Live and die by the pigeon hole
We are what we are, and we all like to say “I’m just me; you can’t put a label on me”. So how do we know if what we are suits someone else? Do we care if we suit someone else?
Well of course we care; there are two main sociological human traits.
1. The need to feel like we are wanted, part of a group, the same as others, needed and useful to other people.
2. We need to feel like an individual, like we are different from other people, like we are unique and have something special to offer.
We do all this by pigeon holing ourselves and everyone else around us.
At work for example, I’m part of the team and I’m one of the lads we help each other out either by helping with each others sales or with covering each others shifts. We unite and grumble against those management people that don’t know what they are on about and make decisions we don’t understand.
But at the same time I identify with the management because I’ve always been in management, and management look up to me because I’m older than the rest of my work colleagues and hi have a lot of life experience. We all compete in a friendly but still competitive way to achieve the highest sales. Here is segregation between who owns Apple devices and who owns Blackberry devices, who likes rock music and who likes pop music.
And again all that goes out the window when a nasty customer comes in and starts ranting at one of us, we all defend our colleague and help sort the problem with them.
Here is the same, we are all individuals, can’t put a label on me! Accept im a Dom or im a sub or a switch, male, female, Straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, blond, brunette, black, asian. The list goes on.
In reality if you picked any 2 people on this site and put them in a room together and they knew nothing about each other they would find things in common and become friendly, that’s our need to reach out.
So let’s take me for example in reality, I’m someone that people follow, a leader type person. But if you know better than me or you are designated as being in charge I will do as you say (as long as it’s logical and makes sense ;)
I am confident and i think things through (most of the time) before I act. But I make mistakes now and then, I do learn from them though.
I am a dominant character, but I don’t like having to use the term Dom, but i have to as its the label that fits.
I am a sadist, i do get sexual gratification out of causing pain, but I am kind and loving and would never want to seriously hurt any living creature.
If i don’t call myself a Dom, subs and slaves can’t identify themselves with me, if i don’t call myself a sadist, people who enjoy being spanked and slapped and dragged around by their hair, can’t identify themselves with me.
So find my profile using pigeon holes and then see past that and get to know me.
