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	About tomthedom Natural Dom, seeking a natural submissive woman. Here is what you get with me: Busy Businessman & Divorced Dad. I am "married" to my work (which is probably why I am otherwise divorced!) but I am devoted to my two sons, as such my time is precious. That said, I am focused like a laser at the "here and now" so if you do have my attention, it is 100% - guaranteed. I do not look at the D/s thing as "play acting" so much as just the way things are. A good Dom/sub relationship is like a musician and an instrument. The moods and feelings put into the playing are reflected in the music... even the same song will sound different when played under different moods and environments. The beauty of the relationship is only enhanced by the sub, and how she responds. My goal is not to abuse or control, I'm not into the whole 7/24 thing (as I said, my time is divided elsewhere!) But I would love to find a circumstance where I could find a woman who like me, just needs an occasional session. Simple, uncomplicated D/s now and then. At times, it could be as simple as walking in, grabbing a handful of hair and gently bending you over a countertop, or couch. Reaching up your skirt, ripping off your panties, and satisfying myself before I leave. Ideally I'd like to find a woman who is mature, which is more about attitude than age! A woman who is self-confident but fully aware of her submissive side. Affectionate, but not "needy." I'm financially quite well off, but I am NOT looking to be somebody's 'sugar daddy", please look elsewhere if financial support is your primary motivation. It will likely take a while to find such a sub, I'm patient in that regard. I have no need to quickly jump on every opportunity, so you'll need to be patient too. We'll email and chat for a while prior to meeting or any first "session". Thanks for reading this far, and if you think we might make a good match, let me know. One last thing: After having been out on a few dates of late, I think I'd rather not waste any more time with women under the age of 30 or so. (unless you are really mature.) I'm reminded now why I always dated older women when I was in my teens and early 20s! Young women are (mostly... I'm sure there are exceptions... feel free to prove it to me) clueless about life; what they want; who they are; etc. I've already raised kids, I don't need to date one! ;-)

Wondering if there are any women in central Oregon who love to iron shirts. I have a bunch of them waiting for you! Plus a few buttons to sew on. Will gladly provide a good spanking in exchange for your services. ;)

If there is one thing I don't like about this Internet "dating/meetup/whatever" thing, it is being jerked around. It is frustrating to put a lot of time and effort into the process, only to be told at the last possible moment "thanks, but no thanks". Ladies, if there isn't any chemistry in your head 30 minutes into our face-to-face meeting, then say it then, and save us a lot of time. kthxbye!

Leaving Virginia tomorrow - it has been a very nice two weeks and I spent some time with some wonderful people here. I hope to come back soon!

Once again back in Virginia for a long-term business trip. At least it has cooled down from last time!

I just stumbled upon a photo on a profile here that stopped me in my tracks. I just had to stare at it.?

Finally made it to Virginia after an epic journey.?

Biz has me traveling to No. Virginia area for the next several months. Would love to find somebody to meet with and pass the time in an enjoyable way.

Does anyone under the age of 38 NOT have a tattoo? The rate of conformity among non-conformists is so disappointing once realized.

I've been stuck in a datacenter (a chilled warehouse full of computers for those that don't know... for all I know this website could be in the same room!) in Virginia for the past 3 days straight. I honestly have no idea what day it is anymore. I only know where I am based on the funny way people talk when I go outside to eat.

Dammit I could use an ass to spank into subission right now!

Hopefully flying back home soon.

Looking at a possible move, east of the mountains. Bizarre for a west-sider like me to contemplate, but there it is. A new gig that would keep me in the region more (if not always) but more than an hour's drive from my kids. Struggling with that possibility and all the implications. Not to mention my personal life... is there anyone even over there to date? ;)

I spent the past week in New Jersey... it felt like a month! So nice to be home in Seattle... cool, clear, and comfortable!

Insane week... had a last minute business trip out of town that turned into a marathon. Haven't seen my kids in two weeks... feels like an eternity.

I've noted something of a theme in all my recent conversations and meetings with subs from this site... namely that they ALL remark how "normal" I am.

I don't know what that says about me, or more to the point, what it says about the rest of the men here!? ;)

Should I be offended? Or should I be pleased with myself?

I wonder.

Apologies to those that I was just getting to know in May & June. In late June my uncle in Montana fell very ill and went out to see him. We were always very close... he was something of a mentor to me when I was young. Always ready with sage advice and confidence in me. He passed away in July and I've been dealing with the settlement of his estate. Lots of travel, time with attorneys, hassles with family members who never liked him when he was alive but all wanted a slice of him after he was gone... sigh. Took way longer than it should, and of course made my busy work/life even busier.

Anyway, that chapter is now over and I hope to get back to normal again. Again, apologies to those of you to whom it appears I disappeared. I did not intend that. If you are willing to try again, let me know.

--Tom

Been away for a while, sorry folks.? Looking once again.

--Tom

OK... I just don't understand it when people have completely empty, or almost empty profiles.

--Tom

Too many things happening at once. My housemate is leaving the country again, so I'll have at least a month of peace & quiet. The potential sub that I'm literally *just* getting to know is moving away in the next few months. That is disappointing since we seem to connect, despite our complete lack of schedule synchronization. I'm happy for her though as it sounds like a great job opportunity. Besides, as much as I travel, I'll likely show up where she's going at some point!

I'd like to enjoy what time we've got left though.

--Tom

Back in town.

Another one of those "drop everything and go" biz trips. I had to return tonight though, to be here for my son's birthday. Need to resurface here too, and get back into life.

--Tom

Met somebody here. Nice first date. Very. Quick second meeting, Chat almost daily. No "play" yet, but I'm not in a rush. Our schedules are seriously out of? sync, so it has been tough to get together. Grrrr.

--Tom

Just returned from a long biz trip, with a small side-trip for some skiing. Boy did I need that after a week on the east coast.?

OK, I remember why now I really like this site.? I had a great introductory conversation tonight. left me in a great mood.

--Tom

Started looking seriously again, as the potential sub that seemed so promising has seemingly? flaked. Oh well.

Noticed several new users, but so many of them nothing, or next to nothing in their profiles... what's up with that? Hard to pick a book off the shelf if all it has on the cover is "Book". :\

C'mon ladies, tell us something about yourselves.

--Tom

I've been offline for a while... travelling on business to the midwest (ugh). I love to travel usually, but this trip was just drudgery, and this whole "post 9/11" security stuff has made the whole experience just that much more annoying. I found out halfway there that my passport has expired. I used to do a LOT of International travel, and have gotten used to using my passport as my ID of choice while dealing with the circus that has become airport security. I had a long layover in O'Hare and left the terminal to look for the very cool little museum they have in the airport somewhere. Upon going back through security I had all sorts of drama when one of the TSA guys spotted my expiration date on the passport of Nov 05. You would have thought I was a known terrorist or something. sigh.

I felt like such a dork... now I have to jump through hoops to get a new one instead of the simple renew option. C'est la vie.

On a more positive note: Upon my return I did have another brief encounter with this new person I met here on CM. Just left me wanting more. I need to do a schedule shuffle to make some time for this.

--Tom

I had a pleasant, and completely spontaneous meeting with a wonderful sub met here yesterday evening. One of those "I'm free now/So am I... let's meet" sort of things. Funny how those always are the best way to meet... no time to work up any doubts, just dive in.

Pleasant conversation, and a wonderful, though brief? meeting. I'm looking forward to getting to know her better.

--Tom

Thanks to "bottominwa" who provided me with a nice reminder message tonight... While those of us of a Dominant nature don't respond well to a boot to the head or a slap on the face,? a nice poke with a sense of humor works wonders. Yes, all work, no play does make Jack a dull boy. I need to quit complaining here, and focus on having some fun. If I complain in this journal again, go ahead and remind me of that. ;)

Thanks again, sabrina. Hang in there, He'll be back.

--Tom

Can't wait for the holidays to be over.? Been travelling too much for work (though that won't stop any time soon!) Add to that holiday stuff, and it becomes impossible to have any sort of social life. Apologies to those whose emails I've been slow to answer, or with whom I have made abortive attempts to meet. Perhaps soon.

Grrr... back into the "work, work, work" mode again. Too much happening and not enough fun.

I'm physically exhausted, but mentally enervated. I just arrived home from the most enjoyable date/play-session I think I've ever had. Hard to describe how good I feel. You know who you are, and all I can say at the moment is "wow" and "we really need to do that again." But first I have to get some sleep. --Tom

If you send me something for the first time, please don't send me one-word emails. I don't understand the point of just saying "hi" or "hello"... beyond the real world experience of walking past somebody on the street and saying "hi." If you want to start a conversation, then you should put some more effort into it then that. =P --Tom

I really like this site. Just in the past four days I've had very interesting conversations with several very interesting people. After yet another long "dry spell" of too much work and essentially NO fun, it looks like I'll be getting out again soon. I need to, before I become a dull boy!

Been keeping busy. Met somebody here for an event... probably didn't present well as I was very tired. Oh well, maybe next time. Been out on a couple of dates... one with a "vanilla" person intro'ed by a friend. Quite pleasant. I'm not easy to surprise, but she surprised me with some good kissing. I had forgotten what a great kiss is like! (My ex was an awful kisser... makes me wonder why I ever...) Maybe I'll give her a little spanking on our next date and see how she reacts! >=) --Tom

Work, work, work... Been so busy. It seems I have lost my own life lately. I really need to take a break... or find some evening or late activities to get my mind off of work work work! =P --Tom

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