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 ! ! ! Hi Everybody ! ! !
I hope you are all well. I am proud to invite you to my drum class, 'Tabla Arabia's' performance at the Belly Dance Festival this year. It is Friday August 17th at the Cultural Celebration Center in West Valley City on the East side of Redwood road behind the Redwood Recreation Center between 3100 South and 3500 South. We will have some stage time during the open dance from noon to 2:00 p.m. and we will retake the stage from 9:40 p.m. to 9:50 p.m. to perform our rehearsed piece.
Even though I would love to see all of you there, I realize that may not be possible, I wanted to share my enthusiasm and to stay in touch. I wish the best for all of you.
Break A Leg, Opah!
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Excerpt from anothers e-mail
I place it here in support of our troops
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If the Red shirt thing is new to you, read below...
Last week, while traveling to Chicago on business, I
noticed a Marine sergeant traveling with a folded
flag, but did not put two and two together.
After we boarded our flight, I turned to the sergeant,
who'd been invited to sit in First Class (across from
me), and inquired if he was heading home.
No, he responded.
Heading out I asked?
No. I'm escorting a soldier home.
Going to pick him up?
No. He is with me right now. He was killed in Iraq ,
I'm taking him home to his family.
The realization of what he had been asked to do hit me
like a punch to the gut. It was an ho nor for him. He
told me that, although he didn't know the soldier, he
had delivered the news of his passing to the soldier's
family and felt as if he knew them after many
conversations in so few days.
I turned back to him, extended my hand, and said,
Thank you. Thank you for doing what you do so my
family and I can do what we do.
Upon landing in Chicago the pilot stopped short of the
gate and made the following announcement over the
intercom.
"Ladies and gentlemen, I would like to note that we
have had the honor of having Sergeant Steeley of the
United States Marine Corps join us on this flight. He
is escorting a fallen comrade back home to his family.
I ask that you please remain in your seats when we
open the forward door to allow Sergeant Steeley to
deplane and receive his fellow soldier. We will then
turn off the seat belt sign."
Without a sound, all went as requested. I noticed the
sergeant saluting the casket as it was brought off the
plane, and his action made me realize that I am proud
to be an American.
So here's a public Thank You to our military Men and
Women for what you do so we can live the way we do.
Red Fridays.
Very soon, you will see a great many people wearing
Red every Friday. The reason? Americans who support
our troops used to be called the "silent majority." We
are no longer silent, and are voicing our love for
God, country and home in record breaking numbers. We
are not organized, boisterous or overbearing.
Many Americans, like you, me and all our friends,
simply want to recognize that the vast majority of
America supports our troops. Our idea of showing
solidarity and support for our troops with dignity and
respect starts this Friday -- and continues each and
every Friday until the troops all come home, sending a
deafening message that .. every red-blooded American
who supports our men and women afar, will wear
something red.
By word of mouth, press, TV -- let's make the United
States on every Friday a sea of red much like a
homecoming football game in the bleachers. If every
one of us who loves this country will share this with
acquaintances, coworkers, friends, and family, it will
not be long before the USA is covered in RED and it
will let our troops know the once "silent"
majority is on their side more than ever, certainly
more than the media lets on.
The first thing a soldier says when asked "What can we
do to make things better for you?" is. "We need your
support and your prayers." Let's get the word out and
lead with class and dignity, by example, and wear
something red every Friday.
IF YOU AGREE -- THEN SEND THIS ON.
IF YOU COULDN'T CARE LESS -- THEN HIT THE DELETE
BUTTON.
Tie me, bind me with Your love.
_______________________
Sincerely, and with great respect for our armed forces everywhere.
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SUNDAY, JUNE 17th, 2007
KINKY PRIORITIES SHIFTING:
I believe my top two kinks are changing places. It used to be that spankings, whippings and beatings (what I commonly refer to simply as torture) was number one on my list of turn ons with subservience taking a strong second.
Now I find myself more frequently obsessed by the consept of full subservience. Not someone to beat on or be-little by any stretch of the imagination but a full free citizen who has made a conscious desision to follow a very stylized vocation of specialized personal service. It can be most alluring. |
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This is one of my 3 day weekends. Tonight I'm starting a new Ti Chi class then I'm going to try to video tape a drum recital at the Grecian Gardens. I'd also like to see Space Shuttle Atlantis STS-117 lift off this evening.
Tomoorow night I have a pair of free tickets for arena football at the Delta (Energy Solutions) Center.
Sunday night I'm driving down to the Spanish Fork Krishna Temple. I haven't been in so long I may not remember how to get there.
Monday morning I have a dentist appointment.
I'd also like to see the Dark Arts Festival sometime this weekend but I'm not sure which night I'm going to go. And I might squeeze some shopping in. Other than that it's just another boring weekend behind the Zion curtain. Then it's back to work at the salt mine, I've gotta sleep some time ya' know! How about you? |
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Phantom of the Opera Effect
How are you my friend? I hope that you are having a wonderful weekend, (wink-wink, nudge-nudge). I have been enjoying myself and I've learned a few things as well.
Friday night I went down to Area 51 all dressed up in standard issue Gothic black. I thought I looked rather hot, but what surprised me, was that nobody seemed to notice. I felt invisible. Needless to say I was put out.
Saturday afternoon I met with a nice young man I found on collarme and went to lunch and a movie. I wore my white double breasted sport jacket with shirt and tie and people were almost falling over themselves. It was like the circus had come to town (which was the effect I was going for all weekend!  )
The things that I have learned from these two separate events is:
1) I think I understand a little more about the term, 'detonator'. I looked good Saturday and I have started wearing a sports jacket more frequently because I like the reactions I get from people when I do, but I think that they were more effected than normal because this boy was with me and he was actually acting like my boy. He did little things like walking just a step behind and to the side of me in a deferential position, and when I wanted something from a vendor I would discuss it with him first, then hand him the money and let him take care of the actual transaction while I just stood back and watched as if I was someone special. Laugh at me if you must, but this is one of the sorts of non sexual power exchange that I enjoy.
2) I think that I'm starting to discover one of my basic desires. I want to be desired by those I find desirable. That may sound like a, "Well da!" statement, but it feels new to me in a way I'm interested in exploring. Let me give you an example. There was a pretty little girl behind one of the counters at the mall Saturday and when the two of us walked by she seemed to light up with an internal radiance which just screamed, "I'm attracted to you."
The funny thing was that it hit the same pleasure center in my brain that I get when I'm enjoying flogging someone. I could tell that I was changing the chemical levels in her brain, even though we weren't touching, right through her eye holes! Just because she looked at me! That was an incredible turn on. I want to explore this aspect of power exchange almost as much as I want to have rough hot kinking sex! I'm starting to think of it as the Phantom of the Opera Effect.
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 !!! HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY !!!
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Differeent Drummers
If you do not want what I want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if my beliefs are different from yours, at least pause before you set out to correct them.
Or if my emotion seems less or more intense than yours, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel other than I do.
Or if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, please let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up trying to change me into a copy of you.
If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself to the possibility that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear as right-for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me.
Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And one day, perhaps, in trying to understand me, you might come to prize my differences, and far from seeking to change me, might preserve and even cherish those differences.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, your colleague. But whatever our relation, this I know: You and I are fundamentally different and both of us have to march to our own drummers.
Intro to PLEASE UNDERTAND ME II, TEMPERAMENT, CHARACTER INTELLIGENCE. By David Keirsey
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I just found the most amazing quote:
"To fight the Empire is to be infected by its derangement. This is a paradox; whoever defeats a segment of the Empire becomes the Empire; it proliferates like a virus, imposing its form on its enemies. Thereby it becomes its enemies."
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A quote from another source that once I had read I wanted to share.
beautiful~
Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly!
Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. .
And never regret anything that made you smile.
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 !!! HAPPY MOTHERS DAY !!!
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I did the breast cancer 'race for a cure'/walk-a-thon, this morning. I completed the 5k course in a blistering 1 hour and 2 minutes, about middle of the pack. Not bad for an old man.
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The performance at the Grecean Garndens went wonderfully tonight. It was the biggest turn out in the two weeks that I've been playing there. My roommate, a few of the office girls from work and even a past co-worker came to see tonights performance. I had a blast. I met a drum instructor who studied under the same drum instructor as I did. I think I'll be taking classes from him.
I learned a new rhythm tonight called Misirlou. This is what Wikipedia has to say about the rhythm:
"Misirlou" (Greek : ??s?????, 'Egyptian Girl'; from Turkish "Misirli" 'Egyptian', fromArabic ???, Mi?r, "Egypt"), is a popular Greek song with a cult-like popularity in four very diverse styles of music: Greek rebetiko, Middle-Eastern belly dancing, Jewish wedding music (Klezner), and American surf rock.
I just love this new rhythm and can't get it out of my head. I'm having so much fun. |
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 Had another wonderful
performance tonight and we'll be back at the Grecian Gardens tomorrow night at 8 P.M.!
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The performance went well last night. There was a child in the audiance who was seeing a live belly dancer for his first time. He was absolutely spell bound/star struck. From my vantage point up on the stage behind and above the dancer it was as if I could see right down into the little boys soul. The novelty and pure wonder of the moment was captured right on his little face.
I think that's the kind of PERFECT MOMENT experience that some of us are trying to recapture. It's just a little bit more difficult as we get older. I have felt that way in scene and I seek to repeat the experience. |
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I'm honestly more interested in role identification than gender. I've identified several different kinds of submissives and I find that I'm much more attracted to a specfic kind of submissive/slave than the gender that spirit inhabits.
Tanos writes that, "...the domestic model (of slavery) puts the slave as part of the household and within the scope of an extended family, and in the case of concubines and companions, highly valued members of it."
And;
"...We see the love letters and poems exchanged by Ottoman sultan Suleiman the Magnificent and his Ukrainian slave Roxelana, whilst the highest ministers of his government and the generals of his army were slaves."
These are the types of slave role models that I wish to explore. I want the person that submits to me and accepts my collar to be a free person. Does that make sense? It seems contrary, but I feel it in my bones. I was very happy when I read these phrases. How do you feel?  |
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Amatuers buit the Ark
Professionals buit the Titanic
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Drum rehearsed for a little bit this morning. My drumming muscles are starting to get sore, back of the upper arms. I feel like a rusty old saw, but I hope with a little oil & hard work, I can get back to the level of performanced that I have achieved in the past.
Replaced my noble steeds right front tire. My baby is now running AND rolling much better. I'm pleased to anounced that the nuts and bolts which are key parts to this search and dominate operation are being maintained at optimal efficiency.
The quest continues . . . ... |
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Happy Cinco De Mayo !!!
I got to sleep in this morning. It felt so luxurous. All is right in the Dragon's Universe. I got my noble steel a (much needed) tune up and replacement oil pump. She has much more power now. I also got a
good rehearsal in before the performance tonight.
I had a lot of fun performing tonight. I sat in with a couple of other musicians tonight. We played to taped Global music that was new to me. It was really great. They even had a grape vine dance were the patrons get up on the dance floor with the belly dancer and formed a long chain, dancing around in a big circle, symbolizing the Great Spiral of Life. It felt ancient, primal and sophisticated all at the same time. A place that is not a place and a time out side of time. Connected to a place/time that has a different continuity than the one which I'm used to working with on a daily basis. It felt magickal. Thus the art of dance.
There was a shy teenage boy who gave the dancer a tip. He was very nervous. He had his big toe stuck in the sand. She tried to get him to dance with her in vain. I think this may have been his first introduction to belly dancing. I love seeing that look of wonder, it is a pure moment.
We played for about an hour. We had so much fun. We are scheduled to perform again Monday night at 7 pm. Wish us luck!
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Wtih a Spring in My Step
A Son in My Heart
And a Glint in My Eye
I Move Forth to Meet My Destiny
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Dyed my hair purple yesterday morning after work. Will have pics to share soon. |
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I went to dinner the other night and the belly dancer came up to talk to our table. I let her know that my drum was out in the car and she invited me up to drum for her! She invited me back again tonight. The performance went wonderfully. I feel a little rusty, and my endings still need more work (nothing that can't be fixed w/more practice!), but I'm performing again. I'm so happy. She invited me back again Saturday night. Yeah! I have always loved rhythm and performing. |
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The Fine Art of Being Served
Perceive the quality and level of service performed by
uncollared, vanilla, real world, everyday service providers. |
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Definition of slave
One bound in servitude as the property of a person or household.
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One who is abjectly subservient to a specified person or influence: "I was still the slave of education and prejudice" (Edward Gibbon).
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One who works extremely hard.
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A machine or component controlled by another machine or component.
To work very hard or doggedly; toil.
To trade in or transport slaves
As far as the Slavs' own self-designation goes, its meaning is, understandably, better than "slave"; it comes from the Indo-European root *kleu-, whose basic meaning is "to hear" and occurs in many derivatives meaning "renown, fame." The Slavs are thus "the famous people."
American Heritage Dictionary
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My current area of interest is the difference between a boy/girl, submissive and a slave. |
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Calmly he faces down a mealstrom and celebration of human insight, technology and innovation awhirl and alive at his finger tips. |
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How do you fancy the term
Modern Erotic Edwardian
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She hides in the Darkness
Pulling nite around her like a living thing
Knowing that he wears nite like a second skin |
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No matter our level of play, we can all relax just a little bit in the knowledge that we are not alone, it's not all in our heads and that there are others of like minds we can talk to about this situation. |
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Through my travels I have learned that
1) It's a numbers game.
2) I'm not the only one.
3) To take a deep breath, relax, enjoy the chase and to be pateint. (Large Dominate Sadistic Demonic Made Dragon hunkers down and glowers in consternation as he faces down his dark reality!)
4) That single sentence e-mails without photos are NOT appriciated.
5) And that being a submissive does not imply being a door mat, confusion could incure consequenses. |
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2nd Yoga class was fantastic! I really like this new Kundalini style of yoga. Last week was a real kick in my complacency this week was just pure breathing technique. Hope y'all are having a good time. |
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IT IS BY WILL ALONE:
It is by will alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the
juice of java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire
a shaking, the shaking become a warning. It is by will alone I
set my mind in motion.? |
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Litany against fear
I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain. |
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Perspective determins Reality
Focus determins Perspective
Change Your Focus,
Change Your Perspective
Change Your Perspective,
Change Your Reality
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Good evening everybody,
Happy Friday the 13th! How are you this fine evening? I hope that you are well. I just got back from my monthly dip at Crystal Hot Springs up in Honeyville, UT.
http://www.crystalhotsprings.net/
Good God how I love that place! I went to a new yoga instructor Tuesday night who bent me into new and interesting shapes (ala Dragon in the shape of a pretzel)! I felt really good that night at work and had plenty of energy left when my shift was finished the next morning. It wasn't until I wokeup ready for my next shift (Wednesday night) that I realized that I had really over done it and nearly done myself an injury. I felt as if someone had pulled my arms out of their sockets and put them back on reveresed and backwards! I'm not kidding! Not only was I unable to open the katchup bottle, but I was having trouble keeping the darn thing in my grasp once the lid was off! Wednesday night I would have greeted the end of the world with grattitude! So I took some apserin, drank plenty of water and soaked my tired bones in the healing waters of the hot spring for a couple of hours and I can finally tie my own shoe laces again!
Have you been to the hot springs up in Honeyville? It's a wonderful place. I'd love to take you there eigther in the role as your Dom or just as a friend sharing a fabulous treasure. It really is a great place to heal from lifes little aches and pains. I started out as a natural sun worshipper being born a cold blooded dragon. As I've gotten older and lost some insulation this last year (yeah!) what little tolerance I did have to the cold seems to have decrease. I forget how cronicly chilled I am most of the time until I get right up to an 114 degree water nosle and just RELAX!
Can you tell me what in my profile attracts you as a submissive and what you feel is less attractive or could use some more word-smith polish? To paraphrase Tanos from Roles in Household D/s;
http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/67883/
I am seeking those who wish to submit to my hedonistic/sadistic desires and to serve me as companion (both publicly and privately), secretary, advisor/confidante, menial house slave, concubine/odalisque/plaything or pet and student, to enhance my cultural and social wealth.
Not necessarily a girl-friend although girls who are friends are very valuable indeed!
Which of these roles are you most attracted to and want to see more of in your life? How strongly do the trappings of slavery (collars, chains, stockades, etc.,) affect you? Which one is your favorite and least favorite? If I were to give you one gift of a BDsM nature which one would you choose for yourself and remember fondly for years to come? What part of this wonderful life style have you yet to explore but yearn to? If I have it within my power to give, I will.
As always I await your reply with fondness and anticipation.
Sincerely
Top Dragon in SLC
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1st TIME
I like to take my time to develope a scene, savoring each step along the way. I like to great and relax with my play partner in their everday persona, the face that they present to the rest of the world, just being themselves.
I like to recognizing and appriciatig the free person who is preparing to give me the very valueble gift of their submission and service. For me, this establishes a beginning point of mutual respect, one which we hope to return to at the end of the scene. It is at this point that I like to review the agreed upon outline of the scene, safe words (btw what safe words are you familiar with?) and limits. Covering any new developements that may have occured; recent hang nails, up set stomach, updated time constraints or new sore spot that occure just through the day to day job of living life.
Once we are confortable and relaxed around each other, I then like my sub to start out by dimming the lights, lighting candles and incense, turning off phones & pagers and going to the bathroom to get dress for play. This is more than just functional. It gives the person a chance to steady their nerves and gives a break between real outside life, time/space and the spell that I want to create in play space. I like my subs to be clothed in what I call dressed nakedness. BDsM jewelry that enhances not covers nakedness. For me, costuming and mental head space could be some of the biggest parts of my BDsM play.
I then move onto the actual accpetance of submission. This is usually signified by a collaring and bracelet ceremony but other tokens have been used. I like lots of long deep eye contact here. I like my subs to verbalize their agreement to accept (even beg for) my dominance over them. The sub is almost always kneeling for this part. It sets the boundary between their willing submission and to my acceptance of their submission. The actual verbal agreement between 2 willing partners may not seem of interest to others, but it has such a powerful effect on myself and those I have played with, that I just can't pass it up. From this point until we are finished with the scene I will think and act as my subs Dominate, responsible for and enjoying the prvilages of owning (if only briefly) another human being. To me this is the most erotic form of play available. It taps into my core being as if I were hardwired for it. I can and have enjoyed many other forms of entertainment & recreation but none even come close to the turn on I experience when another person kneels and presents themselves to me for collaring as my submissive slave.
I don't think of myself as a cruel or uncaring Dom, far from it! Even though I am a masochistic and misogynistic by nature. In fact I take my role as Dominate very seriously. I am not thoughtless nor frivolous with those who submit themselves to me. I want them to feel well taken care of while in a vulnerable state and as passionately motiveated for this kind of play as I am. My technique is to ramp physical pain such as spankings & whippings to increase my subs endurance, I encourage, compliment and congradulate to express my sincere appriciation and I hug and cuddle aftwards to convey my thorough enjoyment for a job well done. I also like to reward good service with little trinkets that can be worn and displayed during play, like badges of achievement, rings, bracelets, bells etc.
I honestly feel that the gift a free person makes of their service is more valueble than that taken from a helpless victim.
Next I like my slave to do something for me in a subservient manner. Freshen my drink, message my shoulders or feet, pick an impliment of torture for use on their willing back side. This is where they can express their continued acceptance and eagerness to continue playing the new roles we have just donned. It reafirms that I have done nothing against their true will and we have a green light for deeper play. This is when I like to make a remind of proper scene etiquette.
This is were most people think that the real play begins. The top topping their bottom in an orgasmic display of sadomasochistic or sexual deprivaty with lots of moaning and sweating. Each scenen is different. Each pair of Tops and bottoms are unique. BDsM covers a lot of turf and we each have our own needs wants and desires to address.
With some subs I tend to stay indoors were it would be less likely to reveal your submissive/slave nature to your society. Lots of bondage and beatings with emphasis on obedience training, posturing, play at being objects such as human furnature and correctly interpretting verbal and non verbal ques, perhaps afterwards sharing a movie together such as Memoirs of a Geisha or 9 & 1/2 Weeks. Do you have any idea how much your thoughts can can change during a simple 15 minutes session as someones non verbal foot rest?
With others I'm seeking a more out going presentation, in scene costumed shopping trips to the Mall, the theatre, a car wash, picnic lunch in the park and another trip to Crystal Hot Springs would be wonderful! Combine my love for hot water and slavery would put me about three stages past seventh heaven!
It really just depends on what the submissive agrees to with me. We are discussing the meshing and melding of powerful urges that compliment each other sometimes and contradict one another at other times. It is a very difficult relationship to balance.
To wrap things up I like to provide a feast for sharing afterwards. Something that signifies the completion of a succesful play scene. This provides grounding and a chance to reflect on the shared experience. I really do want my submissives to feel appriciated, happy and eager to return to me.
Then we take off the collar. For most, if i've done my job right, this is like loosing a necesary part of themselves that they are unwilling to give up. Then they go back into the bathroom to put their street clothes back on, come out and turn up the lights, turn phones and pages back on and back out into the harsh reality of everyday life.
I usually like to check up on my submissives the next day or so to discuss the scene, especaily if it was a long or hard one (pun intended!).
That's my BDsM side in a nut shell. I'm erotic, passionate, caring and compitent. Please let me know if you are interested in a playing with me sometime. If nothing else it's always nice to know that there are others in this community that we share and even if we don't play together at least we don't have to be alone with our dark little secrets.
Sincerely
Top Dragon in SLC
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Male Dominant, 46
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Female Dominant, 39, Lincoln, Illinois
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Male Dominant, 29, St. Louis, Missouri
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Male Dominant, 57, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
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Male Dominant, 41, Boston, Massachusetts
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Male Dominant, 45, Raleigh, North Carolina
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Male Switch, 33, belgium
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Male Dominant, 44
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Male Dominant, 45, Raleigh, North Carolina
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Male Dominant, 49, Norfolk, Virginia
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Male Submissive, 31, a a venice, Florida
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Male Dominant, 53, Topeka, Kansas
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