subgirl2009

Female Submissive, 21, modesto, California

Male Submissive, 49, ormond beach, Florida

Female Submissive, 51, Salt Lake City, Utah

A TEMPORARY DEPARTURE FROM CM I am taking a brief hiatus from CM to figure out some things about life, and the life style.? Thank you so much to all those wonderful Doms, subs, Switches (everything in between) that I have met.? Some are now dear Friends, others have been playmates and still others...well, I regret we won't be getting to know each other right now.? If you have asked for and received another way to communicate with me, please do not hesitate to keep in touch.? I value all of the relationships I have made here. Be well, all, and find what Y/you seek with joy and excitement.? SubGirl

Part 3 of categorization of Dom's on CM...All, I repeat -- this is a HUMOROUS attempt (ya know, where normal people laugh at what's funny).? Threats to spank/whip/beat me will not change my personal insight, and I respect your right to dislike my positions.? The "I'm a Mentor" D's: helpful, kind, but really -- do they want this level of info to help you or to be able to better tag you?? The positives -- if they mentor you, you win; if they get to know you in detail, you still may win based on where it goes.? The con's -- can you say energy vampire if not a real Mentor?? (And those fabulous Ones who are Mentors, there's a special level of heaven filled with beatable angels just for you!) The "Older" D: sexy, smart, been around the block.? The positives -- you get all the benefit right now, immediate gratification.? The con's -- not all, but some, are getting tired and a perky lil sub might be a bit beyond the energy level (good thing there are toys)!? (And no, not all age, is bad...lol!)

Part 2 of categorization of Dom's on CM... All, this is a HUMOROUS attempt.? Threats to spank me will not change my personal insight, and I respect your right to dislike my positions.? Don't make me block you...and no I am not into chicks.? Giggles. For those who mailed me suggestions, here is Part 2. The Baby D's: young, brash, and determined to immediately break in, these are guys are all about finding a girl.? The positives -- if you have the time, energy, and patience these guys might grow up to be quite awesome.? The con's -- who has that kind of time, energy, or patience?! The Control Freak:? posing as a Dom, these are guys who have serious issues with relationships, the size of their cocks, and/or women in general.? Demanding immediate respect and praise, as well as total obedience, one wonders WHAT SUB would find them worthy of consideration?? The con's -- everything. The Good Dom's:? confident in who they are and what they offer, these D's recognize that finding a match takes time, discussion, meeting, and patience.? The positives -- everything is open to discussion and thus a chance to make friends, if not to find your long term match.? The con's -- finding the One is hard work. This is dedicated to all the GOOD D's I have met here.? Thank you.

A playful attempt to categorize the D's of CM (and apologies for any offense this little one provides) ...and nope, sweeties I've met, this isn't about you (wink), although the less than stellar might see yourselves here! ????? The Oldschool D's: these D's have it all downpat and it is all about them (as some would say it should be - giggles).? The positives -- these are not 'nilla men; they are aggressive, demanding, experienced, and thrilling.? The con's - ya'll are as far out of my league as NFL players are to pee wee football. ????? The Wiser/Committed D's:? just when you think these D's are mentoring elders, they challenge you to grow in a hard way.? The positives -- experience without pressure, with enough twists and turns to keep one challenged (and I love ya'll for that!).? the con's - ya'll are all in committed relationships or lives and I, sadly, failed that basic kindergarten lesson of sharing. ????? The Fucking D's:? just in it for quick play, a random hookup, and cumming, these D's are awesomely intense...for about 3 days.? The positives -- ya'll offer lessons about D/s that would take years to learn, all crammed into a couple of days -- particularly the lesson that Doms are, above all, still just MEN.? The con's - just like 'nilla men there are liars, and haters, and players, and fools (and the few good men who fall into this category -- and have the strength to be honest -- mmmmm, LICK to ya'll!). ????? The Single Minded Kink D - just think of these D's as specialists...they excel in their area, mmm, and generally tend to stick to it.? The positives - learning from a master is never a bad thing.? The con's - for an explorer, these D's may be better guides to their craft than a Dom for life.? I feel honored to have met a few of these (and ya'll know it)! ????? The Learned it All From Porn D - just think of all those nilla guys who are too kinky for mainstream, they had to come somewhere.? Mostly married and wanting (in essence) a kinky mistress, or young and inexperienced, these guys push hard & fast for it all.? The positives - you figure these D's out quickly since it sounds like they are reading out of a script.? The con's - these guys like submissive chicks not to value, but as easy targets for their "game". ? Note to self -- if they constantly tell you how experienced they are, run early. ????? The "Love" D - just think of that nilla guy who wants to be in love, be together with someone so badly that they force their "emotions".? The positives - who doesn't need an ego stroke now and then, subbie or not?!? lol? These guys can be easily confused for The (fabulous) Looking For the Real Thing D -- but they are a whole other category.? The con's -? energy vampires, these guys have mastered their play...don't fall for it unless you want to be left kind of empty in a week and feeling like somehow YOU messed up a "real" thing you unworthy, disposable subbie.? Oh, and btw, the best way to be in the emotional space is to play, play, play -- or ya'll in this category seem to feel.

And along the way... I have made discoveries.? While I write (a lot) and enjoy verbal/written discourse, I am inherently a tactile, physically oriented, touch-based person.? No matter how strong the intellectual written appeal that's developed over on-line introductions, chat, message boards, pm and play, eventually there is only so much I can learn online.? I require One who has the means, ability, interest, and "geographic desirability" to be live and in person.? Not that there is no value in having friends across the board (for I seek to learn and many offer wisdom), but that there is a difference between what may be, and what is playful. I have a strong imagination.? I see the appeal of getting to know someone safely online.? I can be submissive to directed actions and words that are electronic...but it requires a mental connection which must have a live basis to be sustained.? There is nothing that replaces, for me, the physical smell, feel, taste, sound, hardness of a man in person that has aroused my mind, body, and desires. I am not here to debate or argue the "reality" of the D/s experience, only to seek that which works for me and perhaps someday One.? Submissive does not mean brainless, boys/men/pretenders/true Doms, and I cannot be argued into wanting that which will not sustain or satisfy either of us for long.? But I thank you, and wish you well.

A journey of submission... Not so many months ago, an old friend/former lover/"one who got away" and I resumed our friendship.? Both single, and both celibate for some time by choice, our long-distance bond quickly became rawly, erotically, sexually charged.? In bringing out the submissive in me, I brought out the Dominant in him, although I did not think of it in those terms then.? The journey started with a short visit where it became clear that all of these feelings, desires, "bad girl" longings are not just playful, but darker, more needful.??? When we parted, the lightbulb, watershed epiphany was that this wanton self came out not in response to HIM, but because it is what I am in part.? And thus the journey starts...

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