switchcouple8777 on Collarspace

5/18/2008 7:28:46 PM

*Grins* Well, apparantly the petty games aren't over yet. Today, I noticed something interesting. Everytime a certain individual views this profile, my personal one, and my play partner's profile, he posts a journal entry that can quite cleary be viewed as something regarding us. In response to this realization, I posted a short journal entry. Interestingly enough, he viewed all three of the aforementioned profiles, and then suddenly the profile which I posted my journal entry to was frozen due to a sudden onslaught of reports against it. This all took place within 20 minutes of his viewing our profiles. Afterwards, he posted an entry of "questionable" nature on his own profile, and all he could legitimately harp on was a single typo in my own entry, due to my mind working on the problem at hand quicker than my hand was able to properly type. Ah, the mistake was saying "grown" rather than "ground". I do apologise, oh infallible ones. For shame. Now why on earth would a profile that has never been reported, never contained anything that violated the CollarMe ToS, and never blatantly pointed to a particular individual when criticism was made, be frozen? It would appear that someone still enjoys playing his little games. I've also come to notice that he seems to enjoy flaming others (subtley, of course: he's quite good at that) while attempting to make it appear as if the person he is defaming has started it first, and thus deserves it. That certainly does remind me quite closely of kindergarten. (I'll steal your crayon, and then yell at you for supposedly stealing it from me first when you complain). A friend stated it best when he referred to this individual and his partner as a petty king with a puppet queen. I hope you're proud of your kingdom, because as of now it's about as stable as a house of cards. How will it feel when the walls begin to flutter away? Reality check: they already have. You're just too wrapped up in your own dellusions of majesty to realize it. If you think you've ruined us, here's a rude awakening for you. While no longer a couple, we're better than ever. An immense weight was lifted off of our shoulders when we realized just what kind of people we had 'lost'. The day when leaders of the BDSM community, supposedly there to help newbies and the younger crowd find their way, turn people away because they don't like them, or disagree with their thoughts or actions, is a sad day indeed. What 'leaders' have the right to turn away people who they don't agree with, for that reason alone? What leaders have the right to turn the portion of the community who came to them for guidance into their own personal kingdom.. Or harem. What 'leaders' have the right to flame other groups.. And only because members of their own group have shown an interest in it. What leader has room to be underhanded, petty, abusive, and immature when they have so many responsibilites to uphold. Ah, they don't. They just suspend responsibility so they can fit in the insignificant, cruel, underhanded and petty things that warm their granite hearts. What Dom/me has the right to objectify a submissive once it is agreed that that submissive is not their own? What Dom/me has the right to take for granted and advantage of all that a submissive does for them out of the goodness of their hearts. What Dom/me has the right to make submissives come to trust and rely on them.. And then abandon them when they need them the most. What Dom/me has the right to intimidate a vulnerable submissive so much that she's terrified of saying no. What Dom/me has the right to make a submissive feel as if they will lose the people they love the most if they don't listen to them. What Dom/me has the right to push apart a couple in trouble, who needs eachother now more than ever, with the hopes of having them alone, for themselves. What Dom/me has the right to beat a submissive until they are well past the ability to use their safeword until the submissive collapses on top of a cage, and then make the shaking, scared, bruised submissive crawl across a dungeon floor to recieve anything resembling aftercare, without even a helping hand. What Dom/me OR leader in the BDSM community has the right to then take the story of a submissives pain and problems to everyone who will listen, brag about abuses inflicted and trust broken, and tell anyone within hearing range lies designed to make them seem wonderful and a decieved.. and that it was those 'lowly' submissives that were wrong in everything.. Or deserved what they got. I apologise for that being so lengthy, but with each sentence I typed, another came to mind. The sade thing is that there is so much more that I could go on about. This journal entry will likely be reported, and more likely than not these individuals will be shaking with mirth to see this, thinking that I've chosen to play their petty game. Regardless of that fact, people need to be warned. I won't name any names, but the warning stands. Be cautious. Don't get in over your head, rushing feet first into something you havn't thought out. Sometimes, the tar pit you find yourself in is too deep to pull yourself out of until damage is done. Enjoy your reign. It won't last long. And know this: through all we have endured, we've come out of this better people. And we've learned exactly what not to do. If you meant to damage us in the hopes that we'd no longer have eachother, or be able to trust others, you have failed. Ah, one last thing. What photographer has the right to say that a tentative verbal agreement, with no signed waiver, no copies of identification or age verification legally stands, and that they have full rights to use the photographs taken at will, and yet also say that the subject of the photographs has no right to copies of them? A point for bad business ethics as well. This is what happens when you lose sight of reality. People are used, damaged, and exploited. I sincerely hope none of this happens to anyone else.