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September 09: I am going to be in Toronto for October, November and possibly December. I am looking for fun and perversion while I'm in the Big City. I suggest you check out my more current profile (a.k.a 10 things you might hate about me & 10 things that make me highly wonderful), mirrored here:
http://spokewench.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/new--profile-draft/
Also of use is 10 things I might like about you:
http://spokewench.wordpress.com/2009/07/30/ten-things-i-might-like-about-you/
April 09: I have moved to the website .com, which is much nicer than CM. I can be found there also by the username spokewench, there is more up to date info about me. This profile is quite old at this point. I have a website: http://spokewench.wordpress.com
About me (old profile, still all true!)
I am a healthy, intelligent, self-possessed early twenties
woman. I am polyamorous. I am confident and friendly. I can have
different sorts of relationships with different people. I know my body well and I know men's bodies. I'm experienced sexually and I'm always learning.
I am physically healthy and maintain a variety of activies and interests. I have a dark sense of humour.
I like being tied up. I like being confined and controlled. I also like not being tied up, but pretending. I long to be on my knees, sometimes with my head down. I like humiliation, but the truth is you have to get to know me better to understand what that means.
I enjoy pain. A flogging is a reward, not a punishment. I have never been pushed to a limit that I recognized with pain.
I also enjoy pleasure. I know how to take pleasure and how to give it. I can guide those nice warm bursts of energy around your body.
I love talking about sex, sexuality, fantasies, experiences and ideas. I love talking about what's going to happen.
I like being controlled but
in such a way that I am /giving/ the control away. I have played at
having it taken forcefully and I find this much less desirable. I like
a lot of talk, very heady. I enjoy the feeling of willfully being putty
in someone's hands.
I would like to be taught how to be very very good for someone. I have never played much with rules and obedience and such but I am certainly interested in this.
I do not like
Misogyny, role plays of real violent relationships like
cops or guards, cold, scat, bestiality, relationships that take up your
whole life, pedophilia, pain given without care or skill
About you
Note: I am only looking for people in Ottawa, Ontario.
I do not want to have to travel to see you and I do not want you to do
that either. So save us both some time and don't bother if you're
farther away.
You are a healthy, kind man. You have an understanding of gender issues and power relationships.
These contribute positively to a role you play as a Dom in some aspects
of your life.
You are interested in speaking with me and sharing fantasies to see if
we are compatible. You will understand if I feel we are not and you
will tell me if you feel so. You are keen to dominate a woman although
perhaps have felt / do feel a bit uncomfortable with it. You are
interested in talking about the gender dynamics in this sort of
relationship. Although willing to experiment and learn, you know what
you like and have fantasies and experiences to share and build on.
You do not require
keeping me forever, anything I judge to be unsafe,
"no safewords", to treat me like garbage, to have a one-way
relationship, to hide me from your "monogamous" partner, that I prop up
your low self esteem by debasing myself, for me to make frequent
commitments to you, that we be involved in a relationship either of us
judges to be abusive or codependent.
So since I have poured my little heart out I am waiting for you to reply with something suitable.
P.S.
Please talk to me in your human voice, not your Dom voice. I would like to meet people I feel comfortable moving into the Dom/sub role. I have not made any agreements with anyone on this site and do not expect to be treated as though I have. I don't think it's hot to be bossed around by someone I don't know.
If your profile features red text on a blue background or any other attrocities you will be automatically disqualified for bad judgement.
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Well, due to personal circumstances my time playing with the man I mentioned before seems to be at an end, for now at least. I am sad about that, he is quite fun.
But now I do have more time to explore new people and styles of play.
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I have gotten a few questions about "gender issues". I will copy and paste from an email. It's not the most well thought-out ever but it'll give an idea of what I'm on about:
Gender issues is an ongoing discussion about how gender affects people and interactions between them.
It
is important to me always because gender shapes everyone's experience
of life and the relationships they have with other people. I have
always considered it to be appropriate to bring frank discussion of
gendered upbringing and experiences to heterosexual relationships
because of the power imbalances that invariably come about in those
relationships. In a kink relationship where you want to consciously
move power around it makes sense to also consider the unconscious and
automatic power exchanges that will happen.
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I've been playing with -------- for a while now and have found that fun and rewarding. He is is a good top and teacher.
I have found that I really enjoy being tied with ropes. Who would have thought? So far I've found it to be relaxing and sexy. I like being paid attention to, certainly. :) When else does someone else put that much attention into my body and how it is presented? I actually like the feeling of helplessness a lot more than I'd anticipated and the enforced vulnerability gets me going.
I think it's good that I waited this long to pursue kink, because the truth is that earlier in my life I was not very in control of myself. If I did not have control over myself how could I give it to another? Now I feel like I have a substantial about of "power from within" and am in a good position to be able to safely hand that over to somone else.
That said it's proved to be harder to "give away control" than I had originally thought. I had only ever played power games with men who were my intimates and lovers first. But starting with someone in the context of a friendly kink relationship is different and a lot of trust needs to be built that simply cannot be forced.
I am working at replying to messages that have been sent to me recently. I am pretty happy with the situation with this man, and am giving him a good amount of comitment time-wise. I am still open to adding another person on a slightly less regular basis.
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