SilverGoddess17

Alright, after some very sweet messages...I'll stay a little longer, but subs really need to get their acts together. 

Let me go over a few things to make this process easier for you.

Going online and building a profile, particularly you ridiculously lazy boys who don't bother to even fill out your profiles...is easy, what does it take ten minutes?

BAM...instant online shopping for a Mistress.

Now take a step back. This is at least a little like dating. Take my profile for instance. I like to think (do respectfully comment if you think that this is wrong) that it conveys the sense that this will be an all encompassing and time consuming experience. 

If you are unfamiliar with what real domestic service is...it really is a sort of household setup where the male accepts the submissive role in the realtionship, and probably most of the woman's chores etc. as she chooses. This does not mean I don't help, I just pick and chose what you will do to please and help me.

Does that come with rewards...oh yes, foot worship, and body worship, and serving me intimately. Of course hours of oral worship. The longer you are with me, the more intense the domination, and the more detailed, and the more likely it is I'll be surprising you with something new. I like a slow burn that warms up to something interesting, and as time goes on, I get even more enthusiastic. 

Do I enjoy casual companionship and affection? Of course. Does that mean I won't turn on a dime and make you follow a command in the middle of dinner...absolutely not. Control is mine for the taking, whenever, and I enjoy nothing more than that startled look you get when I force you to do something when you were least expecting it.

I am not a cookie cutter Domme and while your fantasies are important to me, you need to be willing to hand yourself over to what I want...not just say that you want to and than start demanding all your kinks. This isn't a prodomme session, it's a little more like 24/7 life, and when you serve me, you turn yourself over to being cast in my fantasies, not the other way around. I must admit, men seem nearly genetically incapable of grasping this concept. 

You need to take a real hard look at your life, do you have time for this, can you really make this commitment? I'll admit, it's hard even for me to find the time right now, but you must be truly driven to follow through. I will always accept a polite withdrawal, but I am never happy when people make promises they cannot keep.

So I have truly been busy, I am sure my absence did not go unnoticed. Some very patient people waited a very long time for answers to messages. 

I have not gotten any negative feedback about my entry about the submissive male nature, but several of my correspondents did compliment it, and even thank me for offering guidance. I was disappointed to see that at least one sub did not bother to read it (not the sweet too short note, a passable mistake). I had to block a user for sending me a nearly two page verbal assault this morning. Apparently he mistook me listing my interest in liberal politics as a belief in liberal politics and chose to send me a positively offensive letter about it. Why he thought I would even bother to respond to this, I have no idea.

For the record everyone, I am a registered independent with little or no interest in politics. I specifically put liberal politics on my profile because I tend to find the personalities of die hard conservatives to be abrasive and offensive and I was hoping it would deter them from contracting me, not incite them to accost me. I'm sure there are some very intelligent and civilized conservatives somewhere, I just haven't had many good experiences with them, so I tend to find it's best to steer clear of them. Not to mention, that I am a scientist, and my views tend to offend their religious sensibilities, so rather than mix methane vapors with fire...why not just avoid the whole situation, right?

Well anyway, being a Domme, I felt it was best to avoid even responding to that sort of mail. It's rare, I think, that I ignore messages, and you truly have offend me to get yourself blocked, but we're not on here to discuss politics. In the ten minutes I got today to jump online this morning, why would you waste my time making me look at that drivel? To call it sophistry would be to compliment it with even an illusion of intellectualism it couldn't possibly have had. I get on in the morning and I'm suddenly being accused of taking someone else's tax dollars because they imagine I have a certain set of political views without even bothering to talk to me first...and they think they know what the problem with this country is...Oh dear JR, I think I am on my soap box.

Oh what the hell...I'm already up here...The problem with most people, in politics and everywhere else is they are so busy listening to themselves talk, that they never bother to carefully listen to anyone else. People prattle on for hours about the importance of communication and they themselves...SUCK AT IT.

What was it Jesus said (oh yes, I just went there, the problem with religion is you don't listen to your own teachings either) in the sermon on the mount? 

"You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."

If everyone bit their tongue before they criticized and put their head down to work harder at being better people themselves, perhaps we would all look up one day to realize we'd made the world a much better place. However, if you'd like to stand around complaining, can you move over and get out of my way?...I have things to do so I can help people. Freaking conservatives. I can't even begin to get into how bad they are for women, and how female conservative politicians make us all look incompetent. Sarah Palin alone, just with that awful Paul Revere comment, made us look bad...but then, Michelle Bachmann went and made so many erroneous comments about history, and the constitution, that a high school sophomore from NJ called her out for a debate. Dear little Amy Meyers, who was running for school office leveled the same charge; you are making us (women) LOOK HORRIBLE.

So no, I am not a liberal, but you are not going to win me over to the conservative camp by further convincing me that you are incapable of intelligent dialogue and verbally assaulting me via a collarme message. More importantly...you aren't going to get yourself an interview to be my submissive that way. Though I may consider beating the crap out of you for fun.

“In your room, Where time stands still, Or moves at your will. Will you let the morning come soon, Or will you leave me lying here...Your favourite innocence, Your favourite prize, Your favourite smile...Your favourite slave.” Depeche Mode (In Your Room)

What is a submissive...Man?

Well this is a journal entry that's been pacing around in my brain for quite some time now. After a few ups and downs, I had to wait to make sure I did not write a scathing essay on the fallacy of the submissive male. As many of you have experienced disappointments on your searches for authentic connections, I thought instead I'd reserve complaint (and vitriol) in favor of something a bit more constructive. After all, I'm not the only frustrated party out there. Just to clarify as well, I don't count little issues that arise, like misunderstandings about terminology referring to worlds I don't venture into. I recently had a lovely conversation with a sub who clearly communicated an interest to me, and I entirely misunderstood what it meant, which was very funny, but I'm sure frustrating to him. It turned out to go way beyond the limits of what I include in my practice. I'm happy to chalk that up to the normal process of matching up preferences when finding compatible matches. No harm, no foul.

So what is a submissive in general? Feel free to debate me on this, as subs, I would hope that you have a great deal of insight. A sub is generally speaking someone who gets erotic pleasure from the act of or the implication of submission. It does not mean you are a submissive person in your everyday life, however I do believe that there are certainly layers to this depending on how people chose to live the lifestyle. Bedroom subs, draw a clear line, they don't live the life 24/7. While others seek to find ways to walk around in physical submission and bondage to their Dominants all day. The key here, is that a true submissive, craves not just a session of kink, but a real opportunity to make an intimate connection with someone they trust so completely, that they hand control over certain elements of their lives over to them, either for periods of time, or in certain areas (financial, physical (bondage), sexual). The feeling of giving control and getting the sense that the other person has reciprocated by accepting it, and dominating them in kind, satisfies some part of their need for intimacy and affection in a way that the features of a Vanilla relationship could not. That said, it does not mean, a sub is “sub-human”. They are varied, three dimensional people, with diverse needs that range outside of their D/S interests. Their D/S interests will not entirely satisfy the full range of their emotional needs.

One of the many reasons I decided to explore this (and of course invite you to comment) if because I draw a serious line between S&M and D/S. While clearly there is significant overlap, a D/S relationship can exist with virtually no physical pain being inflicted AT ALL. It doesn't mean no kink, but it means, this is happening on a really emotional and psychological level. I don't need to physically enforce it. So if I tell you I am into domestic D/S and you ask me if I want to electrocute you...and I'm confused, this is why.... I'm not disparaging the arts of the Leather People. However, what I do simply doesn't require those interests. For me, that is surface stuff. Anyone can tie you up, and if that's what you're into, go for it. Bondage though does not automatically equal submission. Pain in some ways can be easier to endure, and more short term, than really relinquishing freedom the way that subs do when they enter into house service. I'm still not a fan of the term slavery, and I still do not have much interest in degradation to Nth degree.

Okay before I get too far off topic....

If you think you are submissive, and I have said to you...no you're not, sorry...

Here are some tips for being a good submissive when approaching what you believe to be a genuine Domme.

1. You are approaching an AUTHORITY figure. Don't write her a one liner with no greeting and no closing. Don't use foul language, slang and bad grammar. You're not picking a woman up at a bar, you're respectfully requesting to be noticed. If she is rude back to you, move on, that's fine, but don't start the conversation on the wrong foot, you won't get a good response, or any response.

2. Don't IGNORE her profile details. If she says her age cut off is 35 and you're fifty, write her a note of admiration, but don't make application. If her hard limits are your favorite things, don't go writing to her anyway, because you are just so desperate for a good Mistress. You can't make a size six patent heel fit on a size eight Domme, and this just ain't going to happen. A Domme should be a little flexible, but she isn't going to compromise on the stuff she took the time to list.

3. Don't make demands. Having a thirty minute conversation about what you want, is fine if she asks, however, be flexible. Too many of you say you are all about pleasing her, but in the end, you come across as selfish little boys...like all men. Sigh.

4. If you have any doubts that you are submissive, maybe you're just kinky, maybe you are dominant....CHANGE YOUR LISTING. No point fishing for something you can't eat (or that would rather eat you). No point in us catching things we have to throw back...get it?

“Love needs it's martyrs, needs its sacrifices, they live for Your beauty, and pay for Your vices...You're holding court with Your lips and Your smile...beseeching the honor, to sit at Your table, and feast on Your Holiness, as long as their able...” Depeche Mode, (The Love Thieves)

So it has begun...remember when i said my schedule was going to get really crazy?

Here we go! Well at least the class I am taking, on top of working full time, as challenging as it is, is being taught by one hell of a female professor. Her gender alone wasn't a guarantee, mind you. I've had women who have clawed their way to the top of the field, and let's just say, it didn't treat them kindly, so in turn...she didn't treat us kindly. 

This professor, not that I'd love to fail her class, but I will appreciate being there regardless. There is a certain garment in my closet I had sadly packed away thinking it would not see the light of day again...and next week it will. I'm celebrating. 

Soooo busy. I was able to get out early tonight, jump on. Jot out some mail. Make sure people know that is why I am not on as often. If you have my personal email, reach me there or you will wait several days for responses.

Best to everyone!

Silver

   Today I will do something very uncharacteristic of a Domme. I'd like to say thank you to all the patient subs who are waiting in the wings for chances to get on YIM and chat or chances to get interview slots. Mean while, I have some rather unpleasant things to say to the people who have truly wasted my time...but I won't.

   Not only is it not worth my time, but it is simply a fact of life that in any kind of search for a connection, people are simply not going to match up. The virtual world, allows for us to simply sign off, not answer a text message, when we think something won't go our way. That said, I have also been known to walk away from an exchange for one reason or another. I don't feel the need to explain myself but I do think that people at play should be comfortable cutting off contact for any number of reasons. If you think you've been wronged, you can ask, I may just answer.

   - You went idle too long...so maybe I will talk to you later, but for now I don't know where you went and maybe there is something wrong with our connection.

  - You crossed a serious line, as a Domme, and yes even as a sub, if someone says something that crossed a line, you can block them guilt free. For example if I don't chose you, I am a Domme, I don't have to justify myself, TO ANYONE. If you then lash out at me with nasty messages...blocked... Several of you have stayed in contact, received advice etc. and everything is just fine. I can't be everyone's dream date gentlemen, nor is it my responsibility to be, so get over it.

- You blew off your interview...oh there isn't any recovering from that...well oh LISTEN UP IF YOU DID THIS...there is the possibility of groveling, particularly if you are lucky enough to have my cell and you are a big enough man to do it. If you just said to yourself..."she must be kidding, I'm not groveling..." Really? Are you really even a submissive? Don't you ever want the chance to crawl into my lap and be forgiven? That is just so sad.

So if you have been following me, and messaged me...long long ago...in a galaxy far far away...try again, in a week or so we will start wave two... and I would bet there are all kind of treasures that got lost in the avalanche of messages I got slammed with.

Have a Great Holiday Weekend!

"Every woman has an itch
And every nice girl secretly wants to switch."

Hello Boys....and Girls...

     So yesterday, after a terribly successful day, I do remain woefully disappointed by some of the subs who don't seem to understand that a Goddess' time is a precious commodity, and that you are wasting it. One darling I will excuse, you know who you are. The others... oh dear. I am more upset that worthier candidates could have been interviewing.

   If I were not so sublimely graceful and tactful a lady (alas, I am) I'd list their ID's so you could berate them for taking up slots that could have been yours. Tsk...Tsk... and I don't even get to punish them for it. Cheated. So cheated. My wooden hair brush actually looks lonely.

   That said, I promised a dear one in Massachusetts, my patent heels would be on a soap box today and I am afraid I simply can't help myself. Here is why...not because I think I know so much about the D/S world that I can tell other people their business...

   It is because I think that Dommes (and Doms) first and foremost are responsible for the safety of their little ones and I fiercely defend and protect anything I consider mine in that way. For this reason I believe that irresponsible Domming, even if it is due to ignorance is loathsome and foul.

   If you are an amateur, pick up a F****n book. You should not be hitting someone with household objects that can do real harm. Or burning them with candle wax.

   Anal play...is hardly something to be toyed with. Tearing, infection, permanent scarring and incontinence are not sexy. So if you think you're cute with that TOO big strap on, think again.

Even spanking, done incorrectly or in the wrong place, is dangerous. Slapping someone in the face can do everything from cause them to go deaf to detach their retina, and make them permanently blind. 

WE MAY CALL THIS PLAY....BUT IT IS NOT A GAME. If you do not know what you are doing, and you are not willing to learn how to do it with care, lovingly and properly, go become a serial killer for all I care, but get the hell away from here, because all you will do is give the rest of us a bad name.

If the most reassuring line in your post, is that you have never put anyone in the hospital, you are not a Dom/Domme, you need professional help.

One of my Submissives is worth ten of you disgusting excuses for Dom/Dommes.

Yes you did deserve that insult.

Whew....That felt good.

Today I spent getting ready for interviews...lovely. Full of anticipation for Goddess and votary alike I think.

I have been re-reading a favorite domme book of mine, which I won't reveal, can't have little ones reading material out of their depth but if you are an interested wife of a desperate male sub, msg me and I will recommend it, and I remain shocked and confused by the BDSM and D/S worlds limited definition of a Goddess domme. 

Defined as harsh, and remote, and described as advocating many forms of torture and punishment I rarely if ever use (not that I don't, I just reserve them).

Clearly, you haven't studied any actual Goddesses. Goddesses, children, have ASPECTS, facets. Different Goddesses, cover different parts of life. Some are mothers, some are remote virgins, who would advocate chastity and incorporate an amazon nature. Some are Goddesses of passion who would control you with the tether of your own unbridled desire.

Goddesses can be graceful, giving or withering and cruel. One does not preclude the other from being possible. A Goddess must be worshiped in her totality, and many facets can exist in one Goddess who has many aspects.  

As a lover of Ancient Greek ideals, among them the idea that a person should be well rounded and study art, math, athletics, music....I am a Goddess with multiple aspects. 

Food for thought, Gentlemen.

Hello Lovelies,

So wave one of interviews. I know all the Baby boys will be disappointed but I will probably not have time to do another wave after that, though if I find I am terribly disappointed, I will have to. The dishes are piling up children, and I certainly can't be expected to continue to do my own laundry....(wicked smile).

It's bad enough that today I am probably going to have to give myself...yes boys, GASP, give myself a pedicure...give... one... to... myself....when a worshiper could be giving me one, well lovingly imagining what he could be doing to my foot as a reward afterward. 

I hope you are all suitably horrified. (And also chuckling a little)

Well the furry and handsome man who sleeps at the foot of my bed and constantly has to be asked to remove my shoes from his mouth, needs to go for a walk. So before I embark on my favorite past time of stalking past the construction workers down the street and alternately appreciating their stares and imagining what they would look like on their knees....a little admonishment for the women of the generation the decade before me. 

What the hell is wrong with you????

Why exactly am I getting oh... say about twenty requests, not that they are not appreciated little ones, you are delicious trust me.... from little baby subs say about 21 to 27, who cannot for the life of them find a woman their age who can dominate them?

Have women really spent the last two centuries gaining power, respect, and suffrage in this country, so you could giggle, drop the reins and decide you would rather go get your hair done???

Not only is that ridiculous, but these men NEED you. Being a domme is not just about you owning your power it about you owning up to the other half of a real relationship, and quite frankly, only selfish, ridiculous immature women walk away from that kind of deeper relationship. Please don't get me wrong, if you are truly a submissive and have recognized that and are pursuing it, that's different. I'm not on my soap box about that. I think that this lack of dommes is just sheer laziness and emotional selfishness...whew...okay. off soap box, exit stage left...grumble,,,and they say women are more mature...grumble...okay really I'm done.

If you are in that age group and interested in learning, contact me. There are some little lost lambs who need you :) and they are really very delicious.

Silver

Back from Vacation!!

I am not technically inclined (as some of the loving boys who have chatted with me do realize), so I've come to the conclusion that I should journal instead of using my profile to let people know the 411. 

The search continues. I few very lucky beaus have made it to a point where they get to meet me. Aren't you all jealous??? Talk about jealous, as I am of the ladies of Ohio, Illinois, Indiana, and Kansas....WTF, why are those handsome subs messaging me all the way in NY? Do you not have feet for them to kiss and rugs for them to vacuum. Do women there not like to be orally worshiped? Good Goddess in Heaven... What a waste of Natural Resources. Not that I don't like to imported goods...but seriously...

So some thoughts crossed my mind. 1) we are all so frustrated by all the fakes and insincere people on these sites...I've started another profile on domme.org if anyone is interested. I think maybe there should be something else available.

I've thrown it out there that a better more insightful match making service should be established. I'm willing to work on it. A lot of us are professionals of means and i am willing to work on it. Not only is there of course, money to be made, but people to be helped. I have a knack for reading people and communicating with them (part of my day job) I'd love to start a service like this. Get people the real relationships they are aching for.

2) I was camping....if it weren't for our fear of revealing our identities a lot of the time. especially the non-leather community who are more domestic subbes and dommes, wouldn't it be awesome to go on D/S retreats. Re group, relax with like minded people, tell a funny story around the fire about how that scene you planned with hubby went so horribly wrong and then your baby sitter walked in... can't tell that story at the water cooler...

Just some thoughts...

I'll leave you with a song for the week-   Mumford and Sons, The Cave

My Favorite Line:

"Because I need freedom now
And I need to know how
To live my life as it's meant to be

And I will hold on hope
And I won't let you choke
On the noose around your neck

And I'll find strength in pain
And I will change my ways
I'll know my name as it's called again"