WiseAndReal

If it's possible to find this on Collarme; I'm looking for a long term, D/s, loving, sane, relationship.

I'm not a masochist, but I am very submissive and I feel more secure in a relationship when I am spanked... hard, until well after I cry, for REAL transgressions, and for my Masters pleasure.

Spanking fills an emotional need for me, not a physical one. Sometimes however, spanking is simply a punishment and it's too extreme to even fill an emotional need.

In my mind, spanking is a punishment, or my Master simply showing his ability to do with me as he pleases. Therefore, it is not to be asked for or even sought out.

I am attracted to men who are successful professionally (in whatever you do), who are comfortable in their own skin, and also in social situations, who are intelligent, who have friends, and who have hobbies, interests and passions outside of BDSM. But also who are very dominant in intimate relationships. And importantly, who are discrete.

Besides my work (that thing I do from 8-5) and D/s, I am a passionate photographer, I enjoy my friends, I love the outdoors (where I often carry a tripod w/ camera and a camera/lens backpack over my shoulder), I love traveling, fine dining and not so fine dining, good conversation, passionate people (but not political fomenters) quiet home time, and many, many more things. I think life is beautiful (for the most part) and is even better when shared.

I'm a woman of fair intelligence, and I do not subscribe to the idea that the only good thing about a woman is what's found between her legs. Therefore, I am not attracted to misogynists.

If you hate women because your mom was mean to you or your ex-wife took you to the cleaners during the divorce, please leave me alone. I'm not a bad person and I don't want to pay for someone else's crimes.

I think a perfect relationship (for me, many people would disagree, but this is my profile) is one where there is mutual respect, understanding, love and affection. However, there is also an intense D/s aspect and physical punishment.

However, I want to stress again that I am not a masochist. I cannot handle the more intense disciplinary aspects of BDSM. Those things that the general public would consider torture, tortures me. I have tried to take them, but I can't.

I hate to end this way, but it has to be said and I felt like putting this next paragraph at the top of my profile would be too negative, so...

On a more cut and dry note; I cannot/will not relocate, I do not want a long distance relationship, nor a phone relationship and I ask that any one looking for a poly relationship, move on. And please, if you're just looking for a kinky lay, leave me alone. I won't play with you.