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Male Dominant, 51, amarillo, Texas
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Female Switch, 42, milford, Ohio
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Male Dominant, 54, worcester, Massachusetts
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About Moonracer
Who am I? I’m a father of teenage son, husband of 25 years, head of my household, Dom (Master or a Daddy depending on the young lady in question), and (I would like to think) a good friend to many.
Seven years ago, I came across the BDSM community, and (as my wife puts it) I “fell down the rabbit hole”; she quickly followed. From the start, I saw BDSM is more than a lifestyle; it is a community as well. I have tried to be a part of that community - including regularly attending area munches and other events. While I run my house in a “1950’s” style, my wife is not my submissive; she is my equal. As we explored the lifestyle, my wife and I came to realize for me to fully enjoy and be part of this lifestyle, I would need to be able to express myself as a Dom and this would mean forming a D/s relationship with another woman. I am blessed to have a wife who accepts and supports me 100%.
In terms of being a Dom, I identify more as Daddy — in that I enjoy the nurturing aspects of being a Dom. As a Dom, though, I want and need to have the power and control in the relationship. I simply wield it to help my partner to grow & mature. That could mean helping her to develop the discipline to finish college, or it could mean training her to fully give of herself as a TPE slave. While I am a Daddy Dom, I do not limit myself to just littles as possible partners; there are many times when I need my submissive to be in service to me.
Keys to a strong, successful relationship:
- trust. Never give your partner a reason to doubt you.
- communication. Communicating when things are good is easy; its when there's a problem the people often mask their feelings and miscommunicate...and relationships fall apart.
- unconditional love. When all else fails, one's love for a partner can overcome any obstacle. In terms of play, I enjoy impact (spanking, flogging, caning), sensation play (blindfold, wax, etc.), light bondage, fire, and violet wand. I can be a bit of a sadist, but I am always respectful of a partner's limits. I know how important trust is in life and even more important in this lifestyle. I work very hard to earn and keep that trust with my friends and partners.
Beyond kink, I have many interests:
- photography (nature & people)
- camping
- being outdoors
- all types of food (Pho & sushi my favorites)
- a good Scotch or Bourbon
- all types of movies (can you say Movie Tavern?)
- animals (I have an adopted dog & adopted cat). I love going to the zoo or aquarium
- listening to summer thunderstorms
- reading, learning (education is very important to me)
- sports
- museums
Hard Limits
- lying. Why bother, the truth will come out. A relationship based on lies is doomed to fail.
- cheating. See above (lying).
- wasting my time.
- intolerant/judgmental Hard Limits (potential relationship)
- 420 (randomly tested at work)
- cigarettes (occasional / social is fine)
- nipple piercings
Please feel free to reach out to me here or on Kik: moon_racer
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
99% Dominant
97% Daddy/Mommy
94% Master/Mistress
94% Owner
92% Brat Tamer
83% Degrader
78% Rigger
74% Sadist
72% Primal (Hunter)
65% Experimentalist
59% Ageplayer
55% Exhibitionist
52% Voyeur
26% Non-monogamist
12% Vanilla
7% Masochist
3% Girl/Boy
2% Switch
1% Submissive
1% Slave
1% Degradee
1% Brat
1% Primal (Prey)
1% Pet
0% Rope Bunny
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.?id=1065698 |
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My Poly is not Your Poly
I am selfish at Poly.
I have my wife, I do not share her.
I would have my sub. I would not share her.
I know this may seem unbalanced or unfair -I have 2, you each have 1.
I am selfish at Poly. |
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What to Expect as My Sub....
No, I don't have anybody under consideration (as of May 2015). I'm not really talking to anybody at this point. I'm writing this to get my thoughts down. Is all of this cast in stone? No, this represents what I would like. An ideal. We rarely get exactly what we want. But we often end up with far better than could have expected. I use the term sub(missive) because I don't know if you're my sub or my slave (or little girl as well). There a lot of unknowns as I start to look again for a friend, sub, more. I know it won't always be easy, poly relationships rarely are. But I know we will have fun, happiness, and memories that will hopefully last a life time.
Family and Home
You will be entering into a relationship with a married man. Jade and I have a teen age son. He is the priority in my life. He is the reason we live in our town; he is the reason I drive an hour to work (each way). Everybody else comes next. This does not mean you are an option; you and my wife and myself will be a priority to me. You will be a priority to Jade. I would expect us to be a priority to you. Hopefully, you will meet Jade early on in our dating. You are not required or expected to enter into a sexual relationship with her. But everybody does have to get along and like each other. You will be welcomed into my home at any time. If you're uncomfortable being around my son, that's understandable. You won't be required to come over when he's there.
Contract, Rituals, and Rules
I would prefer to have one; a contract clearly defines both of our roles and responsibilities within our D/s relationship. I have used them in prior relationships; I think they are important to a successful D/s relationship. What will ours look like? I don't know; I haven't met you. We will work on the agreement together. There will be daily (and other rituals). I have some in mind and we can discuss them at the appropriate time. There will be rules dictating what we each can (and cannot do) with others (in terms of play, etc).
Sex
I will continue to have sex with Jade. You and I will have sex. You and Jade may (if you both want to) have sex. That's it. It's a closed group. Any introduction of a fourth will need to be discussed among all of us.
Time Together
We will have many opportunities to be together (just the two of us). When and where? I don't know. But I believe one-on-one time is important to a healthy and successful relationship.
If all were in agreement, the goal would be to split my equally between Jade and you. You would be an equal partner (or as close a possible). I would not consider you a secondary.
Vanilla Time
How much of a vanilla relationship will we have? Again, I don't know. I haven't met you. Perhaps you have a family that wouldn't understand, so I don't meet them. Perhaps you have no family nearby and we become your 'family'.
Questions
Please ask. Whomever you are and whatever your question. |
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