SpeelyDan

Male Switch, 46, brussels

Male Submissive, 30, Randstad

Male Switch, 45, Utrecht/Hilversum

I wish I hadn't just seen that, read that. It's not right. Because of things that happened, we were supposed to go slow, let it develop. You're not ready. Not yet. But you wouldn't let it develop; you gave up. And you're blaming me for not being the person you wouldn't let me be - not yet, when "yet" never came. You never gave me the chance to be what you now say you want; you never gave me the chance to be what I wanted to be. And now you deride me for not being just that. That's not fair, and you know it.

Something else I found that I feel is very relevant. Read away. Credit where credit's due, this isn't mine and I don't know whose it is. /// Submission is not about sex. Submission is not something one can learn. It is not sex. It is not dirty. Submission is beauty. It is a beauty that comes from the very soul of a submissive woman. It is a breaking down of the walls built up in her lifetime, allowing the beautiful, sensual woman to come through. Submission is about sensuality. It is about trust, communication, vulnerability, caring, and honesty. It is about being the graceful, sensual, beautiful woman that resides within. Submission is about knowing who you are, and what you want. A submissive is NOT a weak person, but just the opposite. She is strong. She is strong in herself, and in the knowledge of who she is. She NEVER submits out of weakness or desperation. She submits out of strength, love, and trust. Submission is freedom. It is a letting go of one's self, knowing that the dominant is there to catch you if you falter. It is about pushing to be the very best one can be, not only as a submissive, but as a woman.

I confess, I swiped this from someone else. But it's very, very true. Being a sub can take on many forms: being a sex slave, being owned, being told what to do, crawling around on hands and knees at a master or mistress's feet, being kept on a leash, feeding from a bowl, dressing as a pony and being ridden around, and, of course, being punished when naughty, rewarded when good. All of these scenarios stem from the same desire: the willing and joyful surrender of control. For a sub nothing can be more liberating than this-- to step out of the??? "real world", relinquish responsibility, worries, everyday pressures, and hand over their life to another. But being a slave or sub is not a one-way exchange. It's not about being helpless, being a victim, being lazy, and expecting someone else to do everything for you; it's the eagerness to serve, to worship another, the willingness and desire to please. Submission is a ritualized role of surrender and devotion to another. And if there's one golden rule that reigns above all others in being a good sub, it's this: "THE DESIRE TO SERVE" STARTING POINTS A good slave should remember all rules set up by his or her owner. He or she will do their best to uphold those rules and keep within the agreed boundaries. Some subs like to push their owners, challenge their authority or be naughty; this only works if the dom/domme is compliant in such games. If not, the sub is breaking the golden rule by putting their own needs above their owner's. Expect nothing in return If a dom/domme usually indulges a sub with a particular pleasure at the end of play, and one time chooses not to, this should be of no consequence to the sub. If the sub gets frustrated or annoyed, they're forgetting their sole purpose: to serve. ? Pay attention to detail A good sub should be aware of how to please a dom/domme in every way possible. If you discover that your master or mistress has a weakness for chocolates, lavish them with the finest you can find. If they've always wanted to see you dressed as a cheerleader then turn up in the costume one day. While it's important that a sub sticks to rules and does exactly as his or her owner tells them, surprises like this show that the sub has been listening, is thinking of the dom/domme, and is trying to please. ? When in role, stay in role Unless it's literally a life-or-death matter, no outside influences should be allowed to break the spell once both dom/domme and sub are in role. There's nothing worse than a phone ringing in the middle of play and a sub suddenly saying, "Oh crap, that's my sister calling me from Detroit. Do you mind if I take it? It might be important." A good sub may inwardly kick himself or herself (and be punished) for leaving it on but, knowing their place, will ignore it. A really good sub wouldn't even give it a moment's thought; he or she would be too lost in servitude. ? Take care of yourself Remember, as a slave you're someone else's property and, as such, you should be well maintained. If your owner prefers a trimmer figure, longer hair, or wishes you didn't smoke, it's your duty to do your very best to fulfill these requirements. A good owner will want their slave to be fit, strong, and groomed. A mistress or master who encourages their slave to drink more, wash less, and grow a neck beard, however, isn't worthy of being served. ? Never complain or argue Nothing will annoy a master or mistress more than a whiny slave, complaining, being demanding, or trying to tell their owner what to do. If, however, a sub is suffering in a way not conducive to play-their bound legs hurting, for example- he or she should always approach the issue in a tactful, apologetic manner. The slave should never tell their owner how to rectify the problem; that's the owner's role, not theirs. "Master, I'm sorry to bother you but I think my legs are getting pins and needles", is much better than, "You need to untie me; these restraints are hurting my legs."

I thought about changing my location to Ghana, just to be funny, but then I decided against it due to the possibility that it would make me look like a fake.

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