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	About violetaelf Profile Updated. I have found what I was looking for. I now belong to a wonderful Dom and not looking to be/play with anyone else. - Our couples profile is SolarAndViolet. I do still welcome friends and good conversations. I don't believe there is such a thing as "I have more than enough friends" :) I'm a very down-to-earthy and easy going person, not shy to talk about anything. So anyone still welcome to email here or the other profile for Sir and I. Bit about me. I'm a submissive woman with a lot of knowledge and some experience. I believe I have still much to learn about the lifestyle and myself and happy to be doing so with Sir. I know what I want in this life and in the lifestyle... There are many different opinions and styles I the BDSM world and not everyone is compatable. So each seeks and finds those that are. I'm an aspiring filmmaker and a screenwriter, so I love movies. I love traveling - when I can. Short trips, spending time in the park or around the city or in a coffee shop is great too. Important Note If you plan on emailing me a commercial of yourself or suggesting anything other than talk/friendship... Don't bother. Will be ignored and blocked. I am Happily Owned !! Thank you for reading the profile and good luck in your own search and/or life. 'violet'

So Excited !!!!? Sir's present for New Years was tickets to ShibariCon!!!? YEY! We are going! ?
I've never been, so I'm both nervous and excited.? Not sure what to expect, but I'm sure it'll be a lot of fun.

Well... It's now been 1 year of me living with my Sir? in Chicago.? -- On the side note , Chicago is NOT NYC and I do miss it a lot but --? I'm happy!!!? Right now.. as of this post - I'm happy.

Ok, I wish I could say that this past year was like a D/s Fairytale.? It hasn't. We have had our ups and downs...?
The First month was absolutely great... then..
I have lost my mom shortly after moving and that didn't help a thriving relationship.? Depression,? distance - cause and effect... working together to get through it.? Not working. D/s dry spell.? Then much talking - more talking - working things out.

I am glad to say though that it has been going uphill for the past couple of months.? It finally feels like we are almost back to where we were or rather.. where we should be.??? We are spending time with each other more and with kinky friends.? Getting back into our D/s routine and enjoying play and mundane life together.?

I can honestly say that I'm once again a happy subbie with my dear Sir!

It has FINALLY happened!!! I'm in Chicago!? (And I don't have to leave in 5-10-20 or 100 days! ) I'm so happy to be with my dear Sir and our cute 3 cats. (The 3 Musketeers are yet to get friendly)? The move was long and damn bumpy, with less than pleasant accident along the way, but everyone is alright and that's what matters.? Now, its a fresh and new start, happily in the arms of the man I belong to and love.?

Finally.. Profile Updated! :)

Feels nice to be up to date on things :) . Happily owned by my dear Sir.. and counting days till I move.

That's right, 36 Days (yes I'm counting!!) and I'll be moving to Chicago to start a new life with my Sir.
I will miss New York a lot, but I anticipate to return with Sir in a couple of years :)

Really.. I'm now only looking for friends and not potential partners. ? I do welcome good conversations and nice people to talk to and even meet as friends...

Update to the profile coming very soon... I promise.

NOTE - Because of some difficult time in my life... I am not actively looking for a partner right now... just no time, as much as I might want to. ? But talks, chats and friends though are still welcome...??

Here is another thing that I've encountered again and again on this (and other) site.
People who think (and can can you believe it that they also claim it) that the way they perceive the lifestyle is the ONLY right way.
I find it first - amusing - then quite -irritating- when I'm slammed for the way that I think the lifestyle is right for me.
People!!! Don't you think it's a bit pretentious pushing your ideas onto others and diminishing their devotion because they don't agree with you on everything?!? That's just disrespect!
Please try to understand that not one person lives their life just like the next one.? Each person adjusts to life in accordance with their likes, dislikes, sexual preferences, principles etc.. (list goes on and on)? Why can't the lifestyle be the same?? Who wrote the big bad book of laws?
If you don't match with someone on your views... guess what ???.. come on, guess.. go ahead.. I dare you to guess...
Fine, I'll tell you!.? - That person is NOT for you!? Keep looking! -? There is no need to push your views onto others.. discuss? sure.. but being rude and disrespectful of other people's preference?

So many folks, so many kinks... And people DO eventually find those that match them but it's not an easy search.. no one said it was!? So keep looking and be respectful, please!

Ok, I've been avoiding for a long time to write journal entry... but now I just have to.

Dear Men... whoever told you that using Domination to boost up your ego makes you a good Dom.... was full of BS. ? And whoever said that D/s relationship is typically the unfair one... (with a Dom having all the rights and say and Sub having none) probably had as much BS as the first one.?

D/s Relationship is first of and most importantly ... a PARTNERSHIP!? It's a wonderful thing where each party gets what they need and is able to express what they feel.? A Dom expresses the need to be in control and gets from the sub what he needs in order to do that.? The sub expresses the need to submit and gets from the Dom what is needed too...? Dispite one being in control and the other submitting it's still an equal partnership which based on trust and MUTUAL respect.? If you are a Dom that doesn't mean you don't have to respect the sub as a human being and an individual.

Ok.. enough said... for now.

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