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| I've been in the lifestyle and this website for a couple of years. It has taught me a lot about what I'm looking for I truly love a strong intellige sexy Man submitting to me. I want a man I can date go out to nice places, enjoy shows, movies all of that but knowing that I'm always in charge. FLR
to my friends it should look like hes just so chivalrous that's why he does everything for her. But only him and I would know it's because I own him and his happiness derives on my smile.
I want to be pampered. I want him to be my house boy. Clean my place. Serve me. Give me foot rubs and full body massage. please me with oral sex Do everything for me with no expectatioN.
I just moved back to NY would love to find a sub willing to please me.
* once in a while I like to be a switch. I like to get ked. But then I also like to be massaged to feel better.
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I'm writing after 3 years of being on this site and meeting a lot of subs, some were super hot that I actually wanted a relationship with but just like normal vanilla life they couldn't give me the attention I wanted and eventually things faded out. I learned a lot about myself. Things that I thought I would never be turned on by suddenly made me hot! The list of things is a journal for another day :)
I learned a lot about men I have met, they all say they love it when they just submit but deep down inside I really think they have a fantasy of what they want me to do. They have a all played out. If they are lucky enough to get to my place they want to ddo certain things because it takes them in that zone.
I get that, i really do but in this kind of scenario who is leading who. I learned the term topping from the bottom here.
I'll be honest. I have a kinky side, I like to be bossy, and firm. But I'm not into pain or humiliation on purpose. A guy doing everything for me, and if it so happens I want him dressed or undressed depending on my mood, its not humiliation it's devotion.
What happened to the chivalry, where the guy will stand up when the lady is leaving the table, or holding door, or putting coats on, or kneeling in front of her, or or or,
OK maybe some of it is bit too deep, but the bottom line is I question what am I exactly? I like the company of a man, a sexy intelligent one, I like the vanilla dating, I like the courting process, I think that is the only time I could be comfortable doing other things.
It;s funny how everyone here has an agenda and I time frame, why can't I just be asked out on a date..many dates where my mind can get turned on, or I go home with a smile on my face and wait for a text or call . I get it, this isn't match.com
But on match I wouldn't find anyone who is submissive. Why oh why must this be so hard. I get that submissive men wait for a cue, but I feel like if I'm not desired and it's a simple hey let me know when you want to meet up, or let me know when I can do ... for you. It really won't happen. I'm sure this is the wrong arena to write this but I'm curious to know if I'm the only one with this dilemma.
I want a sub chivalrous BF, one who will know how to make me laugh, who will be smart enough to pick up my eye signals when I want him to just bow down to me.
Oh yeah and flakes, why do you guys or girls even bother writing to people? How is that helpful to anyone?
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There must a subs guide to the lifestyle somewhere that says: if you want to back off a commitment that you made to your Goddess/Domme just simply say you are sick. Or, if you really don't want to go and clean her house in that french maid outfit that you enjoy way more than she does. Just explain that your schedule got so busy, that either you will just have an hour, or you aren't even sure when you will make it. Pretty much, make the offer so unattractive that the person expecting you says "forget it" hey..look at that now you are free and clear... you didn't cancel, but used a pussy way to back off of your commitment.
It just can't be a coincidence that every sub I have met on here swears it's all about me...but then when it is showtime or something they aren't crazy about doing ...all of a sudden guess what...their poor tummy starts hurting.
The point here is not that you have to do what ever I ask. I for all people know that moods change and minds change. No big deal. The point here is that even though I know you are a submissive I would like you to have the balls to speak your mind. I know you have them..maybe a little hidden or tucked but you do have them. Just say it how it is. If you have met in person, and deep inside you know it's not exactly what you are looking for. Speak up! We are all adults here. I think!! Don't change gears on your admiration and fantasy just to keep the connection going. I don't need casual friends, I have Facebook for that!
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| Age: 28 |
| New york,
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