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WaywardFilly

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Female Submissive, 32, North, Florida
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About WaywardFilly

I am currently involved in a relationship which is poly .That being said I am not looking for random hook ups ,online domination or anyone who does not fit at least 80 percent of my profile and lives within 50 miles.I am looking for a partner who enjoys real life together with another person, who understands that I am loyal to one already and serve him as well as desire a close relationship with another person.Please Read my entire profile before emailing me.

.I am a sub/slave in my heart of hearts, and have shown deep submission in slavery to the one that stirs it within me.. I am also an occasional switch and I do mentor submissives in the lifestyle.However my primary goal is to have a loving Ms relationship as a slave to an Experienced Master

Honesty and integrity and a high level of ethics is what I seek in ,a relationship with a deep level of communication.I also seek an affectionate partner, one who understands the need and desire to cuddle or be held,One who understands and has a spiritual nature
Please be "aware",IE Pagan,Druid,Taoist,Native American,Buddhist Spiritualist , or other alternative spiritual paths . I also look for someone who is aware of energy( I.E. chi, Qi, Rieiki ,QiGong) and its use to heal or play**

I am also an herbalist and familiar with many things involving a natural approach to healing .Feel free to ask if you are looking for a way to heal using a non traditional approach
I am sensitive and passionate in everything about life,inward thinking but also outgoing I enjoy Movies, Drum Circles,Native American and Pagan events, Sacred dance,, Jazz, Blues and Folk music,theater, Ren Faires,Hanging with friends,a good book, Laughter, Love,just Being, I love the peace I feel when communing with nature,sailing, kayaking , I enjoy long quiet conversations about mystic lore or about life and the heart of things.I am a spiritual being who also has a very wicked sense of humor,,yet never hurtful

.Do you understand what it is that you are receiving when a submissive hands you her life and her personal power?I am a strong willed woman who has a great capacity for love and service.I am one who desires to find the One who will take her under His wing in loving and spiritual guidance.My will becomes the will of the Master when there is complete trust .Do you know what it means to be a strong, yet gentle,Dom, know how to build and not break down ..
Crack open my shell and see within.I am a submissive for the One who proves, by who he is, and is becoming, that he is worthy of my total submission and perhaps become his slave . I need a Master who will not waver, will not drop the ball in what he expects from me,or from himself he will be consistent in who he is and what he expects from himself and from his slave.( okay we all do it once in a while ,I know this)
I am sometimes a fragile being behind all the strength that I show to the outside world.I can be the little girl to your daddy , or the strong woman who supports you in all that you are. ,I need a strong experienced Master to guide me .One who is a guide and a nurturer who leads his/her submissive to be the totality of who she/he is capable of becoming.He/she leads with compassion, LOVE, and understanding . He/she will guide with respect and integrity and most of all with the hand of love, a resting place for the soul, command without demanding ,lead by example.he will teach, expecting you to learn , yet with patience ,with dignity, showing you the way with gentle firmness and understanding.he will correct mistakes without harsh criticism, yet with firm
correction,
.Are you honest, do you live your life with integrity with a high sense of ethical behavior?Are you one with a giving heart, loving
manner and love to give and get those tender looks and touches that speak of love?This is what I try to be as a human and what I look for myself, in others, when i consider a possible Ds or Ms relationship.

filly

Finally , I am not a player , we must share a connection..If you are married and your wife/or girlfriend does not know about your activities, please move on to someone else.I will ask for verification.Finally IF you cannot bother to write me more than a one line sentence dont expect me to respond .I put time and effort into my profile, if you cannot put time and effort into a well written email to interest me , then dont bother writing.After all, isnt Ds all about communication???? Show me that you know how to communicate , Please!

.I am not here for just play as a past time , this is me and real life LTR only is what I seek.So read my profile to get a real idea of who I am, before responding.And to one who likes to lead people on and then drop out of site because he thinks its fun well dont play with my heart.
Also i just moved to North Carolina recently ,I am not going to move from here for a number of years , At least not until my father passes and that may be a while




the below quotes are all things that speak close to the heart of things in my life. they are words that speak my soul
do you hear them? do they also speak to you?

"only a woman who has been an utter slave can be truly free.It means,I think,that only the woman who has utterly surrendered-and
can utterly surrender-losing herself in a mans touch-can truly be a woman,and being what she is,is then free"(from Nomads of

Gor,pg289-290)

Before you can reach to the top of a tree and understand the buds and flowers, you will have to go deep to the roots, because the secret lies there. And the deeper the roots go, the higher the tree goes -- NIETZSCHE

There is a place inside us.....a vast inner space...where the heart and the mind are joined...and the imagination is born.....a place where windmills and clouds are magically transformed...into the dragons of the earth and sky.....and from that mystical place...deep within each and every one of us...the spirit of the Noble Knight rises up ...to slay the demon beast...and restore right and calm...to the realm of what never was...and what will always be................

Love

Then said Almitra, "Speak to us of Love."
And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them.
And with a great voice he said:
When love beckons to you follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of
Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips. "

Khalil Gibran

These above quotes are all things that speak close to the heart of things in my life. They are words that speak my soul
do you hear them? do they also speak to you?

laughs here .I have met so many who call themselves dominants who just use it as a term to attract women. They have no communication skills nor character traits  and skills that actually show their dominant nature . As Tops in a scene, they  have no skills with a flogger .This being an area that has so many places to take workshops and clubs where people can watch and be taught, you would think there were more people with better skills.In the last couple of years I can count on one hand how many skilled and real dominants that I have met.

Sad really

The True Master

If you want a slave, If you want to keep a slave, You must show her your compassion as well as your strength. Lose not sight of your compassion that assures her warmth, nourishment, and energy first so that she may devote herself fully to your pleasures. If you would have her devoted to you, You must inspire her devotion. If you would be beloved by her, You must show her your love. If you would be adored by her, You must cherish her. A slave gives you her heart as well as her body. She gives you her trust as well as her submission. Love and devotion can turn into anger and resentment if trust is betrayed, If power is abused. If your freedom becomes careless, Control of a slave depends on control of yourself. Never lose sight of your grave responsibility to one who gives herself over to you. Never lapse into callousness or carelessness to one who has dropped her last barriers for your pleasure. To go beyond the limits ? even one step ? off what she can handle, can turn bliss into pain, and joy into grudge. Petty tyrants can impose their will, the spineless can be intimidated, the defenseless can be brutalized, But only a True Master can be worthy of the name Can push her limits, freely enjoy her pleasures, And have a lady return again, and again in deep gratitude for enslaving her. Carefully treated, she becomes truly yours, and will give you everything.

oh how you lighten my spirit and while fueling the gentle flames of forgiveness you so also quench the fire of anguish.My friend, though you regret the past within yourself, you have moved my soul into one of greater understanding.Change within ones self is the atonement that heals the past.
?Namaste,
?journey on ,walk softly the path of beauty you are creating?
a wonder full week with old and new friends, making connections, letting go of that which is no longer needed, hearing from ones that connect with my soul, touching feeling , knowing,
PEACE
namaste
Once again collarme has a mail issue and is not delivering all emails, so if you dont get a response understand that it is not me not writing back.collarme might even show that I have opened and read an email that I never received
Please write me at Waywardfilly@msn.com

R,
The condor mates for life.
Life is eternal ,He will never be alone.Be at peace.Pain is something that is a part of the lessons of life.It can not always be avoided.What is important is the lessons that the pain teaches you .Loving deeply can also bring pain, but without love , life tends to be empty.There is more pain in not loving that in the loss of love
let go of the pain,forgive,remember the lesson and be at peace
I do not understand lies or the need to lie.I do not understand those who attempt to get others to lie for them.Lies are never ,ever kind, lies cause more pain than a truth that is hard to accept, because when the lie is revealed even more pain ensues......Lies will eventually all be revealed because someone who is responsible and ethical always stands on the truth and discloses the lies...................
How do people live daily in lies and believe that what the lies bring them have any real worth.Its a very sad way to live .....................I do not understand how anyone can manipulate others into believing the lies.In order to do so one must stack lies upon more lies, so that everyone can no longer tell truth from fiction........I know I wanted to believe in him , but knew eventually that I could not.......

......and he wonders why i did not submit to him as though it was his "right" to be submitted to simply because he calls himself a dom.................................liars and unethical people will never receive my submission ever again............

.....Speaking the truth in love is the ONLY way to live and it is how I endeavor to live my life

recently this was sent to me in an email>It resonated with me so well that I felt like I should add it here


Your own profile has much resonance with the way I experience this lifestyle, and life itself. I have a poly family/tribe with two dominant females, as well as one male slave who is submissive to women. I really don't like the word "poly" as it doesn't come close to capturing what we live, and many poly relationships I have seen don't have a sense of true family and can be affected by jealousy. When people live in pursuit of beauty, truth, and love, and are all open in mind and heart, such problems fade as we go deeper into self-awareness and connection to nature and spirit. This involves being emotionally and mentally open and honest, and willing to work on current issues and emotional wounds related to past experience. We have spent years exploring and using methods for dealing with such issues.

Your analogy of a Dom/me as the captain of a sailing vessel expresses it as well as I can imagine it ever being said, and I am in complete agreement. Before being able to accept the surrender of another, a Dominant must be one who has already surrendered, to life itself, to reality, spirit, the universe (or however one wishes to express that ineffable truth). The Captain who may plot the course, yet knows that everyone on board is on a deeper journey of surrender to ocean and wind, and only by aligning themselves to the reality of these larger forces of life (nature and spirit), will the journey unfold.

At the same time, a Dom/me must always be humble enough to learn from a slave, knowing that the true Teacher is always a student of life. A slave, on Our path, is a strong, self-actualized being who thrives under Our direction, and brings strength, beauty, and wisdom to the tribe, where it is nourished and grows. I would say that our household is primarily a web of relationships, each an inseparable strand in the web, and it is the whole that defines us, rather than the specific way we may live one strand of that web at a specific time.

In a poly family, it is not possible, nor do I feel it is even desirable, that everyone have the same type of intimacy with everyone else, or that intimacy is made a group activity which often feels forced when I have heard of it being done. For us, the fundamental commitment is to the family as a whole, and within that absolute commitment, each is given the room to grown and nurture their own unique potential. My own initial awareness that a group of people could be bound more deeply than what I saw in ?vanilla? culture came from time I spent living with Native American people in the southwest. It took years to find as way to re-create a version of tribal intimacy that would make sense and work in the midst of modern society, and at that time I never could have envisioned the form it would eventually take.

Our lives are rooted in a spiritual path. If I had to give a name to it, I suppose animism is the closest. We share the basic worldview common to all indigenous people and some 99 percent of our human ancestors. The basic understanding of animists is that humans are no more or less significant or special than any other unique species, and that the entire community of life is intimately related and equally sacred. We know that our species is one equal part of the community of life, and extend that awareness to understanding the profound interconnection and sacredness of all parts of Earth, including rivers, mountains, etc. Ultimately, we feel that that there is no separation possible at the deepest layers of reality.

We also believe in working towards clarity of mind , communication, and thinking, and work hard to ?unlearn? cultural conditioning and belief systems. We appreciate science and reason as part of a larger whole that includes poetic and mystical insight, and tend to deeply investigate and rigorously question any belief system that is not supported by evidence. We find that being free of beliefs is truly liberating and allows us to embrace each other and the world itself without filters or concepts standing in the way.

We share your affinity for the wild places, and would one day love to live someplace away from the city, perhaps even in an intentional community (even if it is one we must begin ourselves). The sea and forest, the entire landscape here, calls to each of us, and even in the city we live but a few minutes from forested parkland and the Sound.

We too have a love for conversation that takes us to the heart of life and explores the layers of reality so we can fully experience and understand the world in all its mystery and beauty. At the same time, we laugh a lot, and realize we can never take our own thoughts too seriously.

I also find that the degree of honesty and integrity required in this way of life is simply absolute. This seems difficult for some people to grasp, as even loving vanilla relationships are often filed with ?little white lies.? But once we are free from self-importance, it really becomes hard NOT to be completely and transparently honest with the people in your tribe/family.

It is always a gift to find a kindred soul who sees the wonder and potential of life, and in particular, how that can be expressed through this way of life.

Walk in beauty and fire,
perfect love casts out all fear and fear is the root of all anger. one can only conquer with love and bring forth peace.look within yourself to cast out anger at yourself and forgive fully and you will find peace
when you do not compromise yourself for anyone else , when you remain true to yourself no mater what goes on about you .When you know yourself? and are strong? enough you can walk in perfect peace.It does not matter ,anothers actions or words if you have peace within yourself .be like the willow and bend in the wind but do not let the wind break you


blessings,joy and harmony
one cannot laugh withot shedding tears cannot shed tears without laughter close by .One cannot find peace until they know turbulence or unrest. and then know it will be ok.One cannot make perfect the path without stumbling first .and then the track becomes clear and the filly? runs kicking up her heels in delight.Old paths must be plowed under and new thoughts following new paths not the old ,

the Tao is becoming balanced.
It took many? heart wrenching hours today to stumble my way through an unchartered path bringing me to a much lighter place

I have have been Longing For .and I am grateful to the One who nudged me to finding the light

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