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Hetero Male Dominant, 45,  24055, Virginia
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I do appreciate all of the interest, and do try to keep up with and answer all messages - so be patient, and Ill get back as soon as I can, or better yet send me a reminder!

I am a sensual Dominant seeking a sub - if you are not sure what that means, or think it means something less than Dom...WRONG! For those that do not know, in a nutshell, between the ears is where I find My playground. Of course physical everything is involved - but the cerebral effect is the target. (as in, more to it for Me than some inferiority complex). INTELLIGENT CANDIDATES ONLY.

Limits: Those discussions will ONLY be held in private.

I am a professional white male, financially secure, 6 tall, heightweight proportionate, attractive. I enjoy art - painting, photography, sculpting, as well as a variety of outdoor activities including rock climbing, mountain biking, and martial arts. I am very experienced in this lifestyle, and therefore very safe and sane. I love to laugh and have a great time, so ultimately I would like to find a sub soul mate and best friend.

While I am predominantly interested in a LTR, I am not opposed to special circumstances, requests, etc. - I am open to ALL possibilities.

I am not looking to jump right in to the first attraction. It has to be a mutually beneficial and satisfying arrangement.

I see My future as one being spent with people who RISE TOGETHER - and NO, this lifestyle does not mean anything else to Me. It is about people helping each other become the best they can be while simultaneously satisfying and and all desires they may have. Be all you can be, right?! THATS what I am looking for! And, that is what I believe is possible.

Here are a few things I AM looking for

1 - Mature, evolved, relationship dynamics.

2 - Decisiveness - Please know what you want, and be willing to go after it! Thats what I bring to the table, and its what I expect. Its called fair play. If your goal is to be on the lookout for the bigger, better deal constantly, you will find it constantly - and in the end, no one ends up with CONSISTENCY. I would rather have a consistent experience with a butt-ugly librarian of substance than a series of problematic moments with perfect 10s. - As an aside, I am NOT looking for the ones looking for constant bigger better deal (I can spot that a mile away)....decisiveness - its a good thing!

3 - Good communication skills. Like the famous words of Pink Floyd, I strongly believe all you have to do is keep talking - there is a solution to every issue, problem, question or concern - the question is, do you bring the hard work and dedication to find it? I do.

4 - COURAGE! Guess what? Dom or sub, we all have the same fears regarding any new relationship, be it a friendship or something more. I am sort of looking at this experience like going to the super bowl We might lose, but damn if Im not going to leave all I have on the field! The courage to fight for something worthwhile seems to be a rare commodity these days.

5 - BELIEF IN THE DREAM! We are all here looking for something. How do we expect to actually find it if our first line of logic reads like a line of doubt and skepticism. Understandably, we have all been hurt, used, taken advantage of (thats been happening since we started dating, period - remember?). However, there ARE good people out there, and we are ALL evolving and changing. Any one of us can go to the local bar or pub and get laid, if that is what we want. But I am most interested in those that have a sincere belief that their dreams as pertains to their presence on this place CAN COME TRUE - and act accordingly.

6 - RESPECT! This pertains to any and all communications - if we cant have this, we cant have anything!

Remember, it takes effort, so - CONTACT ME!

The Dominants Creed

(My aspiration)

Above all, He cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift of her submission is the deepest, truest of love. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but He knows that the sharing of the pleasure that comes from that precious gift is what makes him worthy to receive it. He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that He may control his submissive. As a strong and demanding Dominant He can cause his sub to cry real tears. As a tender lover, He will kiss those tears away. He is strong enough to be vulnerable to her. To win his submissives mind, body and soul, He knows he must first earn her trust. He will show his submissive his humor, kindness, warmth, and power, showing her that He is a Dominant she can learn from, and his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her respect. He knows she needs to feel his strength and his romantic love. He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight for his ladys honor. When she needs it He will be unrelenting and obdurate. He teaches his submissive her lessons of trust and obedience constantly. He is a strong and unyielding teacher and taskmaster. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. He will ask much of her, and give her much in the process. Never does He use discipline or punishment without a good reason. When He does, it is always with knowledge and careful consideration. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him. He is a careful guide, safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edge of her envelope, then beyond. He gently coaxes and ruthlessly demands from her the inner courage to reach new heights and to grow. He is always open to communication and discussion, desiring to hear her wants and needs. For through knowing her needs and desires he becomes worthy to compel her actions. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they stretch those limits, and grow together. He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance and admit errors. Open minded enough to learn constantly and eagerly. His tools are mind, spirit, soul, and body, with a little help from rope, crop, flogger and blindfold. He earns compliance of her mind, He demands control her body. He does not desire ritual behaviour from her. He knows respect is earned, not demanded. He wishes her actions to be gifts of love and He desires that she responds to him out of the need to please Him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He compels, rather than controls. He is old-fashioned enough to be a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect and admire his submissive, her strength, her courage, her depth of devotion. He cherishes, protects, defends, and possesses her. Quick to point out the difference between them, he knows that there is no inferiority in her submission, she is a treasure and worthy of his devotion. Her desires and responses give purpose to his efforts. He is in awe of her. He understands that each partner gains from pleasuring the other, each in their unique way serving the other. He knows that love based on mutual respect is the only binding that truly holds.... for submission can never be taken or demanded it can only be given. He strives always to be worthy. He lives for her gift.













 Dominant Male



 Willing to Relocate

 6' 0"

 170 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Transgender

Submissive Female

Switch Women

Sub/Sub Couples

Female Led Couples


A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Art Galleries



 Being Massaged

 Obedience Training

 Role Playing


 Intellectual Discourse

 Lifestyle BDSM


 Fine Dining

 Going to the Opera





 Martial Arts


 Blindfolding you

 Body Worship


 Breast Play



 You wearing my collar

 Rear End Play

 Erotic Hypnosis

 Placing you on a leash

 Mental Bondage

 Outdoor Bondage


 Art Collecting









 1950s Lifestyle


 Victorian Lifestyle



 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Sensory Play

 Speech Restrictions




 Computer Expert

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