Replacement

"I've not had a dad for 28 years"

Has been the only thing I wrote on my profile and I thought would be enough to find the right person for me. After a couple of weeks since I created it, I realise that I will have to be much more specific if I want to find somebody who comes anywhere near what I need, and if I want to stop getting frustrated by some of the messages I keep getting.

So, here are a few more details.

I am 28 and never met my dad. Call it trauma, call it perversion, call it incest, call it what you want, but after years of self suficiency in every aspect I've reached an age where I feel like I actually miss that father figure in my life. I keep finding myself wondering what my father would say about this or that or how different things would be in my life if he was around. I find like every now and then I would love to give up control over everything and leave it all up to him, and let him guide me and show me the right way. Please note the use of "every now and then", at the end of the day, there is only so often a young girl would want her dad around.

I am 28, so nobody under the age of 45 is really going to do it for me, unless the circumstances in your life have made you grow up and mature really early and you can prove it. If that isn't the case, or it doesn't come across clearly from the beginning, I'd suggest not to bother contacting me, as I'm likely not to reply. I see the amount of people who say is bad manners not to say a simple thank you if not interested. I find it bad manners when people decide to send you a message without (very obviously) having bothered reading your profile or finding out whether you have any common interests. I can't see why I should bother replying to those. So, if you're under 45 I would say I'm not the person for you. However, if you're under 45 but your experiences and knowledge in life make you act like a grown up man, get in touch, show me how you could be that man in my life.

I guess little girls love their dads regardless of what they look like, what job they do, what principles they live by, ect. I never had the chance to love unconditionally like that, so I guess I have become a bit more picky. I look good, I take pride in what I wear, how I wear it, my hair, my body, my shoes, and I wouldn't be proud of going out with my daddy unless he looked just as good, or even better. I don't think having gone over 40 years of age is an excuse for anybody to let themselves go. I see 50+ men on the street that have got much more charisma and sex-appeal than any man my age, and who are way much more stylish. That is the kind of daddy I want. The kind of man who enjoys drinking out of pint glasses, with a football shirt, with a big belly and greasy skin and hair, I'm afraid nothing about you turns me on, so please move on. You might think I'm vain, that's fine. There is a man out there who looks good thus feels good and who I would be just proud of being seen with, rather than embarrassed. That is the daddy all little girls want.

I firmly believe in male supremacy. I do not understand the women who want to be just equal to men, why would I want to be equal to somebody who should be stronger and smarter than me? (again, I said "should", and not "is", as we all know that not all men are stronger or smarter than women). My daddy will be both, stronger, smarter, more powerful, wiser. He will be the person to guide me in life and to teach me about the things I don't know about. You're not good to me if you're someone who has got no education (and don't get me wrong, I don't mean someone has to have been graduated from Oxford to impress me. I know people who have grown up on the streets and never been to school, yet they've got the knowledge about life and how to treat a girl, they are a source of information on a million subjects, just because they read, they listen, they watch, and they've been around that much longer). On that note, my Daddy will be someone who has not necessarily had a sheltered life and has had to learn and survive through hardship. Only those people know the real meaning of life and the importance of being where they are and of staying there. Somebody who knows lots about the share market but who hasn't got a clue about the black market is not going to be compatible with me. Daddy will be an intelectual and very knowledgeable man, but he will be just as street wise as any dodgy man out there, because sometimes people at the top are so high up they just don't know what life really is about. Daddy will know just too well what it is like to fight for survival in this filthy world. Anybody who has just sailed through life will offer no stimulation to me whatsoever.

I love going out and dressing up, and there is nothing I would hate more than feeling over dressed when out with daddy. I love learning new things and listening to people talking about something they're passionate about and can transmit that passion to whoever listens to them, whatever the subject. I am a great listener and people who can transfer their enthusiasm to me through their explanation of a certain subject are a pleasure to be around. I find that no subject should be boring if the person delivering the speech knows enough about it and is passionate. Daddy will know a little bit about lots of things and he will know lots about a few things. He will enjoy teaching me about the things he knows and making sure my knowledge grows and grows the longer we spend together. He will encourage me to become more and more knowledgeable myself and will show me how proud he is when I please him.

I have got a special passion for most sports, languages and cultures. Some girls are lucky enough to inherit some of their interests in life from their fathers, because they were exposed to them from an early age, because their dads share those passions with them. My daddy would be someone I will look up to when it comes to knowlege on these areas. You are not going to impress me if all you can speak is English and order drinks in a foreign country. You won't impress me either if you happen to know what's the national dish of a particular country. I won't be impressed by you knowing the rules of cricket. It will take a lot more than that for me to be interested in what you have to say. Daddy will be able to stimulate me, to satisfy my thirst for knowledge, to challenge me, to encourage my development. Daddy will be the kind of person who will make sure I will never go to bed without having learnt a new thing, which will be both interesting to me and beneficial for my life.

Every girl wants their dad to be the most powerful one. I am no different. If what you do in every day life is serve somebody else, do not expect me to come and serve you when you get home. If your need to dominate somebody comes from spending 8 hrs per day repressed, I am not the right person for you to dominate.
I am a professional woman with a good education and a good job. Daddy will be someone who I will look up to and who will inspire me. I have done really well for myself in life, it will take more than somebody with a flashy car to impress me. Daddy knows that the female is the fragile sex and he will make sure I feel safe and protected, spoiled and pampered when with him. Daddy will not be the kind of man who looks and acts like a loser. Daddy will shine on everything he does and he will be the kind of person everybody looks at when he enters a room. Daddy will feel proud of having me next to him, but I should feel more proud to be his little girl. The day I find that man I'll know I have found my real Daddy.

If you are the strongest man you know, mentally strong I mean, you are strong enough to be my daddy. If you can win a debate or discussion through well supported statements and good background information, you will win me. If you need to resort to bullying or intimidating to get your point accross, find your victim somewhere else. Daddy will no need to argue with me. Daddy will know when he is right and he will only need to explain himself once, sometimes he won't even need to explain himself, for me to know that he knows best and I can blindly let him take the decisions for me, because he is right, he is always right.
Do not get confused however, and think that anybody who can speak in a fancy manner will achieve this with me. You must show you know your stuff and you must be able to literally blow me away with your knowledge and persona. Daddy will be the kind of man I will never get tired of listen to and learn from. It will take one look from him for me to feel he's proud and pleased with me and make me smile and feel warm inside.

Daddy has worked hard in life to get where he is and he knows he deserves only the best. Daddy will be strong and strict, and he will demand whatever it is he needs/wants at any particular time and I will not hesitate to please him. Making daddy happy will be my main goal in life. Finding that person for whom I will give up my will and I will just live to make proud and please, that's my whole purpose in life. Daddy will always receive the most respectful treatment, I will look up to him with admiration and devotion, because he is my inspiration and my drive to better myself. I will act, look, and behave my best for Daddy.

Daddy will take me whenever, wherever and in whichever way he fancies. Daddy will show me things that will blow my mind and he will show me things that might not seem that pleasent to me at the time, but everything that Daddy wants, Daddy will get, and eventually I will see the purpose of his commands.

I am an opinionated girl, I have a brain and a mouth, and I use them both. Daddy will be the only man in the world who will be able to show me I don't know best than he does, so I will have to shut up and listen.

I've written all these things and I say to myself there is no way I will ever find the man I need in my life who will fit my description. That's too bad, but at the end of the day, I've not had it for 28 years, I can wait a bit longer. As long as all those men who think they can just call me "my little girl" and I'll call them "Daddy" straight back stop sending me pathetic messages, then the whole profile has been worth writing.

Plus, I know he's there, somewhere...