serenitypup


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	About serenitypup Lots of reading here and in my journal. Here's hoping people are willing to slough through this snowstorm of words. I am a female lesbian. (Sorry, guys, I'm just not interested that way.) Behind the Mask: Meeting the Lady/sub I am a college graduate. I am a writer. I love BDSM and have spent time on both ends of the leash. After more than twenty years on this planet, I'm still not completely sure what I want out of life. A few things I am sure of: I love animals; I have and will always own a veritable menagerie of furry and feathered friends; I love playing RPGs, especially D&D and WoD; I can be a little scatterbrained, but overall have a very intense focus on my goals; I want to make money through my writing. I'm looking for a partner, a long-term relationship that doesn't revolve solely around kink, and a person who will look past my kinky exterior to the person underneath. Intelligence is a must. As a Domme: I seek someone who knows their place, someone willing to carry out my wishes and undergo my training to better themselves because that will be my goal: to train a submissive to better herself through service to me. Submission is a gift; it makes you strong. My submissives are treasured, honored through their service, and rewarded for their obedience. I like the idea of protocol, following set rules that will determine behavior for myself and my sub. At the same time, I want a sub who will be a partner; someone who will hold me if I need it or will take over temporarily if I just can't cope. As a sub: I'm very obedient and eager to please. I want to be trained; I want to obey. As with Domming, I am up for online play. At this point, online training is all I can do, though I'm willing to be given RT tasks. I expect my limits to be respected and people to realize I do have a life away from the computer and away from kink. General BDSM: I like animal roleplay (my sub side is a border collie puppy...and I do mean puppy in every sense of the word; separation anxiety, chewing shoes, the works), pup play, light humiliation, hair pulling, crops, floggers, rituals, protocol, and someday want to experiment with pony play. Someday, I'd like to be head (or one head) of a poly household, though it's possible that is simply a dream. My BDSM interest is in service more so than kink or sex. Pain for pain's sake is not a turn on. I want to serve, to find a balance between my serving and my vanilla life. ~ Serenitypup

Hello once more to all viewing this profile. In this journal entry, I'll try and expand on what exactly I'm looking for and give some more information about me. First, however, the promised FAQs/FUSs. Any Doms/Dommes or any seeking to know more about my submissive side, check out my earlier entries.

- "Why did you change your profile from being a switch looking to sub?"

I haven't been finding much on collarme, so I've chosen to cast a wider net. Since I have more experience as a Domme then as a sub, I've chosen now to explore that aspect of my kinky side and spend some time in more familiar territory.

- "What kind of sub/slave are you looking for?"

I'm willing to talk to anyone, regardless of their position or sexuality. When it comes to subs/slaves specifically, I'm seeking someone who is willing to perform tasks. Clean your room and/or house at my command. Ask permission before signing off if we are talking via IM/email/chat. Send me journal entries as I assign them to you to help me better see into your daily life and your sub/slave tendencies. I give the orders, you carry them out.

That being said, some people will get more notice than others, such as {in no particular order}

-Texans
-Lesbians
-Bi males
-People with smarts {Be proud of your brain. Don't use chatspeak. Be able to hold a normal conversation.}
-Folks with webcams
-Those seeking long-term relationships, romantic or otherwise

- "I have no limits!"

Good for you. Now tell the truth. Forgive my rudeness, but I feel that someone who claims to have "no limits" is either a poser or doesn't know themselves well at all. If you claim to have no limits whatsoever, prepare for my extreme skepticism.? The only exception to this rule is (possibly) those who identify as slaves.

- "I have almost no limits."

That's so much better! Now, please expand. You have few limits. What are they?

- "Mistress, this humble slave begs that he/she be allowed to serve you in any way. Choose my clothes, my food, when I can go to the bathroom, etc., etc. Degrade/humiliate/ignore me!"

I'm flattered, really...but must play my skeptic's card again. Besides, I'm not that kind of Domme. While I expect my orders to be carried out, I also do consider the needs of my play-things, which includes time out in the vanilla world with vanilla interests. 24/7 TPE is not for me at this time. Degredation and humiliation are all well and good; I'd love to do some scenes. However, I much prefer being able to pamper my well-behaved slaves, being able to treat them occassionally. (Observation: how can I ignore you if you're supposed to serve me? How can you serve me if I ignore you? Come on, people...)

- "I will come to you, Mistress!"

Whoa! Hit the brakes! Relocating is not a topic I'm able to discuss or even consider for several years. Want to come visit? After we've known each other a while, okay. Don't start making plans to move in. I don't have the room, I don't have the time, and I don't have the money.

More coming later.

As the search continues, so do my tastes and whims. I'm looking for a long-term relationship with a healthy side of kink.? Friendships are perfectly welcome as well.? Do not hesitate to contact me (unless you're going to give me a one liner or use chat speak, in which case I'd suggest you save yourself the time.)

Later, I'll post some FAQs/FASs {Frequently Asked Questions/Frequently Uttered Statements} regarding the issue of me as a Domme and as a switch. For now, I'll sum it up. Submissives/slaves will be trained online. R/T meetings wil be a future consideration for those who live in state; for now, I'll say no more on the subject. I'm willing to train a male, but it would be play only with possible humiliation included. Everyone, please remember that I'm looking for a long-term relationship and that, in that respect, I am a lesbian and am seeking a female. Any sub couples who wish to submit to me, I'll consider happily. Keep opening messages polite and respectful and tell me about yourself. Gentlemen, while I am willing to consider you, please keep in mind that you are not my primary desire for a romantic relationship. Prepare to impress me. If I read the phrase "no limits" or see "very little limits" with no elaboration in an introduction message, that message will be ignored or replied to in a less-than-genuine manner, depending on the mood I'm in. You have been warned.

Expect slow replies; I have finals in two weeks and must finish this semester well.

Here are a few FUSs (Frequently Uttered Statements) I've run into in my time on this site. I'm posting them here, hopefully, to give a better idea of what I am looking for and to protect myself. No disrespect is intended by these comments and I'm not quoting anyone, directly or indirectly. Just sort of throwing everyone into a big pot and typing the gist of what gets said the most.

-"You! Sign on to {instant messenger} and turn on your webcam! Strip!"

With all due respect, I must refuse. I live at home, have a very busy schedule, and do not wish to scar any of the kids my family babysits. Therefore, my cam IS NOT to be used for ANYTHING SEXUAL, UNLESS I indicate that I am free to do so. However, this will be according to MY schedule. Beyond that, I'd like to get to know people before I start serving them. A cyber collar is not for me since, as I've indicated, I do take online 'ships just as seriously as a face to face meeting.

-"What? You mean you won't serve? You're no sub!"

Whether I'm a sub or not is not for you to decide. While I've been told I'm very obedient and have never heard a complaint about my body, the groundrules I am laying out are being put in place for my own safety and the safety of those in my home. If you can not respect that I have a very full life outside of BDSM and that I, as a human being, have limits and boundaries that will not be crossed, I am not for you. Best of luck in your searches.

-"What about men?"

The only way I would consider serving/being served by a male is if he were part of a male/female couple. A note to hopefuls (you know who you are) I have absolutely zero experience with men. Be patient with me and please don't push me too hard. Because I am not as attracted to men and have never had interest enough to be with one in a sexual situation, I'm going to take my sweet time getting used to your presence, your body, etc.

-"Mistress, may this humble slave serve you?"

Again, I'm flattered, but let's not. It's nothing personal (unless you are an unattached male) but I am looking for a relationship here rather than merely 'net based fun.

-"If you're looking for a relationship, why won't you serve/Dom? Can't find the right person if you don't play!"

Bull. The basis of any relationship, even BDSM, lies heavily in the vanilla world. Before I start Domming/subbing, I want to know about you and want to tell you about me. I'm not into serving strangers. To quote Hannibal Lecter, though the analogic use of Hannibal the Cannibal is somewhat unnerving: "Quid pro quo. I tell you things, you tell me things." I do have interests that lie outside the realm of BDSM and, frankly, you should too.

-"Which are you, a Dom or a sub?"
I'm a switch. I've been at both ends of the leash and enjoy both. There are times I don't want to sub and times I don't want to Dom. Haven't figured out yet which, if either, I'd like to do full time.

-"Webcam! Now!"

Not for sexual purposes (meaning I will be fully clothed unless specifying that I am free to play) and ONLY IF YOU RECIPROCATE! I find it incredibly unfair that I am showing my whole body to Masters/Mistresses online and am not even allowed to see your face. Reciprocation will occur within the same meeting, not days/weeks down the line.

-"Hello, slut."/"Greetings from your slave, Mistress."

I am neither your sub nor your Dom. Likewise, you have no such role in my life. Keep it respectful and you'll get a reply. Try to claim me/make yourself mine and you'll be ignored.

-"When can you come visit me in {insert city/state here} so we can meet?"

I've never been involved in RT BDSM with a stranger. My first experimentations with BDSM in real time was with my ex; since we'd been together about a year before that and known each other for 2-3 years, I knew her very well and was comfortable with her. On top of that, I am a full time college student. My grades are very, very important to me and school keeps me busy. I have limited funds so any face to face meetings will be planned far in advance and, preferably, will take place on neutral territory. A BDSM relationship must grow slowly, just as a vanilla one would.

-"When are you free for play?"

If I am interested in play with you, I'll let you know when I'm free for online play. Again, this will be on my terms within my schedule. If I tell you I can't webcam for you, complain all you like; threaten to punish me all you like. The answer will still be no and your account will be blocked. Online play, no matter the role, is a privilage and a rare one at that. My time is precious and filled with home and school. Can we type through IM, imagining ourselves in a scene? Sure! Webcam use, however, will be on my terms in my time. While it would be easier if, for all practical purposes, I claimed not to have a webcam, I'll opt for honesty instead. I'd advise you not to hold your breath in hopes of mere webcam play since I do live at home. If you're up for some literary descriptiveness of a scene, let me know.

-"Kneel! NOW!"

*bursts out laughing* We're online, darlin'! I'm busy living my own life and, for now, will choose what I wish to do and when I wish to do it. If you want to own me, you'll have to invest the time and get to know me 'stead of slapping on a virtual collar. Besides, as a wise man once said, respect has to be earned before it can be truly given.

-"What if I just want to play?"

I'm all for some nice little 'net play over a messenger service or internet mail service or even the chat feature here. However, internet based play, unless specified otherwise, will be exactly that: internet based. Text. Typing of letters combined to form words. Shared authorship of an erotic tale we two form as we go. It will not involve a webcam or any real time play unless I specify that I am free to allow such things.

Another note on play: it is merely for entertainment. If I agree to play with you, it does not mean I am agreeing to be your sub/take you on as my sub. It just means we're killing time, enjoying ourselves in a virtual dungeon (or where ever we may be) having some fun together. Better writing skills = better story, though I'll do this with anyone.

Why am I being so strict, taking the huge risk of cutting down the contacts/views from others? Frankly, my reasoning is simple: while I am not sure what it is I want, I do know what it is I do not want. Anyone who I might actually be interested in would understand all of the above and not be purturbed by it. I have a life and am going to live it. Hopefully, someday, I can bring someone else into my life. For now, I'm always up for chatting about anything. Feel free to contact me if this hasn't scared you off. Any vulger/offensive comments will be deleted; your profile will be blocked. Those who remain respectful, I thank you for contacting me and will get back to you as soon as I can.

Brightest blessings,

-serenitypup

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