Profile version 2.0:

Before messaging me, please note the following:

I am absolutely real and do TRY to answer all messages, even if it is to explain a lack of interest.
I am not looking for online cyber sex, chat or etc. I am ONLY looking to meet REAL people who have the balls to actually HAVE sex and not just TALK about it.
I am not interested in anyone under 23 and over 40.
I am not interested in long distance situations.
I am primarily interested in Caucasian males.
I am not a size queen, so your large penis won't excite me terribly.
I am a switch, so if you message me with a demanding and dominant attitude, I will tell you to fuck off.
I have loose morals but strong ethics. These include valuing honesty, integrity, open communication, manners, etc. etc. etc. If you have a poor character, I don’t want you in my life, period.
If you are rude and callous, you will get nowhere with me.
If I tell you I am not interested, please refrain from responding with crass commentary and insults.
If you don't have a car, some sort of income and independence from your parents, please don't contact me, I don't like to babysit, nor am I a taxi service.

I apologize in advance for being such a bitch, but seriously, the internet has done absolutely nothing to improve men's "game" and I am constantly shocked at the type of messages I receive. Do any of these approaches actually work? Do many 29 year olds want to sleep with men that are their dad's age? If you have no job and no car, how are we even going to meet in this city? And furthermore, just because I am a "full figured gal", does not mean I am not shallow and picky about whom I fuck.

All that being said:

I have been both a fringe and involved member of “the scene” at various points through my life. I have had open relationships and monogamous ones, engaged in vanilla sex and everything besides it. Vanilla sex and monogamous relationships rarely satisfy me. Although I can engage in sex without kink, it isn’t for me exclusively. I enjoy sensuality as much as the next, but kink takes priority.

I consider myself ultimately looking for an open relationship, with boundaries that are communicated and agreed upon by both parties. However, at the present time, I am incredibly busy and I don’t believe I have the time to dedicate to a new relationship . . . I am primarily looking for play partners and activity partners. If something progresses past that point, it will have to be slowly.

My belief is that I do not have the room in my life or the disposition to be a 24/7 lifestyle member, mostly because I am not sure that I want to share my space with anyone 24/7 at this time. I have been single for quite some time and I am very comfortable with it. I like my space. However, many times I crave a 24/7 situation.

In my vanilla world, I am independent and have taken care of myself for years. I am not looking to financially dominate or take advantage of anyone. I am never presumptuous or assuming with other people’s money, however it is to be noted that if you want to play with me and use a variety of toys and tools, please be prepared in sharing that cost or providing those items, at least for the time being, as I am building my collection slowly and carefully. Also, I don’t need anyone to support me or spend money on me, but I do enjoy being taken out from time to time. I want to say all of this very clearly because there are many women looking for a free ride through doming and I am not one of those women.

Also vanilla, I have three cats and I love them very much. I do catering and custom confectionary arts and I am expanding my business fivefold this year, hence the busy schedule. I love to be the caterer to the local kinky. I am also looking to expand into retail. I am semi-active in historical reenactment. I am pagan and enjoy local pagan events. I try to celebrate all the holidays in my own fashion. I am pretty OCD and care about having a clean and neat home and nice clothes and shoes and other girly things. I consider myself a fashionista and now I am branching into fetish wear. I am having fun, for sure. I try to go to the gym a few times a week. I love to swim. I like to read, when I have a spare minute. I am good at practically anything artistic, from sewing to painting to sculpting to whatever.

Back to my sexual interests and preferences: I obviously follow safe and reasonable guidelines. I do practice safe sex with condoms and I am on birth control, which has eliminated a menses cycle; rather convenient for play times. I do not do “ass to mouth” or “ass to pussy” play. An apology if this “floats your boat” but I try to not engage in any practice I deem unhealthy or high risk. If in an established relationship, with a tested partner(s), obviously the need for condoms is not as necessary.

As for my sexual needs, wants and roles, I consider myself a successful switch. I have engaged in control, role play, bondage, discipline, and sadism as a dominant with both men and women, in the past. I enjoy the role and am fairly good within it, although some skills might be rusty as I have had some break with the scene recently. Those I am regaining quickly and efficiently. In my outside life, I am a dominant personality, a force to be reckoned with, a strong, self-assured and confident woman. I am a social butterfly and move well within any social group or scene. I desire a partner to accompany me in my social outings.

At times, I crave submission, but more and more frequently, I am realizing how much I enjoy a submissive in my life. It suits my wants and needs at this time and definitely works better with my schedule and social agenda. I am actively seeking one or two subs that I can have frequent play time with and take to local events. I am very shallow about this desire, I go for looks. Sad, but true. I tend to like slight to slightly muscular builds . . . somehow I always end up with taller men, despite being quite short myself. I very greatly appreciate dark skin, dark hair, and dark eyes, such as Eastern European, Italian, Middle Eastern descents or just people like me who tan really well. I go for “pretty” guys, but like them to maintain their masculinity. I am not so into cross-dressing or SST, but I do enjoy doming and topping straight or heteroflexible men, using strap-ons and anal toys, queening, forced bisexuality, light CBT, I like to whip, flog, spank or paddle. I also reward submissives very well, because I enjoy performing oral sex and I enjoy being fucked by a good sub. I could possibly see cuckolding, if a LTR developed with a sub and they enjoyed this but I would still allow them sexual privileges.

When I switch role and take a submissive stance, there are no tears in my submission. I am not a “little girl”. I am a proud submissive, taking my punishments with stoic resolve. I do not easily mark/bruise, yet I love to be. I enjoy time on a cross more than most anything. I love thudding, flogging punishment, yet my masochism runs so deeply that I regularly engage in self-mutilation by scratching and gouging my own flesh. This has left me scarred on my back, ass and arms. I strongly desire to lighten these scars or cover them with more scarring, welts, tattoos, etc. I enjoy receiving this from someone else as much as I enjoy inflicting this pain upon myself.

Beyond dominance and submission, sexually I enjoy many acts and fetishes. I consider myself hetro-flexible because I do not seek out relationships or sexual encounters with women, but greatly enjoy them in a group, male-involved atmosphere. I love to perform oral sex on men, less on women, but I am quite serviceable in both capacities. I have an overly sensitive clit and find clitoral hood and labia stimulation preferable to actual clit stimulation. I become wet at mere touch or mention of sexual acts, and I provide copious amounts of lubrication. I experience female ejaculation or squirting during 30-40% of my orgasms.

I love anal stimulation but have yet to have a partner who to take advantage of this appreciation, I am “technically” an anal virgin. I am using toys on a daily basis to become accommodating for anal sex with a willing partner. I do desire that these initial sessions be gentle. My breasts are not very sensitive, but my neck, collarbone and back are. I enjoy being taken from behind, while standing or kneeling. I love doggy style or spooning style sex. I enjoy being topped and immobilized.