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Male Dominant, 26, cardiff
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Male Submissive, 18, cardiff
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About WelshPrince1974
In addition to reading my profile I invite all who visit to take a moment to listen to the voice greeting. Thank you.
I have recently been brought to face my own truths that whilst I have much to learn I am a Master at heart but until recently I have not had the abilities to truly develop what it seems I have been walking my whole life.
Along the way I have undoubtedly made mistakes and will undoubtedly make more. I will actually be posting less over the coming months as I sit back and read and learn, it is my duty to myself to truly Master the changes in myself so that I can truly Master another.
The welsh word for Master is Meistr and the word for slave is caethferch and it is these words I will use anytime reference these in any future writings in recognition of my Welsh language.
This recent journey has seemingly been one that has been a long time coming and fits in adequately with the remainder of my profile.
I thought I wanted to turn away from it but that has proven to be impossible as I am no more able to ignore my feelings towards this than my feelings towards the food that I eat and the air that I breathe. All are essential to going towards making a sum total of who I am.
In short I need this.
So what is this, thing I need. This thing that keeps me searching and wondering if this thing even exists in reality. This thing is Domination.
Not a mere control over someone for a random half hour to entertain me whilst I am online, but a need to have the level of control over someone that breaks down all their barriers and sends them swimming headlong into the waves that surround them.
I want to both set you free to soar and yet simutaneously keep you grounded.
To give you the courage to move beyond yourself and to give more of yourself than you ever thought possible.
To send you to such heights and drive you to such depths of internal desire, mindful of nothing other than the moment that will thrill your senses and leave you more complete than you ahve ever known.
Can you serve me unquestionably and yet trust me to push you ever higher in your personal quests and goals.
Can you dream of ways to delight me that will thrill me and surpise me even as I find new ways to tighten my control over you the more I set you free.
If you think you can be that lady then I will be delighted to hear from you.
I will not makde demands for your gift are precious to me.
I will not drive you further than you are truly capapble of being driven
I will not scream my Dominance over you, but I will cherish you, hold you, guard you and protect you and at the merest hint of a whipser you will give me everything.
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I've known her forever, literally forever, we were three when we first met and her grandmother and I used to write poems together. I wrote my own, her grandmother wrote them for her and posted them in her name, it still makes us smile to remember those days. Thirty three years later and we are still together, boyfriends for her and one husband and a disastrous engagement for me and girlfriends have not separated us. She is my best friend, my sister, and my hellcat all in one. We are often regarded as either siblings or a married couple and I adore her.
Recently she has told me of her alternative dsires, it seems our friendship has more in common than even we would think possible and suddenly I find myself her guide and her protector, her curtailer when she gets out of hand and she has entrusted me with her wayward manner. This delights me and thrills me to think that even now we have many adventures to come our way.
Our new journey will not be sexual but we will perfectly compliment me and as she sits beside me and lowers her gaze, I could not be more proud of her.
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ower and responsibility are both two words we are all widely familiar with, however it is only when we begin to take a pathway where these two words form the integral pathway of the direction we are taking that we are forced to confront them head on.
In order for me to appreciate the true meaning of power and responsibility I have chosen to view them from the perspective of lack of power and irresponsibility.
I have acted with total irresponsibility and as a result of my actions have been in a situation where I am totally powerless. As such I have been accountable for my actions and had to take responsibility for my deeds.
I have also been in a situation I had no control over, whereby I had no possible way of preventing it, the results were taken completely from my control my life was literally in someone else's hands.
In essence I understand the balance between power and loss of power. I also have a firm grasp of responsibility and irresponsibility.
When sitting down to write this essay/blog I wondered whether I would be able to do so in a manner that conveyed the various things I was feeling.
Right now at this precise moment in time I feel like running away and forgetting I have ever even heard the word Dominant, submissive, or any of the other of the myriad of new words and phrases I have come into context with.
The child in me wants to forget everything and run and hide behind the mothers skirt of ignorance, pretend I never saw
The adult in me seems these early mistakes as challenges that need to be met, how many times did we fall off our bicycles as children, repeating the mistakes time and time again before one day we rode without assistance in a straight line.
It doesn't mean we never fall off again, however it does mean we have made a fundamental shift in our psyche and our ability.
Before we rode unassisted we tried and tried and tried again, we felt as thought we would never make it, but then we did and from that moment on came the switch, we knew that we could do it and if we fell off in the future it wouldn't matter because we knew we had done it before and we knew we could do it again.
So having said that it brings me to where I am on my BDSM journey. I'm at the constant falling off stage, I see others who are riding along in the distance and yet I can't seem to even get on to start to catch them up. Everyone one of them has been through this falling off stage but each time I try harder I seem to fall off more often and I wonder what more I have to do before I can ride unassisted.
The only thing that keeps me trying is this unending desire to explore, this burning need to control within the parameters of consent but the need to control, the thrill of the power I have experienced so far is something that has awakened in me something so primal that the only thing more frightening than pursuing it is the fear of abandoning it. And so I keep on Keeping on. I keep trying.
I wanted to take references to the key components of this piece of writing and use these references as points for continuing my own ideas and thought process's into the BDSM pathway I have tentatively began to explore.
I thought it might be best to use online resources to take the four main elements, power, responsibility, trust, and respect to break this discussion down even further
Power is the ability to influence the attainment of goals of an individual or a group. Power is not a characteristic of any one individual, rather, it is defined in terms of relationships and transactions between people. Power is crucial to the achievement of individual goals, the resolution of conflicts, and to communication competency within a group.
Moral responsibility can refer to two different but related things. First, a person has 'moral responsibility' for a situation if that person has an obligation to ensure that something happens
Trust is a relationship of reliance. A trusted party is presumed to seek to fulfill policies, ethical codes, law and their previous promises.
Respect is esteem for, or a sense of the worth or excellence of, a person, a personal quality, ability, or a manifestation of a personal quality or ability
In this journey I have began taking into the wonderful world of BDSM I have found that contrary to how the public perception of this lifestyle may be there is no greater emphasis that that given to those four words.
Power undergoes an exchange in a BDSM scene whereby the sub actively gives over the control to the dom. The gift of control that a sub actively provides and a dom actively pursues is a complex one that can bring about it's own myriad of thoughts, feelings and emotions.
I am so very new to this that I can truthfully say I would miss many of the subtle changes in a subs personality that would indicate that she has begun the power exchange, even as I would possibly fail to notice the more subtle changes in my own personality, when these subtle changes give way to hormonal changes, as such I may be aware of the power exchange but I am far from being able to read it as readily as I would like.
Responsibility comes with the gift of power and as a dom it is our moral duty to care for the sub within our care and I have been guilty in the past of not adhering to my responsibilities as I maybe should, a combination of nerves, inexperience and sometimes sheer stupidity have sometimes resulted in me acting irresponsibly and not providing the correct level of thought and care.
If we are to call ourselves a dom we are bound to act like one and in the same way we should be in tune to the subtleties of the power exchange we should be as equally in tune to the responsibilities we have. Subspace and Sub-drop are two new phenomena that until recently I had never heard of but if I am to become the person I aim to be then it is imperative I at least aware of the ways in which these affect a sub and it is vital I show a level of responsibility. In order to do that it will require me to exercise a greater level of personal control and taking an pro active stance when dealing with all situations to minimize any confusion and lack of understanding.
Quite simply I think as a dom our greatest ability comes from recognizing our inabilities and at times accepting that our lack of understanding is a clear sign that we should never be afraid to ask more questions.
Trust and Respect I bring into the same paragraph but these too need little introduction because these perhaps even more than the power and responsibility are two areas in which we should be proficient not only in a BDSM setting but in any ordinary day to day setting.
Perhaps my reasons for writing this essay/blog have actually proven to be more cathartic than beneficial they have allowed me to see that despite my screw ups I am not a bad person and that my inability to perform is something of a refreshing change for me to be able to examine myself and look myself in the mirror and say that whilst I may be far from perfect, my desire to learn and my recognition of my flaws are in actual fact the two greatest indicators that I might just yet become the man I aim to be.
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I have just sat back and decided for the fourth week in a row that I am not going to church. It's not that my belief has lessened it's just that so much of the bible seems centered around guilt that at times it makes me wonder why I align myself to a religion.
As my name suggests I am Welsh and part of my ancient culture were the druids. The bible would hold us as pagans and yet to my way of thinking our ways were simple, we had reverence for the earth, for the creator and all things natural, and yet because we did not use the name Jesus in our rituals we were seen as heathens and as such the missionaries sought to teach us the error of our ways and introduce us to the truth.
I am also very much interested in the Rasta teachings haev spent years studying black history and black philosophies and here again I see the conflict with traditional christian teachings.
It seems that far from uniting people the christian teachings often contradict the very message they are spreading.
Add into the mix a kinky mind and sometimes I feel as though I have no business in a church and yet my faith is still as strong as ever.
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A.D.B.C initials more commonly found to describe a period in time but a recent revelation has caused me to view them differently. A.D After Drama B.C Balance and Clarity.
We all need to find our Balance and Clarity, far to often we can become our own treadmill, causing our own troubles and incessant thinking, thinking, thinking, but thinking for what end, if the answer needs that much thought then is not going to cause more stress by devoting that much time to a seemingly insurmountable issue at a time when your already feeling exhausted.
I am learning to find balance between thought and simple acknowledgement, to simply acknowledge the present is perhaps are most difficult obstacle to clarity and peace, we are forever looking forward or dissecting the past but when you discover the pleasure of presence then truly we can begin to discover clarity and balance. |
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have only once come across this and thankfully no long term damage was done however I am interested to know if any others have had the same experience.
I think it may be useful to give some background but I don't want to move away from the point in question.
I had played online with this sub a couple of times before and all appeared to be fine but I then began to notice during one play session that she did not appear to be too well.
She then dropped a bombshell that she was mentally ill and didn't always have full control over her mind as she suffered with multiple personality orders.
I then had a terrible situation develop whereby she dropped from her sub space very suddenly and began to have what can only be described as an episode, where by she became incoherent and unresponsive to my attempt to bring her back to some semblance of normality and also to determine if she needed real medical assistance.
She then started saying she was having a schizophrenia episode and just disappeared off line , days later she admitted her multiple personalities are not aware of each other and that she has no sense of awareness and will literally listen to whatever anyone tells her even to the extent of it being detrimental to her well being.
So in this instance I had her very sudden drop to deal with as well as my own, drop from Dom Space (which I had only just begun to understand)
Needless to say I do not speak with her anymore but I wonder how do we deal with such sudden instances of instant drop. |
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