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	About seekerofwisdom Female of the lush and submissive type, strong minded and highly educated.Need to restart my DS life. I'm into hemp. I won't tolerate ball gags, and I don't beg for anything. I'm a leader in my community and I have a fairly high pressure job where I make a lot of decisions, and I make them very well. I'm also pretty well educated, so please be the same if we're to be friends. I bring a lot to the table, and a good dominant finds that a plus, not a threat. If you're interesting, and you can write clearly and coherently, and you have intelligence and character, then chatting would be good. I'm not into BS, and I loathe mindgames, but I'm not averse to some playful online interaction.

The weirdness of the "transition" from collarme to collarspace, and the apparent story behind that weirdness, makes me extremely uneasy about being here. I may not be back. If you were trying to reach me, I apologize. Anyone who still has my private contact info can continue to reach me that way.

Be at peace.

I married someone I met here, and it turned out PERFECTLY. So I can tell you that while it may be rare, online dating sites can in fact bring you joy. :)

?It's funny how it works: I don't put up my pictures here for obvious reasons.

The less obvious is that I don't give a flying fuck what anyone looks like when all I'm doing is chatting--I don't pick my friends based on what they look like. (As if a picture on a website is always exactly real anyway, right?) So when someone says "hey, it's only common courtesy," or "I like to see who I'm talking to," I roll my eyes and avoid it as long as possible. Because the minute I do, their attitude changes. Some disappear, never even replying to that picture. Some become overbearing, as if this electronic assertion that I"m female must be physical proof of reality...I have breasts, therefore I must need a Dominant.

Some, of course, guilt you into the picture thing and then call you rude for questioning the desire for a picture. So today, after emailing with someone a couple of times, I sent a picture...and at literally the same moment, he was emailing me, chewing me out for not having sent a photo. And then, I emailed back, assuming the messages had crossed. And lo and behold, he deleted that poor harmless message unread. (nifty ability there, collarme--I like that a lot better than the "check" and delete action!) So now, I did something I didn't want to do, and I feel worse because I did it. Wow, some dominants YOU guys are. LOL

Ah, truly, it's okay. Some guys have the Dom. Some guys have the Dumb. Most everyone's got a combination of the two.

Two years away...anything new happening here? I see some of the same old names, and a lot of new ones. We'll see how long I"m on line today before someone hits on me. Come on, y'all.?

Oh, god, do I hate these ads. I know CollarMe has to make their money in some way, but the spamvertising here has, nearly overnight, become nearly enough to make me go elsewhere. Is it the same everywhere? A link on every damn page you turn to, and now a cheesy picture of some woman with an overly cheesy "fuck me" look on her face, advertising something called a male sex unit. Gods preserve me.

Anyone else sick of it?

In honor of the day, here's a special Valentine to everyone who takes a chance on love.

Wow, rude much? Just talked briefly with someone I've talked with before and had a fun time with, but he now wants to hear from me only if I'm interested in fucking him. Well, no. And with that attitude, hell no.

I don't get why it's such a bad thing to be here looking only for people to talk with--I can't be the only one here who's interested in something other than hooking up. The toads who are here just to get their jollies by abusing people really annoy me.

I was chatting with a brand new submissive the other day who really badly needed some guidance, I think, because the guy she started talking with was immediately telling her to kneel, to take her clothes off, to touch herself for him--all within moments of saying hello.

Man, people like that just disgust me. And the poor newbies who don't know any better but were hoping for the magic and the romance that this lifestyle can bring...they get bruised, badly.

You people who think the only thing worthy about a woman is what's between her legs...let me give you a hint. What's between her legs is just physical. The real connection is made a good bit higher, in her head. Figure it out.

Happy holidays, everyone! It's been nice meeting so many interesting people here. I'm an infrequent visitor here these days--I'm on an extended leave of absence from my job and my current activities don't leave me a lot of time for correspondence here. But don't let that put you off! If you want to write, please do--I'll write back as soon as I can.

meanwhile, I wish you a lovely season of happiness.

Why on earth people do insist on believing that what I say is not what I mean? It stops being flattering once I've gotten email three or four times from the same person I've said "no" to.

Listen, guys, if "no" doesn't mean no to you online, then you probably ignore it in person, too. You know what that means? It means you are not safe.

My earlier entry was deleted by the Powers that Be.

I must have missed a meeting. Darn it, I hate that.

Somehow, despite stating very clearly in my profile that I am submissive, I'm getting challenged as to whether I'm "really" submissive.

It's rude to question what other people tell you about their orientation. Would you also tell a lesbian that she's only lesbian because she hasn't had a "real man"? Be intelligent enough to realize that I know myself far better than anyone else does, which includes knowing very well what my sexuality is. If you show courtesy, you'll get it in response.

In the last few days I've actually met up with some genuinely nice people, ones who don't make unwarranted assumptions and don't presume to question my orientation. Thanks, you guys--you are the reason I am here: just to chat and exchange views.

I've been browsing around in other people's profiles, and I ran across this:

"It never ceases to amaze me in the profiles i read where submissives are demanding anything what-so-ever. At times it appears as if they are looking for a kinky boyfriend rather than a Master."

Where do I even start? I suppose the simplest route is simply to challenge the operating definitions. Not all submissive women are seeking a master. Being submissive does not mean I have given up my human rights. I can demand anything I want, and I can choose to accept anything I am offered. That's my right. If I self-identified as a slave, perhaps my reaction to this woman's post would be a little different, but as it is...I'm a little sad.

What amazes me, really, is the number of people who write me surprised and appreciative email after reading my profile. I can't imagine what they're used to, but let me offer, free of charge, this clue: I am submissive, not subservient and most definitely not a doormat.

I have two graduate degrees and an IQ higher than most people, and I can go from nailing shingles to a black tie event in about twenty minutes, not including manicure. I can prepare a fantastic meal. I can discuss philosophy, art, architecture, quantum physics, and sex, all with equal ease. I give a professional quality massage. I oversee about 25 people, who each oversee about 100. Given what I bring to the table, what would it serve me to be less than I am? I would only dishonor myself.

Of course, I demand. I demand a lot. I also give a lot. The nature of my emotional life is power exchange. If it isn't yours, what are you doing here?

Once the inevitable flood of "wanna fuck" idiots stopped emailing, there are, thank the gods, real people here. Photographers, stock brokers, and other teachers, oh my! You're all wonderful to talk with.

I hope you're enjoying it too. Intelligent conversation is a good thing.

New around here. I'm just looking to chat--I like meeting new people in the lifestyle and I don't have much to talk about with the local folks. So if you're interesting, I'm more likely to want to talk with you. I don't mean to sound rude--it's just that most of the online contacts I get from people are a) badly written, b) look like HNGs wanting to cyber, or c) both of the above. Not original, not alluring, and definitely not interesting to me.?

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