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Male Dominant, 35, houston, Texas
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Male Submissive, 33, Florence, Alabama
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Male Dominant, 47, East Central, Indiana
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About thePainUFeel
Cerebral, sensual, slightly sadistic Dom ready to accept the eager gifts of a pain-curious masochistic submissive. I am very experienced, with much to offer the right submissive; interested only in an equally sensual regular private play partner and friend (longer term preferred.)
Do not let the "pain" aspect of this introduction intimidate you. It is not in my nature to push you farther than you are capable. On the other hand, I am searching for a true masochist, and am very good at helping you reveal your true and deepest submissive self -- you may be surprised at what you can actually do with proper mature guidance.
My own kinky pleasure interests are wide ranging, including moderate bondage and erotic pain (spanking, flogging, clamps, etc), anal play, eye and voice restrictions, among other things. The mental/emotional side of domination is very important to me, and should be to you, too. Check the rest of my profile for more areas of experience. I like quirky or quiet submissives. The right switch might work for me, as well. Intelligence, imagination, and an active fantasy life are important, too.
If some of your interests feel "out there," and you are afraid to even talk about them, you will likely find a sympathetic (and interested) ear with me. I am a well-educated professional, and do not show my face pic until we have talked, as I have a position that would be compromised. Be patient.
I am not concerned about age, as long as you are legal. Slender to very curvy is fine. Emotional maturity matters (especially if you are younger and seeking a special Daddy Dom.)
You must be prepared to gradually push your limits, but they will be pushed as you are ready for it. You must have an extraordinary desire to please. You do not need to be experienced; eagerness can compensate. I do not tolerate nonsense or hesitations, but do honor respectful communication. Safe words are always honored, so that we can explore the edge.
I enjoy interesting conversation with articulate submissives, so feel free to introduce yourself. FYI, I am attached, but available; if our conversation turns more personal, I will add necessary details. I am not looking for 24/7 or a life partner; I already lead a full and busy life.
Beyond my own obvious pleasures, another reason I am on here is to offer support; if you are a new-ish submissive who is confused, uncertain, or questioning, I have experience in many areas and can offer a sane, steady voice to help you work through your questions. Had a bad experience? Feel free to write and ask about anything, or reclaim your sanity.
I do accept and enjoy polite direct inquiries from submissives, and would love to hear from you. Maybe you will be the one ....
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This could be controversial. I started to just let it go, but I couldn't. I think she was wrong.
I came across a submissive who was ranting against Doms who had the temerity to attempt to assist submissives. She had them neatly catalogued by types. They were all, essentially evil, and had bad intent for wanting to assist. Her solution was simply for the submissives to grow up and make up their own minds. Sans Dom assistance. They were only trying to snooker the poor innocents, anyway.
Wow. First, there was a lot of anger in her invective. That usually means there is some personal issue. I have no recollection of who she was, and don't care to make it personal, really. She has her opinion, I have mine. It isn't about HER. It is about her thoughts. I sincerely disagree. A lot.
Second, every marginalized community that is not culturally accepted exists and grows in strength BECAUSE of the group support. Can you imagine taking that tack with, say, gays or lesbians? Don't help each other? Really?
To be sure, there are likely some bad and evil people on here. It is a freakin' BDSM site. I am sure for some Doms, it IS their way of luring in unsuspecting vulnerable submissive, like the neighborhood pervert with a bag of candy. I will not even say that I have never had a positive personal response from a submissive because of my help. But that is NOT why I offer it, and 99% of the time there is no benefit for me other than a warm glow of assistance, or seeing a disaster averted, or watching a sub get her feet beneath herself again, more sure of her own self and path, more confident.
But to denigrate assistance, community, an open ear, out of hand, sounds desperately wrong.
I have received some great counsel from other submissives. I have helped subs who were in crisis from a bad experience. I have helped subs talk through difficult choices, or shared my opinions about various BDSM situations, techniques, and the delicate emotional dance that occurs between Dom and sub.
To dismiss Doms offering to assist subs as all bad intent?
There is something wrong with that.
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It appears CM did not like my other photo. I will have to work on that. |
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I have been offline for quite a while. I have updated things, take a look. If you are a struggling or questioning submissive, I am happy to help you sort things out. Simply ask. |
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All that training down, the drain, LOL! She had a promotion on the East Coast, so as in many things, it came to an end. Now I am searching again, so if you feel you are a match, I am open to talking.
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Since I was asked twice about this -- YES, I will hurt you. NO, I will not harm you.
Understand the difference?
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I hope there are more submissives on here than it appears at first glance.
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