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MsterJ2005
i am searching for play partners. This could be casual, occasional play or it could be something that might develop into something else. i have a lot of experiences, but always looking for more and want to enjoy and have fun. i work way too hard and this is a great release from stress. i am willing to talk on the phone, meet for a time or two for negotiations and then see where it goes from there. Feel free to drop me a note (preferable not just a one liner) and give me your thoughts. I am single and unowned. Right now I am re-finding myself so that is my focus. It may not sound too submissive at the moment, but that's ok, it's where I'm at. It's time to take that look inward and make sure that I stay true to myself. I am not a switch, but I do like to beat subbie boys on occasion.
10/16/2016 4:42:18 PM
It does seem that many on here just want to "hook up".  I am of the thinking that there is more to the fun that just a quick wham bam thank you ma'am type of thing.  While I enjoy all types of play, you will get into my head and my sensuality much more with some manners, some old fashioned dating (to get to know one another) and asking for/saying what you want.  I do appreciate the right to say no in the beginning as we get to know each other, but I am turned on by the Dominant personality that knows what he wants and is willing to make that clear from the beginning.  I have played with "service Doms" that negotiate to give me just what I want and need and that is enjoyable, but I do enjoy the Dominant personality that can't help but show itself regularly.
2/13/2013 10:03:15 AM

 I deleted all the old journal entries.  I am once again unowned and now have to find myself again.

2/21/2009 11:25:27 AM

I have been doing a lot of introspection lately.  While I am not anywhere near complete, I do have some thoughts on what I want from a man in my life.
*I want a man whose word is Gold,who will do what he says he will and in a timely manner.
*I want a man of integrity.
*I want a man who is honest, who is truthful with his feelings, emotions, beliefs and actions.
*I want a man who is spiritual, who understands the Oneness of the Universe, that love is everything.
*I want a man who is humble and respects others.
*I want a man who is not jealous or arrogant or rude or boastful.
*I want a man who is gentle and kind, patient and true and full of love, all kinds of love, unconditional love.
*I want a man who has faith.  Faith in the Universe, faith in the future, faith in me.
*I want a man with hope and understanding.
*I want a man with strength enough to truly be a tether, a guide, a Dom.
*I want a man that I can trust enough to know that I can let go of my own stronghold and control.
*I want a man who is true to himself and truthful about what that is.

Time will tell......

11/4/2008 8:37:29 AM
Just a thought that i had today.....
When i find the One that enjoys using me in the way that satisfies my inner slave, then i will have found the right match.  And it is very possible that there are not many who would enjoy using me in that way.  Like the jig saw puzzle, once the right two pieces fit together, then there will be no problem with giving up total control, following the Master's lead and finding joy in all aspects of this lifestyle. 
7/18/2007 7:39:52 AM
i realize that many on here are searching for the "perfect relationship" and that's great. i had a wonderful relationship with my late husband and i do want that again only with more of a Master/slave relationship than we had. However, i am also in a time of self-discovery and learning to be the whole person of me. So while i am open to the possibility of a relationship, i am not on the "hunt." i am willing to see what happens, to go with the flow and take it slow. i get a daily email called the Heaven Letters and today's was very interesting on this very theme. Here is some of what it said:

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives—from birth onward—this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.
Once we’ve satisfied our needs and created our support system, a mate then becomes someone with whom we can share the bounty of all we’ve created and the beauty we’ve discovered within ourselves.
As we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles of being in the world today, we may find that there are times where being alone nourishes us and other periods in which a partnership is best for our growth. Being willing to know and love ourselves, and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves, whether those relationships fall into recognizable roles or not. Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship—the one with our true selves.


If you understand what i am talking about, then you understand a little more about me.
1/10/2006 9:24:49 PM
For those who don’t know what to say about themselves, here are a few questions: Tell me about your sense of humor. Do you like to give and/or get surprises? Do you enjoy giving gifts or is it a chore? Would you consider yourself liberal/moderate/conservative? What is your specialty? Do you enjoy taking a girl shopping? Where does chivalry fit into your lifestyle? I'd like to know these things even if you do know what to say about yourself! :)
8/22/2005 8:34:12 PM
Well, tonite i updated my profile. i have learned a lot about myself through meeting others on this site over the last month. That's a good thing. i also learned something about people. How a person handles a problem really shows their true colors. Obviously, relationships are a struggle sometime. So i found that when you hit the first hurdle and they walk away, it was probably for the best. It hurt, but that's ok. i can survive hurt. Maybe these aren't new things i've learned, but i've figured out how to put them into words. i've learned that it is important to me that the people i meet have a job and at least enough money to take me out on a date sometimes. Money isn't everything but a little money comes in handy now and then. LOL i've learned that being obsessed with one thing is annoying to me. i enjoy a well rounded person in both BDSM and vanilla stuff. i've learned that soft and gentle play is not going to cut it for me. i need more than that and i want someone who is willing to explore those edges with me. i want to be used in a way that a good slut should be used and not everyone has the ability to do that or even knows what that means. When i find the one that thinks like me, it will be a second match made in heaven. i think i deserve that!
7/25/2005 10:46:35 AM
     This has been an interesting experience.  I have met a few nice people, have gotten some nice emails and no one has been rude or unreasonably vulgar.       
     But what I find disturbing is the personal messages I get during chat.  I know everyone wants to portray who they are and not waste time on someone who is incompatible.  But to start right in with the roughest, nastiest stuff they like and ask me if I like it, just takes me back. 
     I am the kind of slave that once I am in the right mindset with a trusted Dominant, I will do whatever you want, like it or not.  But to sit here, in my vanilla state of mind and be asked if I "like" certain things....makes me feel prudish cuz I want to say no.  For example, I don't particularly "like" breast torture.  Would I do it?  Yes, given the right situation.  Would I enjoy it? Probably, in that same right situation.  Am I going to admit to that while I sit here chatting with no mental stimulation?  No, cuz in my "cold, not turned on mind" I don't like it. 
     I prefer the gentlemanly approach to meeting me and getting to know me. Does it matter what I will or won't do if you live a million miles away from me?  Probably not!  I am not going to relocate and it will take a long time for us to get to know each other well enough over a long distance before I would ever let you wail on me. 
     Even though I am a slave, I am still a woman who likes to feel important, cared for, special, taken care of.  Once you are securely entrusted in my head, I will give you all I have and let you take me where you want to go.  Until then........ I'll try not to be impolite.
darkprincessj
 
 Age: 28
 Southern Jersey, New Jersey