Tinker777

This is a note I sent to certain lady member who shall remain qqqqq from DC...************************




Damn...sorry to hear that your experience in this is soooo bad. Not all of us are morons nor are all of us looking for some live fuck doll. Some of us want the dynamic of the power exchange along with the romance and communication and committment that SHOULD be a part of any relationship not just a BDSM relationship. Of al these emials you have read have any of them expressed an articulate and reasoned approach to BDSM? Have you ever had a good and fufilling BDSM experience/relationship? I have no idea about how long you have been in the scene but to get 4000 emails it must have been a while and NONE of those were expressed by people that were intelligent and seemed to be genuine? If this is true I am honestly shocked and dismayed. Anyway I am sincerely sorry if the morons have given you that impression.

Sincerely,

T************************





This is the response I recieved...********************




Your email is no more intelligent than all the others.   First of all, I am in  no "scene" of any sort,  all these mails are just from users on collarme,   second of all,  "signing"  your mail with a letter instead of a name is a sign how ignorant, rude and impolite you are.    This is a kind of behavior a real mature person doesn't have !!
Therefore your mail is not a little bit better than all the others,  meaning,  you are not different !!**************************


And then of course I was blocked from responding...and she wonders why she gets treated like she does. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see why she is alone. Her issues are obviously ....legion.

Rants About the "Lifestyle"....
****warning if you easily have your sensibilities offended you might to stop reading now**** 
1. Wannabe Doms-- I was going to call this part "Stupid Doms" but the sad truth is if you are that stupid you can't be a real Dom.  You know the ones I am talking about the ones who start conversations demanding submission in their first contacts.  Also the ones who are not articulate and have no clue how to express themselves.  A real Dom knows that this is an expression of themselves and is not threatened by others opinions and ideas.  If you attempt to open a conversation with something like "You look like you would make a good f*ck pig" or something along those lines then you are either a fool or a stupid tool. 
2. Stupid Subs-- You know who you are... You are the ones who have this view that submission is something out of an Anais Nin story...there is a reason it is called "FICTION".  Romance is a gift...not a right. And anyone who expects the "Grand romance" 24/7 is a fool. No one can do that, this thing called "real Life" gets in the way. Romance is like a fine wine..if you had it every day it would just become Kool-Aid eventually. This is not to say you shouldn't have it sometimes but it can't be all or even a majority of the time. Respect means a lot more than romance. 
3.Polyamory---*eyeroll* What utter complete hogwash. Let's describe what it really is..."I can't commit to anyone and I like to f*ck around." And I know all you "Poly" types are going to say..."You don't understand." Bullsh*t..."Committment" implies sacrifice and the first thing you should forgo in a romantic committment is the f*cking around. If you want to be in a poly relationship at least be honest with yourself and those around you. 
4. Topping From Below-- Oh this is going to piss off a lot of "subs" and I don't care.  Any sub waaaay too specific in what they want. You know the ones I mean, the ones who will describe how they like to be scened in florid detail with 8 X 10 color glossies with an instruction manual as well. And those who will not open their minds to other things and aren't willing to explore the more emotional and mental aspects of BDSM.  It's simple...you want absolute control over a Top's actions and the scene. This is so your expectations are absolutely met. Why don't you just become a Top and be done with it. 
5. Desperate Subs-- These are the ones who will forgo their children, lives, morality and anything else in the quest to be accepted.  You say "I have slave tendancies" Yeah well the last time I checked real slavery is immoral and illegal. You want to be truly loved and accepted? start with loving and accepting yourself. No Dom that is worth a damn is going to want someone they cannot respect. That is why you get used and tossed aside all the time. Your issues are profound and legion. 
6. Cloemindedness -- These are my favorites. You can tell them in their profiles. "I won't talk to this kind of person or I won't accept this kind of person"...etc...etc.. If someone is willing to have an exchange of ideas with you and they are articulate and respectful why would you not engage in intellectual discourse with them? Even if you aren't a compatible BDSM partner.  Is it because someone who is articulate may threaten your narrow view?  If your view is so "right" and you are so secure in it why would you be afraid to discuss it? Then you say..."it's a waste of my time." Only if you are trolling.  Your time is not that bloody precious that you can't take the time to possibly expand your knowledge and learn something...maybe just maybe you are afraid to learn something about yourself. Pathetic really.

I spent the weekend talking to ghosts and we agreed to come to a truce once again until that day.
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OUT-WORN heart, in a time out-worn,
Come clear of the nets of wrong and right;
Laugh, heart, again in the grey twilight,
Sigh, heart, again in the dew of the morn.

Your mother Eire is always young,
Dew ever shining and twilight grey;
Though hope fall from you and love decay,
Burning in fires of a slanderous tongue.

Come, heart, where hill is heaped upon hill:
For there the mystical brotherhood
Of sun and moon and hollow and wood
And river and stream work out their will;

And God stands winding His lonely horn,
And time and the world are ever in flight;
And love is less kind than the grey twilight,
And hope is less dear than the dew of the morn.

SWEETHEART, do not love too long:
I loved long and long,
And grew to be out of fashion
Like an old song.
All through the years of our youth
Neither could have known
Their own thought from the other's,
We were so much at one.
But O, in a minute she changed -
O do not love too long,
Or you will grow out of fashion
Like an old song.

My view of a well trained submissive... A well trained submissive is like an elegantly crafted sword. Inspiring in it's own right as a work of art, deadly in it's beauty in the hands of the Master.  A good Master has to be able to see the potential of a sword in it's primative state. He must understand that to create a work of art requires hard work dedication and commitment.  There is much to be done to create a work of beauty that will become a living extension of the wielder. There is the forging, not necessarily a pleasant experience. Then the tempering, heating and cooling that brings out the inherent strength within. then the sharpening. Even the lovliest of swords requires polishing and rasping to create the edge required.  Eventually that sword should feel as natural as the Master's right arm. The relationship should be a symbiotic one. The sword is not a tool, but should be a compliment and extension of the Master's mind as well as arm. A sword is not be used lightly but with aforethought and understanding of the consequences of wielding a deadly beauty. The sword rests at the Master's side and only hints at the deadly beauty that rides below the scabbard. The hilt is only a glimpse of what is below and also an implied threat to all those who would challenege the Master. A well crafted sword has to be cared for constantly, to maintain the edge and to retain it's beauty.

Just my view...