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Female Submissive, 25, Decatur, Illinois
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Female Submissive, 30, Utrecht
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About XandraNJ
**Before messaging me, please be prepared to come out to Morris County, NJ area munches, classes, or events. You should also know that this is all about getting to know you as a person for me. Please have the same mentality and leave the kinks out of the conversation unless or until we are better acquainted and agree that we have that kind of chemistry going on.**
About me I am an ever evolving, thoughtful, warm-hearted, spiritual woman. I identify as an INFJ personality type, as a demi-sexual, sapiosexual, sadomasochist, and strong sub with power slave tenancies with the right person. I have done a lot of internal work over the years meaning I am very self-aware and know how to tackle my fears. I am very good at reading people and what motivates them however, I do ask a lot of questions to get to know others better as well. My inquisitive nature is part of who I am and I love getting to know what makes others tick. I am also very food and nutrition savvy. I consider myself a decent home cook and baker but I am trying to keep it healthy by sticking to whole foods as much as possible. I also have hobbies that Id love to get into such as kayaking, white water rafting, and hiking for starters. I have been exploring kink for almost 17 years now and about half that time has been spent in the public scene which includes munches, classes, and events. I love the support and the education that the community has provided over the years. There is also this intrinsic vetting process that happens that has allowed me some fantastic play experiences with some of the best Tops on the East Coast. This says a lot knowing that I am as particular as I am regarding who I befriend and play with. I will admit that I find it difficult to keep myself open to having someone new in my life. I have faced the fact that being open is necessary to dating and finding someone who will click with me. If you have read this far, then wonderful but please know that I am looking for someone who is willing to be part of the community. I am not one for first dates over coffee where the same typical questions are asked and answered. Its awkward and its something I prefer not to do. Going out and having fun together is something I am open to doing with someone that I truly mesh with. Until that time, lets meet at a munch or class. -)
What I am looking for I would like to find a Master 35-47 yrs old who can also be a friend and a partner. He should be okay with the fact that I have an open relationship and he should at least be okay with entertaining the idea of kitchen-table poly (a poly relationship where the people involved become friends but not necessarily romantically involved). He should be someone who lives locally and does not travel more than once or twice a year. He should be someone who is a fellow sapiosexual, has experience in energy play and mental control for starters. He should be a real human being who is aware that he is fallible no matter how much he is in command of his life. And he *should* be in command of his life...i.e. has a job, his own place, his own transportation, emotionallymentally aware, and open to self-improvement. He should have teaching capabilities to help make me a better woman and submissive than when I met him. Short of finding a Master, a friendship that may have play partner possibilities is something else that I am open to. I am especially keeping my eye open for a rope Top as well. **You should note here that if sex is all you are after, I will not be interested in you.** If getting to know me as a person and developing a friendship through munches, classes and events sounds like something that interests you, please feel free to message me.
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