TheGentIeGiant

Well, I have been checking the occasional profile and have to wonder at those profiles of women who put a lot of promise into their introduction yet have only joined in the last few days. They say they are new and often are in a relationship already. These women will almost invariably have a photo of someone VERY attractive and also, almost invariably, she will be willing to relocate, even though she is new to the lifestyle or maybe "inquisitive about the alternative lifestyle" in short, coming across as a troll. I find it even more amusing that these women often live in Cities that do not match the State they list for themselves.  For example  Florida, Australia.  They often will message me with offers of submission, or wanting to get to know me better, while living 12,000 miles away, being younger than my own son as well as listing themselves as DOMINANT!!!! Perhaps these trolls and twats need to learn some Geography, a little common sense and also how to write correctly using the English language. Generally they give themselves away with their combination of MIXED cities and states, their AVIDITY, their totally unbelievable offers at such DISTANCES, their unequivocal WILLING TO RELOCATE and their words, consistently similar to each of the other trolls. In short, they shoot themselves in the foot time after time.     I imagine that they are simply trying to trick money out of people who may be gullible enough to think that these trolls would actually come to them if they pay the fares.  I still reply with a polite thank you but no thank you. If they offer a phone number for me to call and it matches their location, I might be a little more likely to believe them... AFTER I speak with them via telephone, but not likely in any other circumstance.  Don?t get caught people, and have a great day.
Cheers, Derek 

I think my son is trying to kill me.      He is being very subtle about it though.  He said he would like to go out canoeing with me and he arranged a second canoe which weighs in at about a gazillion tons.  So,  he has to put it on MY trailer behind MY car and the trailer can only accommodate ONE canoe can't it!!!  Going to have to remedy that problem I think.  Now the only place of any decent length to paddle is the river isn?t it!!!  AND, the launching ramp is something like three or four kilometres from home, more than DOUBLE what my poor old bones and muscles are used to and this is EACH WAY!!!!!!!!   So how do we get MY canoe to the water?  We (as in ME) has to ride the pushbike with the canoe trailing behind on its trailer.  He stopped to get some bottled water on the way out, and passed me about 1000 yards from the launching ramp.  I arrived about a minute behind him, with my legs threatening to fall off.  We get to the water and we have an option of up or downstream, the tide is on the ebb, so we end up going UPstream

Which same, three kilometres upstream there is a nice little island (Baddow Island)  which I am assuming we will circumnavigate and come back,  right?   Nooooooooooooooooooooo,  HE keeps paddling PAST that doesn't he, up to the Henry Palmer bridge, ANOTHER kilometre upstream.  Where he sits and rests till poor old dad can catch up.   THEN, nice and rested, with dad a puddle of mush, trying to catch his breath, the little wart (well,  they grow on you too!!!)  waits till I round the pylon, say so long to the other guy in the racing kayak who paddled up the river beside me, and we are off again, on the 4 kilometre RETURN trip, AGAINST incoming tide, and AGAINST the breeze that has sprung up.  Then, AND THEN, dear reader, he gets in the car and tows HIS borrowed canoe home while I manfully struggle to tow MINE back the extra distance and up the extra hills behind that BLASTED pushbike.  Cussedness and stupidity had me refusing to get off and walk up the hills.  A friend has reminded me:   ?Reminder: You are NOT a spring chicken anymore Ya old Rooster!?  She is sooooooooooo right.

We spent  a couple of hours on the river almost constantly paddling, so I pedalled about 3 ½ miles and paddled another 5.  I need a slave to snuggle up to I think.   And the sadistic little monster wants to do it all AGAIN and some time SOON!!!!!!!   

I am SURE he wants me DEAD.

 I think I am going to have to disinherit him at this rate.  All in all,  it was a great morning spent with my son.   

I STILL have not found that local slave who is proficient at massage, and who might like some fringe benefits for her trouble.  Oh well, such is life. 

Be well all

Derek.

I received a message today asking, "How can someone be GENTLE if they are dominant?"
Over my time I have come across many with this attitude. It seems that there is a lot of stereotyping, and associated misconception, out there.  There are some who feel that if a slave is happy,  she needs to be disciplined.  They see tenderness, closeness etc as weaknesses.  These traits are not macho, don't appear to be in keeping with our perception of a dom or master,  so they can't be part of a dominant/master's characteristics.  I consider them to be the opposite.  I consider that they show STRENGTH of character, a person who is comfortable in who they are with no need to prove anything.  They have the trait of being human, gaining and holding their subs regard and respect without needing to instil fear of reprisals if it is not given.  I believe this builds the strength of the bond in relationships of like minded people.  A person can be gentle and tender while being no less dominant.  They are quite capable of meting out physical discipline if needed, though they often have NO need to do so.  (Degrees of hardness during play is a different thing altogether.)
Having said that, I also acknowlege that there are those who desire / need harder or harsh treatment to feel their dom is strong enough to handle them and to protect them.  It takes all manner of people to make this lifestyle,  and while every one may be different, given the right combination of submissive and dominant personalities, provided they match, and things are safe, sane and consensual, there is no incorrect attitude.

Have a great day people.
Derek

I came across this song,  which goes to the tune of Cranky Frankie Sinatra's "My Way"
It was written by someone for a slave named "spinny" way back in my Mplayer days. She loved it.   - I think he did a good job and I might even sing part of it for my video greeting one day. 

And now, your arse is near
And so you face some serious hurtin'
My slave, I'll say it clear,
I'll state my rules, of which I'm certain

I've choked your mouth that's full
I've been your main and Hershey Highway
And more, much more than this,
I'll do you my way.

Regrets. you've had a few,
But then again, they're imperfections
I did what I had to do
And gave you justified corrections

I planned each pervy scene
Each part of you I crop and I flay
But more, much more than this,
I did you my way.

Yes there were times, I'm sure you knew,
When I bit off more of your limbs than I could chew,
But through it all, when there was doubt,
Will she eat it up or spit it out?
You swallowed all, I made you crawl
And did it my way.

I've lashed, I've laughed, you've cried
I've shown my will, your juices oozing
And now, as tears subside,
I find your sorrow so amusing
To think I did all that
And may I say - not in a sub-way
Oh no, Oh no not me
I did you my way.

Not much to report up here at this point in time.  Our weather has been hot enough to want to consider investigating water bondage,  or at least to go laze in a swimming pool or, at a pinch, maybe roll the canoe.  NO,  belay that,  the lagoon is ANYTHING but pristine with all those birds roosing in trees and such,  and there have been reported sightings of crocs in the river recently.  Never mind,  the local pool will have to do at the moment. ( wonder how much admission will cost for the canoe?)

I am not homophobic but I have to admit to being somewhat amazed at the number of gay / ts individuals who have viewed my profile and even surprised at being added to their favourites at times.  What I wonder is, how come the ones that have viewed me seem to have almost perfect, sometimes TOO perfect feminine figures? 

Oh, forgot,  have changed my video greeting again. Not sure WHEN it will be approved but hopefully soon.

WHATEVER HAPPENED TO PLAIN OLD FASHIONED COURTESY?  Does the fact that we are here in a BDSM site render it obsolete? 

I thought it was fundamental, a cornerstone to our interaction with others, something we should have been taught to give to others in all situations. 

I sometimes wonder if a lack of response to messages (those which contain a  specific enquiry rather than simple comments)  is due to inadvertence, forgetfulness or a plain LACK of common courtesy. 
Let's say you put east coast (state name)" as your location.  Someone from the next state enquires regarding a little more information including, but by no means limited to, (eg:  How North, South, West etc in the state - without asking for specific city location) so as to assess travel times if there appears to be some reasonable degree of compatibility which might bear exploring. 

The question can be answered,  eg: "approximately 1 - 2  hours from the border on the coast / a little inland/out west"   without compromising your security.  Simply reading and then deleting / ignoring the message entirely puts YOUR courtesy and credibility in question.  A lack of ANY response impresses unfavourably and thereby makes them wonder if YOU are genuine or just another "wannabe" out to play games.  There are those out there who simply prey on others, but there are just as many who are genuinely interested.   

If you have no desire to be contacted by the person making the enquiry,  by all means, be polite and say so.  "Thank you for your enquiry, but at this time you do not appear to be what I seek.  I wish you well in your search" and then if they persist, by all means IGNORE future messages.  This kind of response can be valid and employed for ANY reason that you may not wish communication from someone, but please give them common courtesy at least for the first message. 

On a lighter note, missed my canoeing for the last 3 days due to other committments and a 600 km (about 375 miles) drive this weekend, so might put her in the river tomorrow and see where the exploration may lead, but is time to go fit a new windscreen washer bottle to my fathers car, a replacement distributor to my friends car and then to fit a fuel pump to the 7 seater hovercraft I am rebuilding.  Hey,  there is an idea,  I might see if I can add a photo of it to those already on site.   Look for it in a couple of days.
Have a great day everyone.
Derek