Clearly this place is used as both a real meeting place for people who want to connect with the kinds of partners they seek for kinky adventures as well as a playground for ones who are nothing more than playing at fantasy games and not real or even pretending to be.
There should be room for both. The problem seems to be the crossover. Those who try to skirt the line between reality and fantasy. those people who try to pretend to be real when all they really are are players. Not fun players who laugh at the silliness of there made up profiles but those with sinister intentions of lying to people.... in the name of fun.
Those people who may even feel like it's harmless fun to play a role as if they are for real but when in fact they are not seem to not understand that if your not for real you should say so and not play the part as if they were.
If it's only role play, say so.
Please dont try to fool the people you are role playing with.
What often happens when people lie like that, is creating a situation where people could get attached to a make believe persona, then it all goes to hell when the truth finally starts to slip out and bitterness and anger often surface in the place where a real connection or a fun fantasy should be.
What has happened to me more than once is to get to liking the person i'm writing to and believing they are real and everything going well. Lots of fun fantasy and sexy adventures, then if i get a bit suspicious over some reason or another that i may be being faked again and ask for them to "finally" prove to me they are for real....i'm suddenly the bad guy!!!
They get all indignant and dig in and try to hold onto the claim they are for real but because i dared to ask them to prove they are, i am some bitch who cant trust and trying to top from the bottom or any number of excuses to cover up that they are the one who caused all of the confusion and issues by not being honest in the first place.
If this site is a playground for your fantasies, good for you. Enjoy it. But please...please dont let the fantasy cross over into reality. It wont last. It will only cause anger and hurt in the end.
No matter how much you may try to tell yourself or me that if i'm enjoying it and if i just let go of wanting to know if you are real or not and just play along, there is no harm in it, you are wrong.
It always...always ends badly if you try to fake people.
i hope that person got something from that. i never heard back from them.
What i got from it was verify way sooner than that. Try to be sure who you are "getting to know" as best you can. At least gender, if it matters to you.
Sure, a lot of people use fake pics as an avatar of sorts. i have no problem with a bunch of flowers or stick figure as an avatar. It's when you say you are a person in some pics or a vid be ready to back it up with cam or verification pics or something solid. Even if you are like me and dont show your face online at least be able to show your gender.
NO..NO guys...that was not a request for dick pictures! NO.....lol...
i'm not talking about sexual or even nude photos or cam. Just a simple verification you dont have a beard or hairy back. ;)
