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About sandie19
Hi there
I am Sandra and 19 years old, I joined CM last week a very shy girl and didnt know what to say, after speaking to a lot of nice people on here I dont feel as shy now.
I am taking my journey day by day and will know in my heart when the right time is to find my future owner(s).
For the time being I am here to chat to people and make some friends and gain advice from you all.
I have to add at this point, yes I know my profile says I am straight but there wasnt an option for curious so I am now entering it in my profile
I have finally made my mind up that I do not wish online or cyber relationships i need it to be real time and when the time is right i will know. So please dont message me asking for online.
I am also looking to speak to other subs/slaves who can give me advice from that end of things.
Ok now for a bit about me:
Im Sandy, 19 from Edinburgh (but you already know that lol.)
I live at home with my mum and dad, i am a very lively and bubbly girl when you get to know me although i can be quite shy at first.
Now my favourite food is italian, chinese and traditional British.
Favourite music is Westlife (wonder if any of them fancy being my Dom - think not lol)
In my spare time i relax by listening to some music or watching tv. I love going out at the weekend with my best friend Shona, gonna ask her if I can put a pic of me and her on my profile as i feel you need to see her as I sometimes speak about her in my journal.
That'sit for now perhaps more later
Please remember I am still fairly new to this and be patient with me
thanks for reading
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Hiya, firstly thanks to those of you who have been sending me get well soon messages they are muchly appreciate, I am feeling a bit better today but going to take the rest of the week off work as still not feeling 100% yet. Have managed to answer a few of your messages but please be patient I will get round to all them soon.
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Hi folks
Sorry I wasnt around yesterday, I just was not feeling well at all, feeling a bit better today but not 100%,so going to go back to bed and have a day of work.
Ihave a lot of messages to get through but will do so as soon as I can so please be patient with me.
i will try to get online later today and answer them for you.
sandie |
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Day 17 - Well never woke up with a hangover for a change but did wake up with a huge cold, I have been in my bed most of the day, I managed to get online a couple of times to check messages, thanks for all your comments regarding contracts, i have managed to get a few things straight in my head now.
Well lets hope my cold is better tomorrow.
sandie
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Day 16 - Been out with Shona and a few other mates tonight, had a few drinks and a laugh or two.
Over the last couple of weeks I have been asking your opinions and your rules (please keep them coming if you wish), but now I would like to ask your opinions on written contracts, do you use them and how strict are you at your sub/slave keeping to them for instance what if you have a 12month contract but 4 months in your sub/slave decides its not for her, do you hold her to the contract or do you let her go. I mean its not as if this contract would stand up in a court of law, and if you were to refuse a sub/slave to get out of the contract would that be classed as holding her against her will. I would really appreciate your views on this as I have spoken to a few people who would want me to sign a contract, but I would be frightened that if i didnt like the owner(s) that I would not be able to get out and therefore be unhappy.
your views and comments are very welcome
sandie |
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Day 15 - well my kitchen is all nice and dry now and mum and dad are £89 poorer but hey such as life.
Well I've been on collarme for 2 weeks now and enjoyed every minute of it so far, I have made a few friends but blocked more. I remember when I first joined i was very nervous and shy but I feel that is going now and I am relaxing a bit more on the site.
I have been given some great advice from Doms and subs alike which i find great as it gives me an insight into both sides of it.
I have been given lots of things to think about the last couple of weeks, and the main one for me is to take my time, get to know as much about the lifestyle and others as possible before even thinking of deciding on the future.
well better get off now, feel free to drop a message to me, i try to answer as many as I can well the decent ones anyway, i still have a couple i have to reply to so please be patient i will get round to you.
sandie
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Day 14 - Well what a day, it started off alright had a good day at work then went to Shona's for a while this eveing, when i returned home around 11pm the whole house was in an uproar, we are having a new washing machine delivered tomorrow so the old one had to be disconnected well some moron in my house snapped off the valve thingy that shuts off the water so there was water everywhere and it was all hands on deck until the emergency plumber finally arrived so i was drenched through - not funny lol.
Anyway not that you really wanted to read all that but i felt a rant coming on.
I got a message today and it read "its more important to hear honest answers than the answers you want to hear", how true is that, so basically if the owner(s) dont give me the answer i want to hear but as long as it is their honest answer there is a possiblity we can work around it, but if the owner(s) lied and gave the answer i wanted to hear although it wasn't the truth that could spell disaster, so what i say to all of you is please be honest with me in your answers
goodnight
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Day 13 - wasn't on CM much today, due to being busy with work (well that is what I am paid for lol).
I did manage to read a few messages today and now know that i am asking the right questions to people. I think its important i ask the right questions and get the answers i want to hear.
Sorry I didnt get round to talking to many of you this evening, i decided to have a quiet night tonight, but hope to say hi to you soon.
sandie |
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Day 12 - Well a few of you have commented on that my profile doesnt tell you much about me as a person so I have changed it a bit to add in a few bits.
I was thinking today that for all i know my future owner(s) could be reading this journal and taking note, that is so exciting to know so if you are (even though we dont know who you are yet) then read carefully lol.
More great advice again today and I feel more confident in asking you all questions now as I know now what sort of questions I should be asking you and your answers are all helpful.
I dont have much to say in my journal tonight apart from its been great chatting to you all today and look forward to chatting again.
Goodnight all |
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Day 11 - Ok before we get to my thoughts for today something I wish to address.There is a picture of me on my profile that is all you need for the time being so please dont message me especially on the first message asking for more photos as the answer will be no. Nude photo's a definate no - no so stop asking for them, i will only give out more photo's to my future owner(s), if when I am collard they choose to give out nude photo's of me then it is up to him/them as i won't have that choice anymore but until then please do not ask. Another thing please don't expect me to call you master in the first message that is a title i am reserviing for my true owner(s).
Right its been another day of chatting and getting adive and I would like to quote something from some advice i got today "a master can do the chase but you decide who catches you" now that is a good quote as yes it is true i will have to be sure i want that owner(s) but on the other hand what if i feel the owner(s) is right for me but he/they dont think i am right for him/them so there is pause for thought.
Another good piece of advice i got today was "a good master will understand having to wait"
crikey i am shattered was up all night couldnt sleep so gonna get some shut eye in a minute, once again thank you all for your words of wisdom and as always your comments are always welcome
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Day 10 - I would like to thanks Scottishmaster4u for giving me confidence to add a photo to my profile and also helping me choose which one to add.
Can I just add it is not "cousin it" in the background as was suggested in one message today lol, it is a jacket over the corner of my bed with a hat over it. Hope that clarify's things for you lol.
Well was talking to a few of you today and learned some great things. I have decided to stop my keegal exercises as it was pointed out to me today that my future owner(s) may very well want to train me themselves on thinking about it i decided to stop.
I am still going to continue practising slave positions though as from what I read most owner(s) use basicaly the same.
Went out last night in 4" heels crikey my feet hurt.
Been thinking a lot over the last couple of days about my journey and gonna keep on it, i am curious as to where its gonna lead me.
As always any comments are welcome.
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Hi there, thanks to all of you who messaged me with your concerns, I am now feeling a lot better and have just been out with Shona and a bit tired. |
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Day 8 - not been feeling too great tonight, will continue with my journal tomorrow. |
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Day 7 - I have had a good day today, I have been working hard of course as well as in between coming to CM to check messages and yet again I have received lots of lovely messages. I asked on my journal last night for any Dom's who had a list of rules if they wouldnt mind sending me a copy, I got a list today which made interesting reading, I wonderd if all Dom's worked from the same rules and was directed to the 128 rules which is going to make good reading, each day I learn new things, today I learned how to Keegal and I was able to do 12 on the first attempt, I have also been advised to work on my pelvic floor muscles as this will enable me to sexually please any future owner(s). A lot of you have been asking me about my bisexual side, and I will answer a couple of your questions here, no I have not been with another woman but I feel I need to experiment and also realise this may be a part of my contract with future owner(s).
If you are reading this profile and journal, please stop by to say hello and give me your opinions.
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Day 6 - Had a great night's sleep last night, woke up this morning feeling nice and refreshed ready to start a new day, what would today hold instore for me I wonder. Well I was working hard (inbetween checking my CM messages lol). I am still getting lots of nice messages from people slaveangie has been very helpful to me giving me some advice from a sub's point of view as up to now it has all been Dom's I have spoken to.
Sir Robert and Lady Mary have been sending me lots of messages full of good advice again today, it is amazing that there are really nice people on this site who make up for the fakes.
I hope I havent upset anyone by not answering their messages promptly or being here for a chat, if I have then I deeply appologise, I am making some nice friends here and appreciate you all.
I was given a set of rules today that a particular Master gives out to their slaves, I have read them and going to give some of the a try - no this does not mean I have comitted myself to anyone I am not prepared to do at this moment in time, I just thought it would be fun to try a couple of them out and see how I get on.
I am also interested in reading any other rules that any Master/Mistress may give out to their rules so I can compare them and see how different Master/Mistress work with their sub/slaves.
as always your comments are always welcome
sandie |
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Day 5 -
On opening my CM account this morning I found a verynice message in it from Sir Robert and Lady Mary offering me loads and loads of advice for which I am trully grateful.
They advised me on a slaves positions for which I have been practising tonight, this for me was very rewarding as I now can be able to show any potential (in the very distant future i may add) Master that I have been practising. I will be continuing to practice these positions in the liklieness that I may need them in the future.
I have also learned today that a slave may need more from a Master than a Master can give her therefore it might be the right thing for Master to do and find a new Master that can give a slave what she needs. I learned that a slave can be unhappy if she is not with the right Master.
Some people may say a slave is not allowed to have feelings and some say they are but again that is what I am learning as the days go on about what different Masters expect from their sub/slaves.
I am sorry to those of you who I have not got round to chatting with this evening but I hope to catch up with you soon.
As always all comments are greatly appreciated.
sandie
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DAY 4 - Well its just been a lazy day for me today, got up to date with some other things on my pc that I needed to do, had a couple of chats with some people on here.
Something that I have been asked a few times in the few days that I have been here is "what am I looking for in a Dom"?, Well let me try and explain to the best of my ability.
A dom for me should take control of his sub/slave and make decisions for her such as what to wear, what to eat, when to eat etc, although he has to do all this thinking for her, she still has to do some thinking for him such as how to keep her Dom pleased and not do anything to upset him that could result in a punishment. She should we willing to give herself to her Dom and trust him with her body and soul in return he should protect her from the evil that can be out there.
This is my view on things just now but please rememeber this only day 3 on the site for me, so no doubt my views may change if so I will keep my journal updated with these.
Any comments on this entry or indeed any entrys are greatly appreicated. |
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Just ended day
I must say I am beginning to feel a bit more confident on here now, I feel I can chat freely with people now especially the ones that I have spoken to more than once.
There are a couple of people on here who i would like to say thanks to and that is Scottishmaster4u who jsut joined the site the other day but had a long chat with me and has given me some sound advice. Also Mastergreguk who again we have had a couple of good conversations and I feel I have learnt a couple of things from both of these people - thank you to both.
Well this morning I actually didnt have a hangover so Shona and I went shopping then back to my house for a pizza and a few drinks, she ended up crashing out on my sofa around midnight so I came on here to see who was around and had a good couple of conversations with people.
I think I am going to find out a lot of things about myself now I am here which is a really good thing.
If any of you can offer me good sound advice please feel free to message but if all you have to say is "on your knees bitch" then please do not even bother messaging me.
Also can I remind you to please send me a message before you send a chat request as I may already be in a chat with someone.
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Please be aware that I will only chat on here rather than MSN or Yahoo. 1) because i dont have yahoo downloaded. 2) My MSN is for another use not this.
Please ask first before sending a chat request as I may be busy elsewhere.
Thanks
More of my journal later at the end of the night
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18/01/2008 - Day 2
"The ultimate freedom is the freedom to choose to have no choice, that's the purpose of a true submissive soul"
That was sent to me in a message today, and it does make sense.
I have been given some valuable advice in the 2 days I have been here and I am trully grateful to those of you who are offering me it.
I can actully think more clearly about this life now that I am able to chat to others about it, I know that I have to find out if its for me I can't stop now that I am here.
I was out with my friend Shona tonight for a couple of drinks, she has been great, although she says she can't imagine me in bondage lol, but I have said to her it is not all about chains and whips there is lots to learn and I feel I am now on the bottom rung of that ladder and hope to progress to the top and find what I really want is there.
Gavin and his friend came into the pub tonight, he is someone I met a while ago and got to know. Shona is convinced there is chemistry between Gaving and me but I am not too sure but mind you Shona has always been right, I have to admit he is a nice guy but I don't know if I can take it further just now. Only time will tell in anything I suppose.
Oh well that's another journal entry done. |
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17/01/2008 - my first day on Collar Me, I am glad I finally took the plunge and made my profile up here, I have been chatting to some nice people on here who were full of advice for me, it is amazing how different people can give different advice and it all makes sense. I now know I want to keep exploring this and will continue on Collar Me as I am at the moment. The only person in my life that knows how i feel is my best friend Shona who understands my feelings, I dont think I can tell anyone else in friends or family well not yet anyway. At least here I feel I can talk to anyone about my feelings and not have to worry about people judging me. |
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