sassysilk

   It amazes me how many people will send me mail asking me what I want. It's become a nice little filter, in a way, of seeing who really does listen.
  This lifestyle is not a sexual kink for me. This is who I am. I am very delicate, need help making decisions, and need someone who can look out for me when I can't see things for myself. This doesn't mean that I will submit to the one who can do these things and the many other needs I have. I feel that those who are like myself, sub or Dom, will understand that little description and will help me onmy way.
   Advice to others: In my opinion, if you approach your needs in the lifestyle based on kinks, you'll find yourself in a relationship of just that... kinks. This should be about finding that person to whom you don't have to supress your true self and care not only share, but the other benefits or more importantly, finding yourself. By the right combination of that formula you'll naturally be able to meet eachother's needs... Yes, I said eachother's needs. 
   Even calling someone Master/Mistress or slave/sub, doesn't mean that one is serving the needs of one, on either side. To me it means that the Dom/sub will naturally fit eachother just like a yin and yang. That is what will unlock the door to subspace, not a spanking.
   I have the need to have a lap open for me to climb into, whether I'm needy or needing to feel secure. For him, he would need someone to do this to fulfill who he is as well.  It's very easy to find someone who likes the kinks that you do, but a gift from God if you can find the balancing equasion in your heart.
   I don't speak from reading fiction novels, BDSM manuals and websites, but from my own heart and being lucky enough to be touched by a dominant who allowed me to put this into words.

The best advice I could ever give: You can go to various play parties or even hire someone to give in/release your kinks and stimulate you, but what is fulfilling when the heart is left empty afterward? Nothing at all, but waiting for that next scene. It's also not about falling in love with the one who fulfills that kinky side of you. It's about the person who balances you and makes you feel you can be yourself.

P.S. To the One who inspired me, I thank you deeply from the bottom of my heart. I am finally on my way to finding myself and appreciate you giving me directions!