Some Say...

Wow, they haven't allowed us journals since 2016...amazing to have this back...

Well then, everyone, welcome to my journal!  Back in the years gone by I used to use this to put out some Dominant wisdom I've gained through my, now, 26 years of BDSM experience and would now like to do the same.

Please, if you've read my profile, don't hesitate to reach out as I love to help and provide information, advise, or general guidance to those who might want it or even those with just a question they would like to see answered.

If I can answer it, I will, either in a journal entry or just in private if you prefer but in any event it is something I love to do as a Dominant so I'm happy to be able to get back to it!

SO!  CollarMe Audio Journals are completely frelled so I thought instead of staying quiet I'd resume my writing journals for everyone until they get unfrelled...

So in one of the last WORKING audio journals, the concept of polyism came up.  I just wanted to say that first off, I'm not against poly as long as it's something that everyone is knowledgeable and comfortable with as the term itself can be extremely broad.  I've seen Doms work with a group of submissives who are all aware of each other and interact and that can have WONDERFUL results, there are things that sometimes (IMO) a submissive needs to be able to speak to another submissive about and sometimes having a sister with the same collar around her neck will allow them to compare notes in a much easier way and allow them to understand and grow a lot more evenly than trying to seek out others who may not understand their training...

Now, with that being said, I have NEVER seen a submissive who has multiple Dominants in their live turn out ok.  The problem with that concept is that the girl has multiple people with different ideas of what should be done with her all giving her orders...talk about a confusing concept.  What then develops is a pecking order among Doms and in that situation it just isn't fair to either the Doms or the sub to continue along that point of action...the submissive should chose which Dominant they want to work with and go from there...one voice, one hand, one will.  No submissive should ever be put in the position of telling their Dominant, "No, I can't do that because said I have to this..." as it just means the girl is not receiving true training and a real clean experience as she has no ability to focus her attention on the guidance of a single individual.  Some may disagree here, especially submissives who feel that having multiple Doms means they just have constant attention, however sadly to say I just see no positive thing coming out of that in the end...filling the time between sessions with other Doms just is slighting everyone in the relationship.

When a single Dominant works with multiple submissives, he is taking on considerable amounts of responsibility and has to be comfortable with the fact that he can handle giving the amount of attention to each of his girls as they need and deserve...if you have to slight one girl just to spend time with another, YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG.  Downsize to a single sub and be happy with her...  For those Doms out there capable of working with multiple subs, please, please, please make sure you don't keep this a secret from those you work with...make sure each sub you are working with understands that she is not your SOLE submissive or else you are going to just end up hurting her when she finds out.

I have experience working with multiple girls at once and have found, as I mentioned above, the connection between the subbies and their connection to me is an amazing thing.  It allows us to all form a much closer and tighter bond because I know they can always talk among themselves and develop that closeness and a friendship that will often last even longer than their training.  It just takes the ability to focus your attention on two girls without breaking down.  It does help, of course, to have two girls who share many common desires and focuses as it leads to a more unified and joined experience for them in their ability to share things.

That is my, abbreviated, take on a mulit-person relationship, I didn't even touch on the other parts beyond BDSM because I feel those are a subject for another time...but in BDSM, when done right I feel that the unity and sharing between everyone can often be a good thing...WHEN DONE PROPERLY.

Odd observation lately...

I'm getting a lot of messages from lovely submissives from all over the country, however, never anything from people local to me...  Seems the girls local to me either never respond to messages or send a couple messages then stop responding.  Just a kinda weird thing I've observed.

Oh well, the search continues.

Here is an open note to all submissives out there...

You aren't a slut, you aren't garbage, you aren't a whore, you aren't a bitch, you aren't any of these things that those wannabie 'Doms' (and I use that term loosely) keep tell you that you are.

A Dom doesn't need a title like 'Sir' or 'Master' from a submissive to feel justified.  A Dom doesn't chose a submissive and tell her that she is his but instead shows the submissive why she should select him to be her Dom, her Hand, her Protector...  A Dom doesn't act like these fools you see on TV running around blasting Heavy Metal Music (Don't get me wrong, I love Heavy Metal Music) and brandishing a whip while wearing black leather pants, gloves, and a gimp mask...  A Dom knows how to Dominate a girl just as effective with them both dressed for work as when she is naked and bound under his hand...

A submissive is a rare and beautiful thing that should be cherished and treated with the respect that she in turn gives you.  Name calling is one of the most bullshit things that fake Dom's do to their submissives in an attempt to build 'power' over them by reducing their sub's self esteem...  Don't put up with this kind of abuse, don't put up with someone that has to tear YOU down in order to feel Dominant...

A true Dom will be able to take a sub, speak softly to her, treat her with respect and endure her own respect without question.  A true Dom can say nothing and convey dissatisfaction with a sub in a way that she will feel more ashamed than anyone screaming insults can possibly do.  A true Dom knows how to humiliate and punish a submissive without becoming mentally or physically abusive.

submissives deserve more than these cheap tricks done by aggressive males who are looking for girls that they can abuse under the guise of being a Dom or their Master.  Take your time, find a trainer, find a teacher, then find a Dom and then you decide if he is a true Master...  The one decision a submissive can always make is the decision to walk away from someone who isn't worthy of the gift they are giving.

submissives, stop being abused and putting up with these guys who are simply out there to beat and fuck you and find yourself a true Dom who will treat you how you should be treated and experience with D/s truly is...

D/s is not abuse...

So, just a random thought...  Has anyone ever noticed that most people will lurk on profiles and never contact you (visit your profile multiple times) but then you just send them a friendly hello, not asking for anything just trying to be polite and nice, and then you never get a response?

I don't know, I try to respond to almost anything that comes my way, from friendship requests to just overall talking about nothing and small talk. 

I guess all I'm saying is feel free to message me, I don't bite and I rather enjoy talking...and if I happen to message you, don't automatically assume I want something from you, who knows, it could just be a friendly note. :)