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Male Submissive, 39, Tokyo
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Male Submissive, 22, Quebec
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About samthebutcher
I have been in the lifestyle, on and off, for 20 years. I have tried different roles, and tried to make things work with different kinds of partners. I ended up not pursuing the lifestyle at all for a number of years.
I finally came to the conclusion that this is part of who I am, and importan to my happiness.
I am not asking to fuck you, or vice versa. Some people like to talk about how BDsM isn't about sex. For me it is, but that doesn't mean intercourse. I mean I get a similar sexual charge from a variety of activity. It can involve pleasure, pain, or neither. It may be words whispered into an ear while nobody is even naked.
I am looking for a relationship, short or long term, that involves BDsM and SM. I haven't had good luck with this in the past, but am hopeful. I am not looking for once and done experiences. I want to get to know my partner and for us to like each other and what we bring to the relationship.
Feel free to write me, communicating and relating to each other at some level is the first step.
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Damn I suck at journal posting.?
For the time being I have to say NO online relationships.? There may be people out there who actually have successful online relationships, but the last 3 women who approached me all used variations of the same story.? And that story ends in $$ for them.
I think Pro Dominants have their place, but scamming for money from somebody you will never meet doesn't match my definition.
As for the real world, I am willing to engage friends in the lifestyle, that have nothing to do with play.?
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Wow, I cam across somebody I know on here!? No, I didn't encounter somebody from vanilla life that I recognized.
I actually came across a profile for somebody that was a lifestyle
friend 5 years ago. It seems that if I know people in the local
community, they are mostly offline as I don't recognize many here.
Anyway I have no recollection of why we stopped talking to each other.? I hope it wasn't bad tho, as I sent her a message.
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I hate when I like somebody & we just aren't a match.? I am SO much better making friends than relationships.
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Day 2- I should probably specify that I am looking for somebody moderately close geographically.? I understand there is a strong mental aspect to Ds parts of the lifestyle, but i require a bit of physical contact for the SM portion.
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First day back, and I remember why these sites bug me.? I have talked to a couple very real, down to earth people but
Scams/fakes/posers abound.? People whose descriptions contradict their pictures are common.? And my favorite is totally mangling common lifestyle terms (a person has dominance not has dominant).
But I am trying to have a positive outlook.?
Later
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