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I am a male submissive looking for a female dominant. I've never been involved in the community of this lifestyle until now. I've just kept it to myself and not actively pursued it. I've known what I am for a long time, however, and have done a lot of research on this subject in recent years, thanks to the online world. I don't know of any local bdsm communities in my area, but would be interested if there are any. One has to start somewhere. I have not been very successful in vanilla relationships. From my observations and what I've been told, it seems to be because I tend to be at the woman's beck and call and they lose interest fast and dump me. I also tend to be more sentimental/romantic than usual for a guy, which probably doesn't help. Maybe I need to change my approach, or perhaps I just haven't met the right person yet. So, I'm giving this a shot, I don't really have anything to lose at this point and I may make some new friends. It's something I'd like to experience. I know I may not be into everything that a potential partner would expect me to be, and I am new to this scene. I just put down what I know I'm into, and there are probably things out there I'd like but just haven't experienced yet. I am willing to work with you to learn. I am not solely interested in just about the bdsm aspect, I am interested in knowing who you are as a person. If that's out of line I apologize, but I don't see how any long term relationship can be successful on solely the physical/bdsm aspect to rely on. I prefer monogamous relationships, but as I've never experienced a polygamous one, I'm not completely closed to the idea. I don't have a public photo up here but I don't have a problem sending one to any interested persons. Thanks for reading.

7/23/2005 5:21:37 PM Well, I've taken the plunge and become part of a community like this for the first time. Hopefully it goes well. If not, I'm not out anything.