SetInMyWays

When I first started learning about my Dominance there was a catch. It was told to me that submission was a gift. I thought about this, thought it was true and felt that way for the longest time until I learned more later in life. A gift is something you give without anything expected in return. You don’t give birthday gifts and expect the person to give you something back, do you? In essence, it really isn't . The only reason I thought it was a gift was because of my inexperience with the whole thing. And my Dominance was going to be my gift to her. When I was first exploring, submission was the only gift discussed. Oh and something about the Dominant who receives this gift is someone special and it’s a precious thing to do.

The gift we all think is submission is the acts that makes a submissive, a submissive. My opinion is "The gift" I had continued to learn about over and over again like its a wrapped gift to give with each point of service didn't need wrapping because he or she had surrendered themselves to me, not just to the behaviors that made up who I was. To word it another way the gift was in the exchange. We exchanged our commitment to each other. This made their submission and his Dominance a byproduct of that exchange. There was no gift. Now my position on ‘the gift of submission’ is more realistic. I don’t see or feel submission is a gift because they've already gifted to myself. I am living at my fullest when I use the submission given to me in the dynamic exchange we have. I’m more powerful as a Dominant because I have separated the idea of a gift with the approach that the exchange is more precious.

For a gift to be true, need to expect nothing in return and yet when you submit you expect Dominance in return. It's the exchange you really need and exactly what you need to bring to the table. Submission is just a result of this exchange. If you do not exchange power, you are not submitting. So before you wrap up your submission for giving, take a look at it. Is submission who you are, or what you do? How can you give who you are to someone else, when the person who needs it most is you? Gift yourself, your Dominant may thank you.