SoftMiddleCandy

one thing I refuse to do in ANY relationship is wonder... If I wonder it means... there's still a part of my mind you haven't conquered a part of my body you haven't kissed a place in my soul you haven't seen a place in my heart you haven't touched. 

I'm not insecure never have been... That's doing too much

any unintentional attempts to make me that way will FAIL

Grab me with your touch
kiss me like a girl... Gentle, passionate, deep
Drag me into your world,
keep
me there
me here
with you to please
to love
to share
to fulfill your needs
be Daddy
be aware
be Master to me
share
warmth
show you care
mold me until I am where
you desire
when I acquire
that location with no doubt
I beg you not to free me
push me further into you
allow my inner
slave
slut
servant
out
this... I beg of you

NOTES

I'm a sub that happens to be black NOT a black sub

if you don't like my pics BE HONEST why say something positive and never reply smh

trust is earned not a freebie, if you think different lol good luck with that, ignorance is bliss. Meanwhile if no one has given you a reason to lack trust, don't stand in your own way. 

LOL technology is too good now a days to say "I called and texted" but there's no proof of it. My electronics work fine *waves goodbye to the past*

Above is true

You send lengthy messages that actually make me think
I dont have to say this but your approach is quite distinct
I think I like it
Yes I'm afraid, of no fault of your own
Meanwhile no desire to alter my aim I don't want you alone
I know for a man like you its solely by choice
If anything above is true, inside a little voice
Whispers to me and says "its okay to open up
He wants to know what's in your head and if your heart erupts 
It'll be due an abundance of love"
Maybe the above is true and maybe I'm a bit struck
If its a turn on for you caress my cheek lift me up
Wrap my legs around you tell me exactly what...
Wait... Why am I telling you I'm sure you're able to conduct
Yourself and maybe this one, in quite a dominant way
No discussion of kinky things? Great, doesn't run me away
I get curious, closer, and comprehend what you say
This journey has been a rollercoaster as of late
Since the above is true you said that may change
I suppose I won't conclude, tomorrow will just be a new page
If you glide patiently guiding to a new stage
Maybe what I've been waiting to see will be revealed when curtains raise

wasn't specifically for anyone but inspired

Why do Doms always assume everytime a sub is cautious, leary, or real that she's been used for sex or controlled by sexual Doms? Lol I've had 3 lifestyle doms and 2 bfs that were Doms and didn't know it. Lol I only had sex with one lifestyle dom and before him I was coming off a 3 year stretch so TRUST and BELIEVE I have had heartbreak, been lied to, and irritated but NEVER I repeat never have I been used for sex. Now my last sexual encounter yea he didn't seem his heart was in it, I told him and that was that but please don't assume my in your face persona means I've been used. Thank you

Karma's funny... Got an email from an ex so we talked. He shared his updates on life and that of his only daughter my age... She's having a hard break up... Guy lied about not dealing with other women she never caught him cheating but just in enough lies showing he did or would... Messages and all... I laughed out loud into the phone. I could hear the hurt in his voice, his baby in so much pain and for a little while I felt pure joy lol then I felt a little bad. He stopped and said "I know but..." he was gonna try explaining how what he did was less or different but it was the same type. I expressed I only probably laughed because I just went through the same stuff but worse and he said "I'm sorry, if I would have thought my actions would have a hand on my daughters relationships I would have done better. He was a judge and caring and a good provider seemed like a great guy" my response.... "you. Seemed great to me too lol all my exs seemed great and were nice as people" lol 

tip - becareful what you do to the opposite sex your offspring might find someone just like you in good and bad ways, no fault of their own just a result of your actions

disclaimer - I did get his permission to share

*in her best obama voice* let me be clear...

a man arranging hookups, being hurt when you don't do as he asks, and / or anything else that many would deem "bad" lol is NOT at all a turn off to or for me. The turn off enters when he is dishonest  or sneaky about it. That is once again what I mean by standing in truth. 

So to compare a guy not in a relationship wanting to meet up for sex and expressing disappointment when displeased, with a guy supposedly in a relationship tweaking and lying about his actions and desires is to me unnecessary and totally impossible. Not sure what the goal was... My advice if you want something with a sub you'll get it just by being yourself, she'll like you just fine but making up inconsistent stories that wouldn't bother her even if they were true because its not her source of frustration does nothing but fuel the current experience of being lied to for no reason.

hope he doesn't mind me sharing or saying a bad word but...

Damn... The below is freaking impressive. 

"I have certain values and morals that I cannot break.  As many opportunities I have had to break some of them I have had to decline no matter how tempting." 

and he asked what I meant by standing in your truth... This Sir is an expression or example of what I mean. Going to eat and I'll respond to messages when I return so at this time if you see read but not response I'm not ignoring anyone.

LOL let me give a tip... I realize my pics are sexual and will generate certain responses, cool we may be able to handle that, actually... No may about, if I like you we will. BUT even if I'm in a slutty mood my first goal, focus, and desire from here is genuine D/s.  With that said, pease refrain from approaching me telling me about your career or your package and expect me to respond in a long drawn out expression of interest when you've failed to share anything about the man you are or what you desire from me besides more pics lol. Nor is it wise to put on your profile sex is second to mental, but when we move beyond cm all you can talk about is sex lol, why do that? Doms, please stand in your truth! If you wanna play, say so. If you want me to drool over you, say so. If you truly realize your looks, career, money, and health along with social status could collapse in just a few moments and you know in spite of that you'd STILL be a Dom, then and only then are you not wasting your time messaging me. Unless ya have a goatee, then scratch everything I just said *looks around* what I can be shallow a little. Giggles

ya know the words "don't go there" kinda do something to ya

Gotta put an FYI out... If things click or we play whatever we agree is fine but I'm not ready to be disciplined by ANYONE in a physical manner unless my submission is offered to or requested by, you. Spankings are fine, any other forms of physical discipline will probably get you hit back and I will make this clear further down the road if it hasn't faded. I take physical discipline or correction from a Dom very seriously if I accept it from you... Dude you rule the freaking world, get to that point, don't screw it up.

 I REPEAT Don't screw it up

a sub is weak if she cannot communicate her needs, a sub is weak if she cannot appreciate blunt honesty, a sub is weak if she isn't willing to grow and show improvement, a sub is weak if she sees or experiences mistreatment and refuses to walk away, a sub is weak if she refuses to control her reactions, represent her house, and handle her responsibilities. I have gained strength. Author Me

A smart man typed these words to me and I wholeheartedly now agree. Initially I had no desire to use certain terms but it is what it is 
Weak men lie and have no honor
A Dom is weak if he cannot lead his house the way he wants
A Dom/man is weak if he cannot manage his house
A Dom/man is weak if he cannot defend those in his house
A man is proud of what is his, protects her, and never denies her
Denying doesn't mean saying no in this context it means forfeiting her of a right to information for her to make an informed decision, an opinion, or possess her own feelings. 

when you see bs and you know it is without reading it and can respond respectfully and move forward you... Have...arrived... Now lets move forward.

if you mysteriously get a 3am text while you're on the phone then hang up moments later instead of standing in your truth, you Sir have just erased all the progress you made in the time up until you hang up. Lol its not about the time because things happen, its not about the person because its not my business, its about being the dom, the d, the man you are and say "blah blah blah I have to go" otherwise its treading too close to yesterdays trail and I'd be a fool to do that.

A very sexy, dom says the following on his profile...

*I seek my compliment which means, when I see her, I see me...a mirror image with breasts and a uterus. That plus the imagery should help with that understanding." I think that's great, because many people need a total opposite because they don't want to handle their own reflection.

Have no fear in your control, have no waver in your leash hand, have no question in your mind. 
if you own her
 
she
is
YOURS
 
doubt yourself, hide your deeds, question her love
your fortress will fallY

What makes my pussy drip is a man who can stand in his truth...
 
if you want a girl look at me and say "baby I'm going to fuck this slut and you're going to like it." I'll want your dick sooooo bad
if you're done relationship wise say "I'm done leave me alone"
if you want another say "we're adding another lets go find her" I'll follow you all the way
if you want to fuck a blond while her cuckold hubby watches grab my throat slap my face and say "slut I found a blonde who will make my dick water, have my dinner ready when I return" I'll cook and cum all night long and beg you to fuck me when you return
 
I won't feel less, my feelings won't be hurt, your girl won't be jealous.
 
I get hurt when details are tweaked, excuses cover guilt, desires are hidden, and you do things you already wanted to when you think I can't see it.

subs - get a journal, a personal one where you put your feelings, lessons, pains, and joys. If you like share it with your doms if he so desires. But just do it

if you get a message asking an important question look at the number before you respond 

genuine question (if you've ever been my dom this isn't towards you)

Why do you guys feel the need to tell potential subs about other subs chasing you? Now if they're yours I wanna know, I mean I expect you to talk about them, I would think bad of you, if you didn't but telling me about current girls chasing you its not my interest. 

I wouldn't sit here blabbing to a possible friend about this guy texting me this guy calling me hanging out with this guy unless he asks then heck we can swap stories or if he's my guy, if he's my guy you're going to hear about him.

I can't promise I'll always behave that's just not me
I can promise if you spank I'll squirm, cum, and plead
I can promise you days when you may wanna scream
I can promise when I'm in slave mode you'll feel like a King
I can promise if its tight hold I'll show reciprocity
Extend my hand for you to hold and in return beg you to squeeze
Be the secret that you can't hold your girl gives you what you need
See you'll shine brighter than gold make sunrays common as trees
That's the pedestal I hold for the possessor of me
I need to be controlled not a desire a need
I'm sure that may have been shown but I was inspired to repeat
Not just any man can hold or hone that technique
I've frequently been told in just this week
It takes a Master to direct your road so what does that make me
I don't believe all words I'm told but its a possibility
I do promise if you're cold my submission will decrease
But as soon as you hold I'll resume my kneeling seat
If that's a struggle for control exit stage left please
If its understandable and you have energy
Maybe its a miracle that we both happen to be
Right here and oh, I'm not against you training me
It might hurt
I might cry
At some point I might crawl
Under my skirt
Cropping my thighs
Reminding me not to fall
Give me worse
Dry my eyes
Allow me to feel small
Build me up
Show my why
Your pleasure should be my call
I'll be a slut
I'm kind of shy
Don't mind not being your all
If I say "what"
Squeeze me tight
Treat me like your fuckdoll
The main point in all this is my will to be yours
I don't know a lot of things but of that I might be sure

someone said I should clarify the force to be reckoned with and any bad habits I have...

I have a habit of noticing tweaks of the truth. I am not a do as I say type sub I'm a do as you do so... You sneak I sneak, you flirt I flirt, you curse I curse, you fuck uh lol idk what's wrong with me but I can never follow through on the screwing other people thing but you get the picture. On the other hand you focus I focus, you honest I'm honest, you dominate I submit, you cherish I love.

call it immature I call it juvenile but heck I'm a middle lol. No but honestly I call it adaptive.

also I sometimes don't realize how serious something is until something happens once I see its serious all is well.

um anything else oh I have a smart mouth better than having a dumb ass right hehe. Slap me a few times if I'm yours, it'll go away.

like my profile says in the end I just wanna make that special one happy

Shrugs new pics coming tomorrow taking suggestions

word of advice - never blame someone else for your feelings especially if they were already there. You don't go from good dom to sex focused in a week you were already there the sub was just too dumb to see it

ROFLMAO guy breaks up with girl on a social networkjng site she begs and they get back together someone breaks up with guy on same site and he's done forever LOL ignorance at its finest

subs pay attention to a man's friends most likely the one closest to him is who he's like don't ignore clear signs

oops I just did a message sweep if we were chatting well and ur msg was deleted it wasn't intentional.

just saw the sexiest domme ever but she's in another country too bad

sex has never been a drawing card for me, its not going to make or break my connection to someone so if everything we had is gone, let EVERYTHING be gone

sex is too easy to come by to be used for it by someone you once loved.

NOTE  pics of you fucking other girls is NOT something I want in my inbox, if I do I'll share that info. Its like a girl posting pics of her screwing other guys a whore is a whore regardless of sex. 

if that's your kink fine but see if I desire it first

Wow!!! Iyanla Vanzant just told this Evelyn Lozada girl "he loved you enough to come into your life and teach you what you needed to learn." How ironic, but that's real and just what I needed to hear. I'm ok now.

love makes people publicly flirt and days later officially end things roflmao I have no use for this love you speak of 

lol why would someone feel the need to inform me of the race, location, and career of their subs before and without even reminding me of who they are? Priorities priorities... Yes I can consider myself black but sometimes "we" do stuff that makes me tilt my head sideways like a puppy? Why the hell does it matter what I nam or consider myself anyway? As long as I am a 100% female and a part of the human race isn't that the ONLY race of importance in regards to me? And back to mr. Random what does a powerful position have to do with submission? Lol this day just keeps getting even more random.

if winning the lottery was as easy as telling what the future held I'd be loaded!

if you're a friendly sub, great let me know your intent be it friendship, seeking help finding a dom I ,personally know 5 looking for good subs etc but do not approach me because someone told you to or because you saw my name on a page and want drama or are trying to get a cam show. Thank you

lol this guy calls me a bot because I . Don't respond fast enough lol o k good luck with that approach

lol there's no need to chat lets just meet??? Lol how about to see if I even want to meet you... Why would I want to "meet" someone I know nothing at all about not one direct conversation besides a suggestion to meet? See this is how you get subs running around saying dumb stuff like "contact my Dom first" its because a guy is less likely to send a message like that to another guy but they shoot them to subs for hits and bigglez I need a drink lol a few drinks its on... I'm woke now lol

there's something about you that when I see you makes me lose all my control / when I'm around you I just need to, be wrapped in your tight hold / if you ever let me down I'd stay there, whenever you'll take my hand I'll rise / you're ever torn down I'll be there, kissing your wounds too shy to look in your eyes / but you say you like it and I say I want you, I can ride it, and I can ride through... Whatever goes on, it isn't going to break us, one interaction didn't make us, straight faced passion might just save us, lets make it happen, could be the greatest... 

so yea... I know I'm black, mixed, whatever you wanna call it but approaching me with lots of ebonics or slang isn't gonna get you communication. My Dom doesn't speak / type that way, no vanilla guys I have dealt with approach me that way, and oddly the guy with the ebonics wasn't black... My issue... It's offensive yea yea I know put my big girl panties on. That's cool but approach me right or stay out of sight.

submission IS a gift…
that’s why you received it for free..
nurture it
protect it
watch it
my submission is a tree…
your dominance is the sky looking down over me
I’ll take your rain… And grow
I’ll take your sun… And glow
I’ll take your wind… And sway
I’ll take your snow… And break
then I’ll never be the same
so appreciate this gift simply by
giving me your best and when I reach the sky
you’ll rise
and be
the universe

author Softmiddlecandy

I list fetishes and still get asked what they are lol

hope from a stranger and choked for having opera as a hard limit... A tear and a smile these are the messages that make cm worth keeping I likey you people "usually"

I know this is the net but subs PSA when you disobey your Dom publicly rt /online it makes you both look bad. Calm down, shut up, and do as you're told. You wanna fuss at some stranger play gta you wanna f around on him and get caught play Sims3, you wanna express your outrage for how people treat him get a tumblr OR... Here's an idea, take it up with HIM.

1950's??? I had an extreme interest in it... Then I watch it and research it and the women seem... Well... Almost... "Bossy" like seriously. The woman's telling her hubby what to do and the only difference between then and now is well the lady didn't work. I thought there would be more. I know research is only research and t.v. is just t.v. but I don't know what I expected. I guess a little submission. I saw and read of a loose definition of service. Yes she made his food and yes she watched the kids but isn't that what any good wife, mother, woman does? I mean some of them didn't even seem all that feminine. I guess I'm writing this because I'd expect something... Different.... Who knows I guess I'm just a little disappointed *shrugs* The closest to what I imagined was... Little House lol 

if he wasn't so sexy maybe I could sleep

I'm going to try and be positive and keep my mind on good things. May just call it an early night.

nipple piercings seem to take a while to heal and it's advised to wear the bar... I know you're like that's so random but I've been considering it the past few months so upon investigation now really isn't a good time. I like nipple torture my nipples are sensitive enough and most women have to go a few months without them being touched until they heal and some end up removing the piercing because it doesn't heal even after a year yeah noooo. I'll just stick with navel ring and maybe labret. I also found they have clip on nipple rings lol. I'll grab a pair and see if those feel fun :) If you've had your nipples pierced and care to share your experience (only if it healed quickly let me know) yea I know sea salt. I have this sea salt spray so you don't have to manipulate it a lot but still.

As a teen I was overly monogamous lol but moving to atlanta changed all that... They say there its like 17 women to every man lol well I totally facepalm @ that. The options, the ease, the excitement, the peace, why commit in a city like this was like my motto. Even when I liked someone unless I was sure and I never was, I still didn't stop flirting cuddling, etc (not sex though) 

Moving to Houston I put on my committed hat but figured out it didn't matter. I finally fully got into the lifestyle, I always identified as a sub and figured only a controlling guy could handle me but really embracing it and meeting doms was so freeing, fun, and fulfilling it was better than atlanta lol. Of course I had to have a heart break lol you get "doms" that take on more subs than they can handle and wanna play the girls for fools that kinda hurt but the girls resilient its funny because I had slightly considered settling down but knew I'd have wasted time being committed in the type of situation (I'm no beauty queen or genius but deserved much better). Then in the midst of my former mentor and i putting myself back together better came along. He was tall, funny, relaxed, alluring (a guy version of me but I'm short) I noticed many commonalities we shared good and bad. He began putting me in place pretty fast and although I fought it a little but I knew it was best. Being his was going to be lots of things wrapped into one but one thing I knew wouldn't be good or smart was to be monogamous. Not just me but either of us lol he isn't "that guy" I wasn't "that girl" but now I wonder if I am or not. When issues that normally would make me land in the presence of another male in less than 15 mins would arise I'd still feel his control, still hear his voice, still see his face, and it would bring out the babygirl in me who just wanted to be with her Sir and please him. Even at the point of being "freed" I didn't feel free at all. Within the tight hold he was establishing rested my freedom, my peace, part of my purpose. If you can basically be released due to your own behavior or not and instead of running free your dedication increases, either you're crazy or you are monogamous. Now if you are... What the hell are you going to do about it? Especially when you're all but sure you stand no chance. 

to monogamous people with partners that do "their thing" I use to think you were insane turns out you're just crazy... Either way... I salute you for your service and slap you for getting yourself so deep. Considers *slapping self* but I can't. 

Pursuing Poly Offline.... So sites like this and others just aren't doing it for you? Cool. Are you BOTH ready to venture out and find that special addition you TWO desire? Yaaaaay! First thing be honest, make sure everything is on the table. Next thing I understand no two people are always together but if this REALLY is a package deal it's still a proper and "respectful" way to do it. If you see a prospective addition at a munch, bar, club, work, school, etc. First thing you should do is text your mate and let them know what you see. If they can't make it there at least they know "it's looking time". Approach the person kindly and strike up a conversation at this point there is NO need to mention poly. A)you don't know the person b)its ONLY you and if you're looking as TWO one part of the puzzle is missing. After a nice conversation ask the person if it's okay for you to have their email or number to converse further. If they say yes terrific. When you reach your partner let them know the conversation. Contact this new possibility and after a little more chat ask for a photo (for your partner to see) and share the vibe you received from the person. If you TWO are on the same page with interest in pursuing this individual THEN is the time to express your interest to the person. Have 3 way calls by phone or 3 way meetings in person to move things along. If your partner doesn't like the possibility or the possibility isn't interested in poly no problem. I know some people may say "well I wasted all that time" In actuality you didn't. You did exactly what you would have done if it was only you looking unless you weren't looking for something serious as poly. 

I personally have been criticized for being occassionally nonchalant but poly IS a very serious thing and it shouldn't be just throw out there, hidden, or used as a smoke screen.

Let's be considerate people. See what you want, say what you want, and then seek what you want. If it's supposed to be joint make it joint if it's not so be it but don't expect her or him to embrace this new addition as if they're for you both when they aren't.

If your mate doesn't mind you seeking your own addition BE HAPPY and appreciative of it don't try to make it something it isn't.

fuck buddies were created to take the pain away lol 

if you two can't, won't, or don't bring out the good in each other... What's the point?

in movies people always talk about fighting for a relationship... The thing is... If its good and meant to be would it really be a fight... 

I love this site! In 2 secs it can change your whole mood lol. 

Enter
Throw me down
Slide my thong... no rip it down
Slap my face
Grab my wrists
Tie them up
I love this
Get some clamps
Clamp my tits
Turn on some slow
sexy music
If I roll spank me clit
Let me go on a journey not too swift 
Take your cock
or what you'd call it
Stroke it long
Make me watch it
Strike me strong 
So I feel it
Tie me hogged
Gag me for silence
Have your way
Do what you will 
I'll do
my best to stay still 
For you
So you feel
How true
My craving, my will
Will be to
Show you its real
What shall you do
You want me?
If so please let me feel
Your pain

Would you wax your subs pussy? I think that would be so freaking hot lol in more ways than one.

I just realized how funny it is when someone says “you can’t let how someone else acts control your behavior” THEN out of the SAME mouth comes “if you didn’t do what you do I wouldn’t do this” Roflmao isn’t that the same EXACT thing… I call shananogins 

if something isn't easy and you don't wanna do it and it DOESN'T need to be done don't do it!!!!!

lol@ doms telling girls "just because its in the loves section of my profile doesn't mean I'd want to do it to you if you were mine" roflmao this girl calls cowdung lol. If you wouldn't want to do it to a sub that was yours then why the heck even take the time to mark it and why have a sub who you don't at least think it's a tiny bit possible of you pushing that limit with? lol please don't send answers that was rhetorical.  Just thinking...

if you wish to do an experiment or study of any sort involving humans make sure to ask FIRST if they'd like to participate... Otherwise its just cruel roflmao I love it!