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	About Threeofhearts Disclaimer: We have placed our information here for you to read. If you find us interesting please, don't be shy, drop us a line. We are happy to meet people even if just for friendship. We are always looking for others of like mind. We are not a high protocol house. At home we tend to be more relaxed but when we go to lifestyle events we do expect the protocol to be amped up a bit. We are a fairly easygoing bunch so if you would like to talk to us feel free to contact us. We are a goth/vampire/pagan/left hand path poly family living in Northeast Indiana. We are a female alpha dominant (32, Cancer), with a beta male dominant (37, Taurus). We welcome service-oriented subs/slaves. Gender is unimportant (transgender welcome). You must be comfortable with animals and children. This person should understand that they will be required to contribute to the household. If you have skills that may aid us in our business ventures or where we plan on going with our lives that is a plus. You will have assigned chores that you will be expected to complete, such as helping with house/yard work. Playtime is earned, serve well and be rewarded. We are members of a local munch group which meets once a month, and includes a private play party. We are closely associated with another house in town here and have access to a fully equipped dungeon. Playtime or space is not an issue for us. Some of our influences include The Marketplace series of books by Laura Antoniou and the movie Remains of the Day. Though we tend to be more laid back than those two things they have definitely influenced our lifestyle. Familiarity with these is a plus but not a prerequisite. We are NOT looking for casual sex or swingers. We are all disease free and social drinkers. Lady Starr smokes clove cigarettes. Lord Corvis is allergic to cigarette smoke. We live on 1 acre of land within the city so we have a huge fenced in yard in which we're hoping to put in a large garden again. We have 3 (indoor) cats, 1 (indoor) dog, 2 ferrets, and a tank full of fish. We would like to find someone(s) in our city or willing to relocate. We are child-friendly and have been trying to conceive for quite a while. Lady Starr's boyfriend has a young child who lives with us half the time. Some of the things that we are into: Self-sustainability, intentional community, organic gardening, camping, natural healing, paganism, LHP, bisexuality, polyamory, survivalism, homesteading, herbs, herbalism, weapons, books, recipes, D/s, The Manor House (TV show), The Marketplace Series by Laura Antoniou, Vlad Tepes, alternative medicine, Libertarianism, reading, self-reliance, philosophy, Jung, Nietzsche, Ayn Rand, teachings of Anton LaVey, Astrology, candlemaking, soapmaking, Laurell K. Hamilton's Anita Blake Series, The Sims 2, horror movie special effects, fantasy, sci-fi, true crime, forensic science, art (Louis Royo, Dorian Cleavenger, Joseph Vargo, Corvis Nocturnum, Nene Thomas), Epicureanism, elitism, sword collecting, firearms, shooting pool, tattoos, going to movies, reading, Paganism, motorcycles, dragons, faeries, mythology, RPGs (role playing games), Goth, vampires (psychic & sanguine as well as fictional) and the vampire community, werewolves, Therianism, Don Henrie, Michelle Belanger.

Just some thoughts on what I'm looking for. I'm looking for someone who shares some things in common with me but has various other tastes also. It's nice to explore new things. Someone who is self-sufficient, self-supporting, self-confident. Someone who can cook, is intelligent, has a car and drives well, has wit and a good sense of humor. is affectionate, honest, compassionate, pays attention to detail, sincere, fun, loves animals and children, good kisser, doesn't run from their feelings, knows how to be chivalrous and has their naughty side, isn't afraid to initiate things once in a while, knows how to contribute as an adult to a household.

I'm not looking for someone who cannot distinguish fantasy from reality. I am looking for a submissive but I'm also looking for a family member, a partner, a lover, a companion, a friend.

Life is busy as ever! That is one of the reasons I haven't written here in so long. We are celebrating the 1st anniversary of our busy and are very happy about that. We've been promoting and working almost non stop. Corvis has a new book coming out in a couple of months on people's attraction to vampires. My new love is still around. We've gone through some ups and downs but that is the way it goes with relationships.

We're off to a group meeting tonight. I don't think I'm going to get much sleep this weekend. Last night we went to a concert for a goth/vampire band that some friends of ours are in, we have the meeting today and tomorrow, being Mother's Day, we're going to go visit my mother who lives out of town. Ah, such is life.

Boy can life throw curve balls at you! There is a man who I had talked to at a munch in August. We had an instant connection but figured it was just the fact that I found a nice, intellectual, funny person I could have a great conversation with. He wasn't able to make it to the next 2 munches. We began emailing and chatting. We started hanging out and getting to know each other. He is very submissive but also a very strong person which I think should go hand in hand anyway.

We knew that there was a bit of an attraction between us. My friends were constantly telling me how much he wanted to get with me.

So his birthday is Jan 1st and he said that he hasn't done anything for it in about the last 5 years. I decided that he was going to go out with us for New Year's and see a band I really like. We got the tickets, went to the concert and had a wonderful time!!! We've been inseperable ever since. This man is completely amazing. He's been such a benefit to not only my life but to my boys as well. As a submissive he is stupendous. I am so completely in love with him and I never thought that would ever happen. We have such a deep connection. We are best friends as well as domme/sub.

Because he is new to poly and he has a young son we have been working on how to handle things with the little boy and the ex. This is definitely going to be an interesting relationship.

We had a great time at the Munch this weekend. There was a White Elephant Gift Exchange at the after party that was a lot of fun. We had a few new people once again which is always great. Things are going smoothly here on the homefront. Everyone is working hard and getting ready for the holidays.

I have been thinking a lot about what I want lately. I have always tried to keep my mind open to new things even if it wasn't what I thought I wanted at the time. Though I am dying to have another girl in my life, I am not opposed to men. You never know what life is going to throw at you or what opportunities may come knocking that you had never even thought about. Life is an interesting journey. I guess we'll just see where it leads.

Time for an update again. Koshka is no longer my submissive/girl. She has grown under our care and now wishes to go back to her hometown and make her way there. I am proud of the progress she has made with us though I will miss her dearly. We remain friends and I wish her the best of luck in her new endeavors. That being said it is sad to not have a girl in my life. There are many things I love about women that I just don't get from men. Is there a good submissive girl out there for me?

Well, the shop that we had found is all set up and has been going well for about 3 months now. It's a lot of work but that's what owning your own business is about. We just got about 50 new adult movies in and there are loads of fetishy ones in it. It's hard not to want to take them home for ourselves.

The girl and I are doing well. I'll be taking her to Las Vegas in a couple of months. There's going to be a convention we're going to and one of the vendors is Latex Fashions so she's very excited.

Unfortunately, due to opening the shop we didn't have the funds available to go to GLLA this year but we're going to have to start saving up for next year.

The boys are doing well. Working as hard as ever. With more responsibilities comes a lot more work.

We have another person staying with us now. He is a family member with no where to go. He is staying with us while he gets his life on track and gets his feet under him. He has been a great help around the house while the girl and I are working. We like to teasing him about being the new submissive of the house but I think that kind of freaks him out just a bit. Still, it's fun to tease.

Thought I would update again.

Things, as usual, have been busy. We just found a shop that we are going to be renting and opening up a physical location for our store. I'm very excited and so is the rest of the family.

Koshka got a nice surprise the other day. I had been saving it for a special occasion (like her birthday next month) but as the rest of the family was able to get something from the store and she couldn't find something she wanted I gave it to her early. It is a round metal tag (from one of those pet tag machines) that says "Lady Starrs Pet" on the top and "Koshka" on the bottom. She was so giddy! She's been wearing it non stop since.

Well, that's about it for now. Not much else is going on.

Contrary to popular belief, we have not fallen off the face of the planet. The holidays were hellaciously busy. We had a visit to Wisconsin at the beginning of February and when we came back the entire household came down with that horrendous flu bug that has been plaguing the countryside. It had us down for at least 3 weeks. After getting past that we were finally able to get our gym membership and start going at least 2 times a week. I?ve been pushing myself as well as everyone else. We may all have different goals but we make a good support group for one another. The gym we go to also has a pool, saunas, hot tub, eucalyptus room and steam room. We spend about 3 hours with about 2 hours of that being exercise.

Valentine?s Day was a blast and everyone loved their presents. Koshka got a very special present that night and I discovered that latex body paint can be lots of fun.

We?re getting a good household routine down. We get up about the same time everyday, eat our meals around the same time, etc. It makes it much easier for Koshka to remember what she?s supposed to do when.

Life moves on as it does with ups and downs but we push ahead bettering ourselves and learning every day.

The munch that we help to run seems to be growing by leaps and bounds which does my heart good. I love the discussions we have. We have a great group of people. We?ve been getting some good feedback that we help the newbies feel welcome and help them to understand and learn about things.

Well, I?m off to get back to work. No rest for the wicked and all that.

Lady Starr

Things are going well. Koshka and I just celebrated our 1 year anniversary. We had a blast. Valentine's Day

is coming up and I have presents picked out for everyone but Corvis. He's a bit harder to shop for. I think it's going to be good though. Then we have a birthday coming up a week after that. Boy, is it busy around here! LOL

I wrote a journal entry on the 6th but I'm not sure what happened to it. Ugh!

My family and I were having a discussion the other day and the subject came up of the propensity for submissives/slaves to be somewhat overly dramatic (no offense to anyone this is just an opinion that some have).

I have noticed a few subs/slaves in my time within the community that have a tendency to be "drama queens".

As we were talking and trying to understand why this occurs, my girl said something that just clicked in my head. She made the statement that since the dominants tend to take care of all the big issues for the house
then the sub has only the small issues to deal with and so they become big issues to
that sub. Since the dominant is dealing with the bigger issues they don't see these small issues as such a big deal.

My response to her was "So, they make mountains out of molehills because they have no mountains of their own?" to which she nodded.

Ah the holidays. This is turning out to be one of the best holiday seasons we've had in a long time. No, I take that back. This is the best holiday season we've had since Chris and I starting dating 13 years ago.

We have been able to fix the windows in our van, get new all season tires, buy Corvis his laptop so he can work on his books while he is away and we got presents for everyone. We were even able to get some really fun presents for the whole family at a local adult store.

It's times like these that truly make me happy. When I'm able to go beyond taking care of the family and just spoil them rotten! LOL

We went to a play party last weekend that was in a bigger city. It was interesting to see the dynamics of another group in a larger city. There seem to be quite a few people that were there for show. It was still an interesting time.

After a few hours at the party, we retired to the hotel room where we had a bit of fun of our own. I tied Koshka to the hotel chair and tortured her after blindfolding and caning her. Chris helped. She gets to possibly return the favor this evening when we go to a play party for a local group.

I've recently started reading Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy. It's a combination of her two books Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual and Training with Miss Abernathy. I was a little leary at first when I began to read it but I'm actually liking it. There are a few things that I'm somewhat "eh" about but overall, so far, it definitely seems like a good book.

Today I have been surfing the net and reading different lifestyle pages. I have found quite a bit of interesting material. Sometimes it helps me to realize I (and the company I keep) am not alone.

There are times when I feel that, because of the area we are in, my friends and I tend to be the minority. We believe in manner, protocol, etiquette, bettering oneself, etc. It seems that the people around us cannot comprehend these thoughts. We are often called nasty names because we ask "Why not be better?". We are told we are intolerant because we want to push past the rabble and find something more.

I guess I'm rambling but sometimes it's nice to know that I'm not completely insane.

Some friends of ours went to GLLA this weekend and it sounds like they had a great time. Unfortunately we weren't able to go this year but I'm looking forward to next year.

I would really like to get out to more lifestyle events. The largest one I've been to I think was Ohio Leatherfest but it looks like that has gone the way of the dodo.

This fall should be pretty busy though so I'll definitely be getting away for awhile.

Over the weekend we went to a local powwow. It was koshka's first time. It was fun to introduce her to something new. We taught her a few things about Native culture and met up with people we haven't seen for a while. I miss vending there so much. Unfortunately, it looks like their not doing so hot. Native culture isn't "popular" anymore so they aren't making the money they used to.

It also reminded me how much I miss having our tipi in the backyard. We lived in it one summer and had so much fun.

I've gotten koshka to try buffalo meat. I used it in some Stroganoff that I made. She liked it although she is often reluctant to try new things. She's still not too sure how she feels about buffalo meet but she'll get used to it. I'm hoping we'll be able to do some hunting this winter and incorporate some deer and other meats into our diet.

Everyday I learn new things about who and what I am. As my birthday is coming up this week I look back on the last year of my life and how things have changed. A year ago my life was very different. I was not as strong of a person as I am now. I feel as if I was just a baby and I know that a year from now I will look back at this time and think the same thing of myself. My family teaches me more about myself all the time.

Koshka is happy here but is sometimes lonely being the only submissive. I try to reassure her that when the time is right we will find another to join us.

For years we have wanted a different house. With more people here we need a bigger one. This house was just right when it was just the 3 of us. Now that we have 4 it has become somewhat cramped. Having 3 desks & 4 computers in our little office makes for close quarters. Ideally I would like to have 4-5 bedrooms, a den & a family room as well as at least 2 bathrooms. I want to find something more rural as well. I would love to raise chickens and rabbits and have a large garden as well. We are working on it. Now that C has started college and our business is picking up we are planning on remodeling our bathroom and fixing up more of this house so that when the time comes we'll be able to get a good price for it.

Well, enough of my rambling. I'm off to read more emails.

I just added a couple of new pictures. We just dyed koshka's hair the other night. She picked Midnight Blue. I think it looks really cute on her. While we were outside grilling & doing yardwork I decided to take a couple of pictures.

Things are going well. Today has been a really good day. We were all goofing around this morning & just had a nice family day in general.

It's been forever since I've last written here. Much has happened since then. We have a new girl in the house. She is called koshka. I've added a pic of her in the new corset I just got for her.

I've started reading the Gor series of books. I'm currently on the 3rd one which is called Priest Kings of Gor. There is a lot in there that I admire and some things that irritate me a bit.

We want to look into getting a larger house. We're looking for one that is more out in the county & probably about 5 bedrooms. That is, until Lady Melissa wins the lottery & we all move into Ds Haven together

I got a new job at the end of December and have been working my ass off since. The business seems to be taking off better. We've added adult books & movies to the site which has gained some interest.

That's about it for now. We're off to our weekly House dinner and to spend time with our family.

So many books, so little time. I am currently reading Laura Antoniou's The Academy, To Love, To Obey, To Serve by V. M. Johnson and How To Be A Pussy Top (aka The Loving Dominant) by John Warren. The first one, I love, as usual. The second is not bad but does get confusing at points. The third one, well that's probably pretty self explanatory.

I've been in a strange mood lately. I've been so hyper. Probably because of my new job. I've forgotten what it's like to work 40 hrs a week. The pay is good though and that's what makes me happy. My boy is doing well too. He's been so bored having 2 wks vacation. It's nice to call home and check on things and know that things are being done before I have to ask.

Part of me is so happy to not have been online for a week. I get so frustrated when I read some of these message boards and crap. Apparently, lifestyle doesn't mean something you actually live and 24/7 doesn't mean 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Why do people even use those phrases if that's not what they mean?! PhoenixLM had a good journal post about that. We've been discussing that many times over. It's so frustrating when people try to make things out to be more than they are. I mean I can say I'm the Queen of England but that doesn't make me real royalty. Just like saying I'm a Dominant doesn't make me a Dominant. It just makes me someone who claims to be one. What I do and how I live is what makes me a Dominant.

Well, enough of my rambling. I'm off to do some more work.

I am now finished with The Trainer. Boy, did that screw with my head. One thing that has been consistent though is the fact that the more of these books that I read the more I wish that The Marketplace was real. I greatly respect Anderson and Chris Parker and what they do. It's so difficult to put into words.

After I'm finished with these books I am thinking of reading the Gor books. Though I have issue with the chauvinism involved in Gor the D/s aspect of it intrigues me.

I have finally finished The Slave and am now working on The Trainer. The Slave was a fairly easy read. I went through it nodding to myself when something I read struck a chord with me. I am only about 20 pages into The Trainer and it is already striking me. The most difficult part about it is seeing things in myself that correspond with what I read. One day I strive to be an Owner. Not just an Owner though but a good Owner. Someone who is not only capable but good at it if that makes sense.

I am approximately 2/3rds of the way through The Slave and there are so many things that resonate with me. There is a specific quote on page 104 that particularly struck a cord with me.

"If everyone who plays bottom is a slave and everyone who plays top is a master or a mistress, then where's the romance of the title? Where's the element of the extraordinary?"

I am now on the second book (The Slave) in the Marketplace Series. I have to say I'm hooked on these books.

Rented a movie titled "Remains of the Day" at the suggestion of Mistress Melissa. It was really good. Somewhat sad but it really showed how servants at that time lived. I think we're going to have to buy that one. I loved The Manor House when we watched it with her as well. It really inspires conversations between E & I about what we want.

C is coming along nicely. A friend of ours even made a comment about how much better he's gotten. I'm proud of him. He has been richly rewarded lately. Our friend who makes paddles gave us a special hot pink colored one and boy did C's rearend match the coloring when I was done. He also had some nice marks from our new floggers. They're made of paracord. One is called "The Cat" and the other is "The Strap".

I had to tease him today because there was Brie put out with the snacks and he didn't get me any.

Have started reading The Marketplace by Laura Antoniou. I am loving it. I'm looking into getting copies of my own (as this one was borrowed from a dear friend) and having the boys read it as well.

Still looking and getting very discouraged. Not only can we not find people interested in joining a poly triad but we can't find submissives who want to join the triad. Yet, we push on.

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