SirT63

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	About SirT63 What can I say about Me and be totally honest:::well first off I am a workaholic . I take a lot of pride in the fact that I have slowly worked Myself into a position at the company where I get called a lot to cover for ppl or get called in ealry, now that may sound a little like well HELL Sir then when will you have time for U/us? My answer to that is when I do find the soulmate I seek I will find the time that is required to have the life W/we seek and deserve, But I do have plans for My future, a house, with a personalized playroom, (which of course she will help design with after all she, will be in it alot)all which makes accepting the extra work a little more needed, to keep Myself afloat I can be very stubburn and hard headed at times, especially when lifes throwing Me and My girl a curve that W/we could not see coming, at times I feel liek Its My job to take care of the everyone in My life and I get so wrapped up in that thought that it will take a strong willed woman, one totally commited to U/us to be able to stand there and keep pounding into this old stubborn Irish Doms head that its time to deal with it together. I am very old school remember way back when Honor Respect were the main focus of this life, more than just kinky sex LOL. Also remember when a collar was a collar not made of velcro to come on and off when ever a sub wants to, not to say there aint times when a sub needs to release form a situation, but to change from one to another faster than high school kids change bos well thats the velcro I speak of. I discovered this Lifestyle over 20 years ago does that mean I am an expert in My ways NO I am still human hell W/we all are, I like the subs that I enjoy getting to know am constantly growing learning and improving oneself. I believe even the most experienced Dominant has room to grow learn even form the one true soulmate He gets the honor of having as His, Me I have had some incredible ladies in My life ones though life has taken U/us away from each other, that I would not want erased from memeory even if I could. The ups and downs that have accured within My life has made Me who I am today, do I have faults? sure, can I learn from them? yes do they make Me a better person? I would hope so. What do I seek I seek that final piece to My life the one that when its put into place brings out the whole picture into perfect light, of course shed have to remember the Old School days when honor and respect, representing her Dom with pride ment something, when it was more than just about a flogger or a single tail, more than just about a chance to have, a multiple partner sexually night, do I enjoy the physical aspect of the lifestyle HELL yes, the feel of a flogger in hand, the low cat like purr of a sub as I position it in just the right spot on her back to bring that moment of bliss, followed by the thought of Oh God when will another land, do I enjoy munches or lifestyle events seeing the looks on others faces as My girl makes jaws drop open the feeling of pride in her building in My chest, what Domiant can deny that and say they are being truthful I seek a woman ready to enjoy what the lifestlye has to offer U/us both, but more than that I seek a lady that can be everything a Man/Dom needs and desires in life, a partner, a slut, someone He can just talk to about how bad work went just to ease His mind, a servant, a freind, even a confidant I seek that one lady that is and can be everything to her soulmate, the one that to use a silly old movie quote ""completes me"" and will let me do My best to complete her. Age is unimportant to Me many yrs ago My mom told Me age just a number only two truely matter the day you come into the world and the day you leave rest is just time so enjoy it. Shed have to want to go beyond the cyber world okay nice to get to meet ppl here but lets be honest who wants to spend thier life talking about how they want to spank someone compared to actually putting her over His knee and feeling her squirming rear under His hands. But most of all shed have to be able to fine that fine line between the vanilla world and the repsect and honor that her collar brings with it, sometimes when I get to the point of missing the old days I reread over the ""Ceremony of The Roses"" and it brings Me back to who I am and where I want to go. Somewhere out there is My soulmate the one that can read that same item and see it just as I do, are you that person?

I am so tired of the wannabes and scammers that have become the norm here on Collarme that I decided to start placing names here of those so called subs or slaves that::

Either can't even have the honor and respect enough to at least email a simple thank you Sir or Miss for your kinds words or interest in this one, but i feel theres not a connection rather than just deleted unread. OR that say email me at another site and within two sentences MONEY is the big item.

Now I know this will piss a great many off,,but someone has to start doing so maybe a few of My older lifer friends that remember what this lifestyle once was wil decide to help and we can slowly get some of the wannabes and scammers removed. Thank god I do have a sub I have been with before and know is the real deal in My life so this is now just a Old School Dom going on police patrol, and posibly making a few real time true lifestylers along the way.

Names to be wary of:::::?? slavesexann//roastedslutpig//

Well heard from a old friend a few days ago, after all the medical stuff she and her family have been thru, life is getting better for her.
New job a group of new freinds and a new Dom in her life, she seems very happy like the world has opened up for her and she can live again. I am glad to hear cause even though things did not work out as she and I hoped for with U/us shes a very special lady and deserves all life can give her, I wish you all the best dear friend.

Well time to get something off My chest especially since a friend of mine from futher north, let Me know her situation. And there maybe another friend going thru something similair.

My friend is now under consideration, which is good BUT heres the kicker::::she has been informed that she must cut ties with all old friends before He entered her life. Come on whats this all about can someone be so insinecure about a relationship that they can actually say either your old friends form the site or lifestyle or Me. If you feel that unsure of the person then why are you even trying to have something special. A Dominant that accepts a subs submission should be Man enough to be able to accept she has friends from before they met.
I hope that the ladies I know that maybe going thru this wake up and become the special friends and ladies I remember them to be, and if any of My friends are goign thru something like this and just need My friendship or shoulder to just lean on or My ears to listen to them vent I shall always be here for you.
As for My life well not sure where I am going right now though I have made a lot of great friends here so leaving is not a possibility, I am still trying to see what fate holds next for me, though watching the neice I once called My little princess walk the aisle this last weekned makes Me wonder how much longer I can just wait on fate, not sure how much longer I shall walk this plane of life.

As always friends and any that read this Be well Be safe, but most of all always be true to ONESELF.

Well this time next weekend I would have been in Colorado for two days and watched, my sweet niece walk down the aisle. God I am starting to feel really old, shes like only a year older than my own daughter.
Looking forward to seeing her start her life, but at sametime makes me wish for younger days, guess W/we all start to feel that way from time to time. When I get back hopefully there will be some info I have been waiting on but will have to just wait and see. W/we can do all W/we can to try to make certain things happen in life but its so funny how even the Strictest most Controling person still has to wait for fate, destiny and the Big Man upstairs to do what He sees is right.
Sorry aint been around alot but as most of My friends know by now I am a workaholic been doing some very long weeks 70 plus hrs.look forward to chatting and hearing from those I have been missing.

Till then Be Safe,,,, Be Well,,,, Most of all be TRUE to THYSELF

At present using this mainly to keep up with some old friends and along the way maybe make some new ones. God knows I am always open to chatting with friends and theres always room in My soul for a few new ones.
BUT those of you that know Me and the company I work for as well as the time of year, well have probably already figured out the WORKAHOLIC in Me has surfaced again lol.
Which is good for now it gives Me a chance to see whats next, I am at the crossroads of life I have done all I can to have the future I want (the taking control of destiny part of life) BUT W/we all know life has a way of making desicions for you (the FATE part of O/our existance). So I like all in life await to see if I can have what I desire or if life once again makes Me have to start anew.
I once told a friend that you have to be able to give a realtionship your all, well maybe its just Me getting older, or maybe its Me just acknowledging something out load I have always felt about O/our chosen lifestyle, BUT I have to be able to give it My all as well. ITS NOT just the sub that has to give it thier all, in a way it's like any other relationship with a few added knots, smacks etc lol but BOTH have to be able to give it T/thier all. Be Well and Safe frineds new and those I have known, BUT most of all remain true to yourself, which will enable you to be true to your committed relationship if your in one.

Over the years I have found many many friends here on CM, several that have been close personal friends form almost the day I first found CM god only knows how long that is now LOL, but they have always been there and deep inside I know they will always be there for Me.

As of lately though theres one that happened to be there when I was feeling a bit down and she was too as someone had let her down for her Birthday, so I went to take her to dinner for her birthday, since then W/we have talked more and reminsced of al the yrs W/we have known each other. W/we even spent the last holiday together, so now W/we after some discussions and talks W/we are taking O/our friendship to the next level, and for that I thank her.

What the hell is it with all the ppl now thats first question when they speak with you, is Sir can you afford to relocate me to You. Or the ones that say i ou tof the country now and need help getting back, jeez use to be a decent site to meet ppl of like minds and interests now its like scam central come on ppl. Maybe there should be a place for Dominants to add names to a list of those they run into that are more interested in money than the lifestyle itself.

Well been awhile since I have been around mainly cause trying to work thru some personal issues, as well as trying to help a friend work thru some of thiers, unfortunately seems that friend has decided it's time for them to walk away from the lifestyle, on what can only be classified as a self journey to find the person she feels she somehow lost, the lady I see in her everytime we chatted spoke on the phone or were lucky enough to spend time together.
Though it hurts to see such a friend leave My life, in the daily everyday stuff of the world, I am trying to understand her feelings and needs, but being the man I am the type that shows the soft side and caring side to Him, (I am wondering if this side should be hidden away from the world, not sure on that one yet) I cant honestly say I see why or how she could feel shes lost.
Right now the hurt is still fresh and new, but in time I know I shall always cherish our talks out time interacting as freinds, hell I even appreciate our heated discussions as they made Me see things in a new light sometimes even made this old timer maybe see them in a different way then I once did in My set mind of state.
I know one of the things that helped this journey become a nessicity, is what have taken over here on this site, theres an influx of players, wannabes, backstabbing, amongst as other types of haters. Know this when My search resumes for My one if you want to have drama and playing in your life keep moving on.
Though I shall miss you I do wish you all the best on your rediscovering journey and pray that at the end is, the results you seek.
May the ligth at the end of the tunnel shine brightly to show you the way to the end of your journey.

Well family issues are now completed, Work still well work as for My personal life well still not quite clear yet, so I sit back try to keep an eye on friends and hope that My desires and hopes work out, till then Best wishes to A/all My dear friends

Okay been a bit since I wrote here BUT this has to be said,,,,,, come on ppl be real sign up on collarme one day and the VERY next say owned how much did you really learn in one day.

Not sure what it is lately with these On line or if lucky one paragraph profile entries on the site lately, but seems to Me that if you truely want ppl to know who you are, what you seek, and what you have to offer, Well it would take more than one line. Am I right or am I going crazy in My old age.

Just another Day in paradise and life goes on roll with it and have fun,,,,All My best to friends one and A/all even those that can sometimes drive Me a bit crazy,,LOL see y'all around the chats

The last few months have been a roller coaster ride for this Man, first it took a long time for Me to return to the Lifestyle and site after life handed Me and the lady I was with a hard blow. When I did finally return well lots of old friends welcomed Me back with open arms,, and I made quite a few new great friends, the new ladies I have met have made Me feel renew and brought a fire make into Me again. There was one that took Me to another world with her sweetness and innocence her desire to learn the life and to become a better submissive for the Man she commits too, and for a while it looked liek I was gonna be the lucky one, shes an incredible woman and trust Me even though, shes young in age she is every bit of a woman and someday will make someone a great soulmate and submissive. I say this cause once again life the nilla everyday life has made it impossible for U/us to go where we want too But I shall always treasure and cherish the time W/we had together. And for those of you would be Men I will be watching her as a friend so either be real or be prepared for Me to let her know your not.

Okay Sir T's soap box is open again, and this one will more than likely piss a few ppl off BUT I have to give My piece of mind on this issue::::::::: a very good friend of Mine today was put in a position that NOONE should ever be put in!!! Okay let Me explain this girl is a very fun loving playful lady and she does not distinguish between Dom and sub when shes being her playful happy self, Yes she knows the difference and is very respectful and behaved in regards to the Lifestyle but as I said very playful, W/we have chatted several times and goofed around and even discussed maybe in time her visiting,, BUT today she avoided Me like I had the plague till she felt so bad she had to let Me know why. Seems a Dom she has spoken to before and had a bit of chemistry with has requested after less than a month that she not interact with any other Dominants, How can someone expect a person to be anything other than her true self, how can you expect her to stop being the playful fun loving girl that many have known, or even worse yet how do you find the nerve to request she stop speaking with ppl that have been her frineds. Can you be that insecure about what there is between you, can you be that afraid that she may find a close friend you feel threatened by,, if the connection is strong and good it should not matter wheather a person interacts with a Dominant or a submissive, in an acceptable manner. My opinion here is have your friends be yourself BUT just remember the bond you and I share and respect it, maybe I am just crazy but come on guys submissives dont go thru life with Dominant blinders on that keep them from seeing anyone other than other subs. Okay I said My piece sorry if it does piss some off but it's a request I see as totally unreasonable.

Today during My time online early this morning a very special lady, a friend that I sensed a great inner beauty in, one I spent many times with in playful interaction as W/we got to know each other more, came to Me with what she felt was a problem. Though there was a very mutual interst in each other the distance between U/us as well as things going on in O/our lifes may have kept a real time meeting form happening for quite sometime, W/we continued to build a very special bond, one I shall always cherish. BUT anyway back to the issue she told Me she had met another here on the site one close to her, that also made her feel special one that made her feel like I do, like someone that should be cherished, but she felt bad about wanting to meet Him since she and I had this friendship building.
My answer to that was please go for it, time and distance could keep U/us apart for a while as well as lifes happenings and you deserve to have someone in your life, as well as being happy. And though I felt honored that she felt the need to come Me and bare her soul, it was not really nessecary darlin.
If this Man sees in you the inner beauty I did and can be loving and caring in His ways with you, He will be one very very lucky Man to have you in His life, I wish you nothing but the best, and give you a never ending friendship, you truely are a Treasure to be cherished.

A self imposed Question, sub or slave which is right for Me? Well many moons ago if you had asked Me that I would have said a slave, one that nevers questions, always does as told, always places Master before herself.
That is till recently and thats why found Myself asking that question. So what is it I seek now, well I would have to say a sub with maybe a few slave traits LOL, but I seek a partner in lifes journey, someone that I can look forward to coming home too and just put My arms around her and say lets go out to dinner catch a movie, or just sit home and cuddle, But then again one I can say hey lets go to the Munch thats happening or the fetish flea, I need a lady that is sub and seeks to make My life pleasant and better, by serving Me to her very best, but one that at the sametime is still a person and not afraid of dissappointing Me if she does something wrong or not quite the way I like it done, one that knows its okay to say Sir i am sorry for dissappointing you but in her heart knows I will see it as not a dissappointment but rather a chance to take the time to spend with her and help her understand the why and how I like things done, not as a mistake but a chance to guide her, and when shes got it down a chance to be proud of her. I seek agirl that has hobbies, interest of her own to share with Me, a woman that can speak her mind in a respectful way but Not afraid to stand up and say look W/we need to put Master/sub aside and get this straightened out before it breaks U/us. Am I crazy maybe, but I believe a well mannered and educated sub can be just the woman I need in My life. Someone to save Me from the dullness of the everyday life with her gift of herself not only as a sub but as My soulmate, so I guess the simple one word anser to Myself impossed questions is a ""submissive"". Now the only question is are My requirements in her too much to ask only time can tell.

In a funk last few days But at least seeing old friends does help, Just that the Holiday right around the cornor and well the family dont get together like we did was I was a child, and missing Dads little ones. Seems right now all there is is work, and just hanging out at the house alone. But seeing so many I have cherished for years as friends find the place they belong makes Me think its possible.
But am I seekign to much in the things I want and desire from a partner in life, is there truely someone that can understand and live the fine line between the D/s life and the nilla world, such as company functions, family weddings and such but still have just enough of the D/s in U/us to respect that side of O/our life.
Can there truely be a woman wise enough to know that just cause her Dom dont tie her up and beat her daily doenst mean He cares anyless then He did the day she accpet Him in her life and gave her all to Him.
Is there one out there that can be just as happy as she would be scening if I said lets just call in some pizza or chinese, sit back under a blanket, and cuddle and watch a few movies, then drift off to sleep in each others arms.
Deep down I believe there is But I grow tired of putting Myself out there trying to let someone get to know the real Me the good and the bad, just to be torn apart. Yes I know that happens to the best of A/all of us but how many times in 24 yrs of the lifestyle can one continue to feel it happen before He starts to become jaded, am I becoming jaded?
It this point in My life I dont think I am totally jaded yet, but a little doubt about sincerity is starting to take root, I still feel someones out there that can and will pull those roots out.

In a chat with a friend I made a statement which I think describes what I seek better than all the words I have tryed to use before to describe it, """"Yes I love the physical connection One shares with His sub, BUT I yearn for a connection that burns deeper than the mere touch of My hand on her skin""""

Daddie's little girl (that aint so littel anymore) called from college the other day needing help. And right away of course thought she needed money but she needed help with an assignment for one of her classes. NOTE My daughter wants to be a child pyshcoligist and work with troubled teens.
Her assignment was to get a parent to give you the name of two artist and songs they perform that best describes themselves and what they want from life. Then write a report on what you feel each song means.
I gave her First:::: Tom Petty's """"Here comes My girl"""" Then Trace Adkins' """"Wanna Feel Something"""" hope she can read into her old man and get a good grade on this assignment.

Okay guess I am really gonna blow some peoples minds with this entry LOL, especially coming from a Guy. If your profile says this sub can come to her Dom right now and commit 24/7/357, or your email would read Sir this sub can and is willing to serve You form this moment on no limits, guess what dont bother!!!!!
Now I do understand the need to fulfill the need to serve and be controlled as I understand My need to have one under My control,,,,BUT,,,,,lets be real ppl any relationship takes time to get to know each other make sure it could really work. If that pisses some off then I do apologize but its just My way of thinking, if your in such a rush to submit and not take the time to truely get to know what a person likes and is into you DAM well could wind up in something you'll wish you hadn't. Nothing wrong with building a good friendship first and then see if it can go more, and if not you got at least another great friend hell I have several on this site some friends I have known for years and would give the very air I breath if they needed it, as they have been there just to help pick Me up when down. """"Okay now that I am sure I mad someone see RED time to get off the soapbox."""

Is it just Me or does it seem like lately the new thing to do is simply post a pic of yourself say I am this or that, nothing of any detail in the space, to tell individuals about who you are, what you seek. And think someones just gonna look at the pic and want to collar you, is that truely what these ppl want a relationship built on just looks? What happen to getting to know the inner soul of a person needs, desires, dreams, even fears? That and lately I get at leats one to two emails a day with i am a true sub will serve good add me @ such and such, CM got overrun by spammers while I was gone?

Was in chat earlier today when a question was asked and two major words came out of the discussion TRUST and POWER. Now understand that these are My thoughts maybe shared with others but I dont speak for all Dominants. First off POWER yes there are times a sub wants to be Overpowered or feel the Powerful arms of thier Dom, but One can't base the whole relationship on Power. If the relationship gets to the point that one stays mainly cause they feel overpowered can it be a healthy relationshp where Both those involved are feeling complete?
On the other hand TRUST to Me has the biggest inpact on any relationship whether a D/s or a nilla. The fact that a sub has found in You the one they can Trust that thier submission will always be cherished protected and honored, should be the goal of the Dominant. When there is that much of a connection the results can be incredible and most rewarding for both parties.
And I truely hope that more of U/us find that special connection, including Myself.

Being one that always believed in safewords, I am gonna pass on something that in My self imposed leave from the site, I came to see and understand.
Even though a cpl may have met thru this site or those others of the same lifestyle, they still have to deal with the pressures of everyday vanilla stuff, bills, family needs etc etc.
And though being the Dominant one in the relationship and wanting to be the one to handle everything there are times that the D/s HAS to be put aside to deal with what live was throwing at them together,,,,So the sameway you come up with a safe word, come up with ONE word that when the submissive says it, it is so out of everyday normal conversations its like a bell going off in Your head. A bell that says we need to put the D/s aside till we get thru this situation TOGETHER.
Maybe a little silly but We as Dominants need to remember Our subs are still human and full of feelings and needs.
Just a thought

As I said Id be addign to this here and there and realized something I would want ppl to know, I seek one that can understand that everyday life sometimes makes it hard to find time, to bind her or beat her full out, but that dont mean a Dom dont still care.
Someone that can understand that sometimes a man just wants to come to a very special lady hold her close and just let the world slip away, someone that can see a rough love session or a cpl of sweet little smacks to the ass as He walks by, a grab of the hair as He kisses her lips as reassurance that He still feels for her as He always did.
Yes of course its great to try to make time where you can go all out with a scene, and truely needs to be found but understand that sometimes lifes calling makes that very hard.

Well a few things that should be known:::

First the person I am seeking to find is someone that wants a life time commitment, but also understands that at times life can get hard and things may not seem all rosey and sweet BUT has the commitment to say okay Sir me and You W/we will get thru this together, and wont quite on U/us. Now some may say can is this truely be a Dom speaking like that and I say Hell yes it is. I am a firm believer that one can give herself totally to her Dominant but still can be a person and an individual with a heart, mind and desires and as the Dom in the relationship its My Duty to U/us to understand she has needs desires and to help fulfill them as well, after all a sub that feels needed understood and fulfilled would want to please all that much more the person that made her feel so cherished.

Second she must be able to seperate vanilla situations from the Life and act apporipiate, yes I still believe even in a vanilla situation a person can still have a degree of respecy for thier Dominant, example here is a dinner with My dad with the lady I was with at the time a very vanilla restuarant, my dad blind to any world other than the one right in his face, and she had the respect and honor, when the waitress came to take the orders, to look at Me and say Sir may i have a drink, man oh man the look on dads face LOL, but it was not so out there ppl stared and still showed her respect and honor to Me and made Me very proud of her, I seek a lady that can do that as well, no matter where the vanilla thing maybe a work function, a Bday for a family member, just little acknowledgements of her place in My life.
Am I crazy hell at this point not even sure Myself but I know somewhere out there are some that feel as I do, that just cause your in Stop N Shop amongst nillas dont mean you have to hide who W/we are completely.
Everyday on this journey to the new Me I have become and continue to try to make a better Man and Dom, I realize things I seek and things I want to give to the one that someday I hope will be the Sirs lifemate, even the air He breathes, the blood that runs thru His veins.

The first of many entries I am sure you will sooner or later find here, First off a thank you to all those friends that remember Me under a different name, that made Me feel as though I had not taken a small leave from the site. Your open arms and warm welcome back made coming back so much easier for Me.

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