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Male Dominant, 28, Slab City, California
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Male Dominant, 30, You Should Move
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Dominant Couple, 25, chicago, Illinois
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About TheSystem
Hello!
A few basics about me you wont glean from my fetish list: I'm recently retired, I work out almost daily, I drink very little, I don't smoke and I don't do recreational drugs. I can be sarcastic but not biting, I'm resourceful, and would probably be considered a little geeky. I'm a veteran, a romantic, and musically-inclined. I love to teach, guide, protect and nurture. I value my privacy, I'm always on time, and I love variety in every part of my life.
I am not married, nor in a relationship, and live with no one (sweet dog excluded). I look and act years younger than my chronological age.
I am highly competent.
I have three decades experience as a dominant in real-time ownership relationships. I'm a benevolent control freak and proficient micro-manager. I'm a dedicated voyeur. I'm not a heavy sadist, but it's not going to hurt my feelings to be the instrument of your tears, either.
Kink is great, but I am primarily here for a power-exchange relationship.
A rough sketch of the woman I want to meet (exceptions may exist for some of these):
Your age is less than mine, young enough to keep up with me.
You are employed or retired.
You value and exhibit humility.
You love to learn.
You love music (if you sing or play something, even better), movies and theater.
You're not a girlie-girl. I tend towards natural (no-makeup) women, someone comfortable being their unadorned self.
You work at being fit and healthy - being a cyclist gains huge points.
You are not in a relationship and are over the last one.
No smoking, heavy drinking nor recreational drugs.
What kind of relationship do I want? I am not even sure how its described anymore the last time I spent any significant time on BDSM websites, submissivewomenspeak was still a thing. I would call my role a benevolent authority figure, in something approaching a long-term 24-7 TPE with a good bit of kink mixed in, involving two mature adults. And yes, I have some Daddy in me.
I have no interest in an online-only relationship. If we are a significant distance apart, I will visit you as time permits, and expect the same from you, until we decide we commit to something more permanent. I may be open to relocating, but have some specific requirements for the
I'm not looking for a hard-edge slave. A nice phrase I've read recently: you'd have a voice, but not a vote. I would value your input. I do understand there isn't a simple plug-and-play model for every person or relationship. We would be building US as partners, and how we fit together is ultimately our choice.
There would be a constant sexual current through our relationship. We would have an intense connection, in every aspect: mental, emotional and physical. I would define well understood rules, though heavy ritual would be sparse. I'd apply no contrived punishments, and actual punishment would be rare, as it should be (besides, you're a very good girl, right?). You submit because its who you are, not a role you are playing.
I visualize what we do as a "system" - that third entity created when two people come together (like the joint area of two overlapping circles - Venn much?). The system requires its own care and feeding. Both people in the relationship need to monitor its condition, tend to it, and make sacrifices for it.
I see profiles stating the desire for a relationship based in both worlds, D/s and vanilla. While I understand why people describe it that way, I think it misses the mark. What I'm looking for is something seamless, where its simply understood certain behaviors are appropriate (or not) in a given situation.
I want to dig inside your head. I want to help you grow. I want to take care of you. I want to provide that place where you can feel free to fly.
I want to consume you.
If you think it's inappropriate for a submissive woman to initiate contact with a dominant, you will have to give me a sign. I don't read minds until the second message.
(My profile pic was taken during an early morning March bike ride, many moons ago in a place faraway.)
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Despite multiple attempts to get my profile corrected, it still reflects the wrong mileage from you. I am, indeed, in NW Alabama. |
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I first read Atlas Shrugged when I was 18, and have revisited it many times. It played a significant role in shaping my character.
"“A man's sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions.... He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer--because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement.”
? Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged |
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Do you think Nigerian princes are reading your profile? |
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For as many people as I see using the term "TPE" to describe the kind of relationship they are pursuing, I would be surprised to learn that most of them are aware of all that entails, from both partners. |
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I so enjoy reading a well-written profile. I'm a big proponent of making use of them to communicate clearly and I'll usually bypass the empty or cryptic ones; doesn't mean I might not be interested, but no one has the time to blindly contact every profile on CS to find out if even basic criteria match up. If you're truly interested in finding someone (or something) here, the best thing you can do is put some content in your profile, even if it's filling out the checklist.
Imagine a world where everyone's profile said "Ask me!". |
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