Most of my friends would say I have an easy-going personality. I have been called a "SNAG" - Sensitive New Age Guy on more than one occasion. This doesn’t detract from my basic need to Dominate. I also have a "wicked and warped" sense of humour.
I am not a switch on, switch off "when I’m in the mood" Master. I am “on” all the time and my basic style is with me 24/7. I think D/s all the time and I am always, learning, growing and developing. "A Master learns from the student as the student learns from the Master. When one ceases to learn and grow, one withers and dies."
I am also experienced as a Gorean Master and any kajira can expect that I will be resolute.
I am primarily interested in a long-term D/s relationship. One that encompasses all that D/s is about and with a partner who is as committed to growing and developing in D/s as I am to helping her do so. Although sexual/erotic tension underpins much of what D/s is about, it is not the only aspect of the relationship.
Control is another vital aspect of the relationship for Me too, but control is a fine thing. It extends into all aspects of the D/s relationship, not just play.
Contrary to what is often perceived control is not abusive or restrictive. It is energising and liberating.
Properly and sensitively controlled, a slave is, in fact empowered. Doors are opened, barriers are removed and she is freed of her inhibitions, thus she is able to “open up”, “stretch her wings” and express herself. Control sets a structure in place and defines boundaries in which she may feel comfortable to move - it gives her the framework to be confident in her knowledge of where she is and what she may or may not do.
As the relationship grows, I constantly monitor the controls for relevance, need, applicability and suitability. Controls are as dynamic as the rest of the D/s relationship changing as needs change. They are not prison walls but rather, they are expanding frontiers - frontiers which need to be proceeded beyond slowly and with caution.
A D/s relationship is unique and private. Although I enjoy participation and involvement with like minds within the scene, I prefer to play privately.
When it comes to play, I am primarily a sensory player with a keen interest in bondage, blindfolds and sensory enhancement/deprivation. However I am not restricted to these areas, but draw a line at extremes.
Although I prefer one-on-one, I like to experiment and having an open mind might, given the right circumstances and partner(s) consider trying it with another (man/woman) in the room. Naturally, in any sexual encounter I require my partner to follow my lead.
I am especially interested in the Dynamics of D/s, the psychology and philosophies of the BDSM world.
Understand I am MARRIED. I seek someone who is discreet and also requires discretion. If this is an issue for you, don't waste your time or mine contacting me.
I am looking for a slave. One who knows who and what she is and who is seeking a genuine, experienced Master for encounters. She will be someone who isn't afraid to back her own judgment. She will be “strong,” self assured, committed and honest with herself and to her submission. She is most definitely not a “door mat.” She will be articulate and intelligent and be able to hold an interesting conversation at any level, whether about D/s or not. She will be true to herself, honest with herself, honest within this relationship and expect same in return.
She will also, most importantly have a full and meaningfull life outside of BDSM. A good sense of humour would be a desirable asset.
I expect her to be as committed in and to herself as I am. I expect her to be as committed to making the relationship a success. In this regard, I will make a level of commitment to you and honour that commitment and honour you. Conversely, I expect the same from you.
Your level of experience is not important. What matters is your sincere desire to learn and grow and commit to that. If you are a beginner, I can lead you from where you are to where you want to go, advancing as you learn and grow.
Too often I have found profiles that are blatantly contradictory or the writer had no intention of honouring their word. That is of itself dishonest.
I recognize that a perfect match is extremely unlikely although I'd expect a reasonable match. Through negotiation we may be able to discuss/work arounds for differences and other issues provided they are not too great.
Fakes and players need not apply.
If you are interested in learning more about Me please feel free to e-mail me here.
