 8:55:38 AM
MY BIRTHDAY IN 3 DAYS!! All greetings welcome

12/3/2007 10:11:06 PM
"It's just human. We all have the jungle inside of us. We all have wants and needs and desires, strange as they may seem. If you stop to think about it, we're all pretty creative, cooking up all these fantasies. It's like a kind of poetry."

11/23/2007 4:43:27 PM
 Not in every song,will you find the tune you are looking for.
Not in every poem,will you find the words your looking for.
Not in every book,will you find the perfect story.
Not in every picture,will you find the beauty it holds.
Not in every person,will you find happiness.
Not in every thought,will you find the right answer.
Not in every heart,will you find honesty.
not in every storm,will you find rain.....
...but in my heart you will find,love deeper then the seas,and a friend that will forever be ....its NOT the value of the treasure,its the treasure you find that matters..

9/14/2007 12:44:41 AM
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our depest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us"

9/9/2007 4:06:51 PM
Happiness is finding the one you love. The journey is long and filled with bumps. But knowing you found her is thrilling. You know words can not describe how you feel. Sometimes a person is slow to admiting it, but when you know it in your heart is wonderful

5/18/2007 2:47:51 PM
SEEKING EROTIC fiction/First Person narrative accounts  for a possible book.  I have read a lot of erotica from females and a few males  on here. I am interested in first time writers who want to showcase their talents for the pen. Drop me a line and lets talk

4/11/2007 10:00:40 AM
We live in a Newtonian world of Einsteinian physics ruled by Frankenstein logic.

4/9/2007 12:10:02 PM
"It's just human. We all have the jungle inside of us. We all have wants and needs and desires, strange as they may seem. If you stop to think about it, we're all pretty creative, cooking up all these fantasies. It's like a kind of poetry."

Northern Exposure, Mister Sandman, 1994

2/28/2007 5:28:38 AM
A comfortable old age is the reward of a well-spent youth. Instead of its bringing sad and melancholy prospects of decay, it should give us hopes of eternal youth in a better world.-R Palmer
You know a man (or woman for that matter) is as  old as they feel. I have been pondering these facts for the last few days
So on this my 48th birthday, I just want to tell all of you. I feel young. My gift to you is to remind all of you to " stay young. "

So I promise when I turn 50, I will start counting my age backwards.  When anyone will view my grave marker many, many years from now , the stone will  read "he died at 16 (that 84 if you can't do the math)"...well if Jack Benny could be 39 and holding, I will die when I am 16, so they can all remark  "He died so young!"

This birthday is not a time for depression. This is a moment of embracing and rejoicing family, friends and life itself. I have learned  a large lesson this year..It is  to take stock of those in your life who matter and make them know they are important on a daily basis. Also I learned to love them with all your heart and tell these people that you do love them  as much as you can and as many times as you can...for you may never know when it is yours or their last time

12/15/2006 6:44:52 AM

My Creed......He doesn't demand respect, obedience, or authority, but his presence commands it.
He is a naturally dominant man

He guides her along her life's path. He provides her boundaries within which to live, grow, and learn. Mentoring, teaching,
He is her leader.

He is a shoulder for crying, an ear for listening, a sounding board for ideas and problems.
He is a friend.

He is reliable, determined, convicted, and supportive.
He is her strength.

He has her interests at heart, and helps her focus on her taskings.
He is her disciplinarian.

He provides for her financially, emotionally, and physically.
He is a Man.

8/23/2006 11:57:52 PM
A friend sent this to me. I think its cute....

Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming 'WOO HOO what a ride!'....

So after this one, CAN I GO AGAIN? ...

comments welcome !

1/26/2005 5:30:40 AM
The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.
-Robert M. Pirsig

1/25/2005 6:02:21 AM

If you email a person, you would think even if they were NOT interested in you, they would email you back at least a NO THANKS--i wonder why many dont--the mind boggles

8/27/2004 12:19:06 AM
...Whatever happened to the art of  chat?

I know  some of these people out here are collared and some not! ...well, if you are collared,  does your master not want you to chat with another dom? (and dont tell me collared subs dont chat with other doms) what about a friendship? you would wonder why these dom wont let them? does he feel so unsure of himself that he can not have his special one chatting with me...a point to ponder...miles to go before I sleep

8/6/2004 10:02:58 AM
a friend sent this me to me and made so much sense, so i share it with those who read this profile... i learned this long ago on the online games. there are people out there who cant go thru a single day without trying to hurt other people with what they say. and others who think god gave them the right to criticize and cut down everyone around them because only THEY can possibly be doing everything right. so i learned to ignore those people...i addess that those SO CALLED MASTERS who have their ladies on line, and think that if i am male that i want to steal their woman,...This is hardly the case, i wish to hear about their expierences in the lifestyle--and if those master's cant get it into their heads that another male is interested in hearing what their woman has to say in a non sexual manner, without owning them..they are the wiser to listen to the sub/slaves and may learn something about what the lifestyle means to their, i await anyone's comments

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