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Thoughts on a Master and His submissive/slave

A true Master shall take pride in the fact that a woman has chosen to
devote her entire being to the satisfaction and fulfillment of his
desires. Just as she, in return, can take pride that such a man has
chosen her, above all others to provide that fulfillment. For openers,
the female should decide that she may actually be a true submissive,
and find the courage and commitment to put herself in the hands of a
true Master. She must know that at that precise moment her option to
make choices will end. He will do what he wants to do, completely apart
from her preconceived ideas.

I am not necessarily referring to physical discipline, and I am most
definitely not referring to the extremes of physical discipline. There
are always limits, and the true Master knows what they are. He also
knows that those limits are different for every slave. But he also
knows that regardless of those individually determined limits, every
slave should at least once be forced to go one step beyond what she
believes she can endure.

A Master should do what pleases him. The secret is to know the
submissive/slave well enough so that while pleasing himself, he also
provides her with fulfillment. But he should also once in awhile take
his submissive/slave (even for a brief moment) slightly beyond her own
self-conceived limits. But in doing so, he must take care not to really
hurt her. Again he must know the submissive/slave well. In short, a
submissive/slave should, once in awhile, be forced to beg to plead, "Oh
God, please stop!" But after every session, a submissive/slave should
also, if only just to herself, always say, "Oh God, I want him to have
me again!"

As I said, it doesn't have to be physical discipline. If the female is
lucky, she may someday find a Master who is also an expert at sensual
"torture." If you have never experienced this, you may not believe it,
but a Master who knows the art, and who is smart enough to learn what
kind of a woman he is dealing with, will be able to "torture" her with
out hurting her at all! The human body can voluntarily withstand only a
certain level of sensual pleasure or sensation. That is why a man, when
he has an orgasm, usually stops moving, because he just can't stand the
sensation of having the tip of his penis stimulated while he is coming.
That's also why a woman who has a true, full orgasm also usually stops
moving, or arches her and pulls her body taut, or fights or cries out
or curls into a ball. It is not that it hurts. It is just that the
pleasure is unbearable!

But suppose a woman were tied and exposed and helpless. And suppose
that a man knew her well enough to be able to regularly bring her to
full orgasm. And then suppose the Master did that and kept her there
right at the peak for perhaps five minutes or ten or even twenty
minutes! Imagine being at the peak of orgasm that didn't stop. Imagine
straining at your bonds and screaming and pleading and begging for him
to stop, and imagine him being good enough and strong enough to ignore
the screams and to keep that sensual "torture" going on and on, because
it pleases him to hear the screams and begging him to stop but not
until he chooses to, for himself.

This same principle is true of actual physical discipline, for those
Master/submissive relationships where true discipline is involved.
Suppose that a submissive/slave could, without being bound, voluntarily
withstand thirty lashes of a whip across her back. But then suppose she
was bound, arms stretched high over head, her body naked and helpless,
and her Master begins her "test." And because she is proud, and because
she wants to provide her Master with as much pleasure as possible, she
does not actually "break" until after forty lashes, but then she begs
him to stop. If he is a true Master, and if it really brings him
pleasure to continue, he should not stop. Perhaps he should continue
for another five lashes, or maybe even ten, depending on his pleasure,
of course, but also based on the knowledge he has, through experience,
of just how much his submissive/slave can really endure, not simply
what her body tells her she can endure.

There is a difference. If the Master is wise and has been accurate in
his assessment of his submissive/slave's true stamina, the
submissive/slave will realize that she actually did endure it after
all. Even more important, she will be proud that she was able to
provide her Master with that additional pleasure, and the next time
perhaps she won't beg until after fifty lashes. But of course the
Master may not stop then, either!

S/M can be the most exciting form of sexual foreplay ever experienced.
Every "Master/submissive" relationship should be based on a profound
and deeply satisfying sexual relationship. Every meeting should include
(and usually conclude with) some form of sexual activity that is
satisfying to both. But that, of course, is generally true of every
deep male/female relationship.

So what makes this any different? The difference lies in the submission
of one and the dominance of the other. That, of course, is what your
own fantasies have been based on. In effect, you say you have dreamed
of " submitting" yourself to a man, allowing yourself to be rendered
helpless, so that he can "rape" you. And that act of submission, you
say, would enhance the excitement and pleasure you would derive from
the sex act. (Indeed, the truth may be that this is the only way that
you would be able to derive real pleasure from sex.)

But if this is as far as you've gone in your fantasies, you may well be
asking yourself, "What is all the rest about?" Why does he/her talk
about prolonged sexual teasing and torture? And what about real
discipline... actual pain, even if only at a very minor threshold
level? Would a Master really whip me? Could you really whip her? I have
no idea, but the simple fact is that all these things, carefully
selected and based on each partner's individual reaction, can be part
of what becomes a much greater and much more rewarding and much more
fulfilling sexual relationship. Sex, without some form of mutual love
or deep feelings, is of little meaning and that, in turn, requires each
partner to try to give the other as much pleasure as possible. For a
submissive that means "giving" herself to her Master, for his pleasure.

The total submission other mind and body are her gifts to him, for him
to do with as he chooses, and he takes great pleasure in that gift.
Every Master is different, of course, but in general, takes tremendous
pleasure in imposing dominance and will upon a submissive female, both
mentally and physically. Using both her mind and body to demonstrate
power over her. Make her think and feel like she has never felt before.
Forcing her to experience the furthest extremes of sensual and physical
sensations. Making her beg to stop either the pleasure or the pain.
Best of all, the male should love watching her face and her expressions
as she realizes that, despite her pleas, he is not going to stop, at
least not right that minute. And, finally, he should love watching her
recognize his dominance over her, and then watching her resign her mind
and her body to accept the previously unacceptable ... all for his
pleasure! Through all of this, and governing all of this, is the
overriding "love" that he should feel for her and, in turn, it is her
knowledge that he does care for her deeply, and the trust that that
knowledge gives her, that allows her to give him that marvelous gift of
her mind and body.

But what about the submissive one? What pleasure does she get? Again
each is different, but there are some common denominators. First, a
"submissive/slave" must deeply trust and deeply care for her Master.
She should truly want to give him pleasure. And so, for most slaves,
the first pleasure is the very deep pleasure derived from the act of
giving ... a very profound pleasure because the gift she gives is also
profound. .... She gives herself!

Second ( although there are some exceptions), a submissive female
usually derives tremendous intellectual, sensual, and ultimately,
sexual pleasure from the experience, assuming, of course, that the
Master is really gifted and sensitive and understanding. I assure that
I have only scratched the surface. The Master should be able to teach
the submissive/slave things about herself she had never dreamed of,
exposing her to sources of pleasure of a kind and a level and an
intensity she had never imagined!! The Master should explore every part
of her mind and body, and would ultimately discover the keys to her
deepest pleasures. It maybe strictly sensual.

There may be certain special parts of her body that, properly
stimulated, turn on all her sexual senses. It may be just the bondage
and helplessness itself, together with her ability to commit herself to
it. Most submissive women derive tremendous sexual pleasure simply from
being bound. (Almost all of them become lubricated and ready for sexual
intercourse while in bondage.) She may find pleasure in pain. And if
she does, it may be just a certain level of pain, or pain applied just
to a certain part of her body. Many submissive people derive the most
intense and exquisite sexual pleasure from the forced imposition of
physical discipline, even to the point of orgasm.

You should know that " discipline" doesn't mean simply the whip.
(Although, indeed, that phrase simply the whip" is totally misleading.
There are literally hundreds of different kinds of whips, each capable
of being used in a hundred different ways, so that in just this one
"simple" area, there are an infinite variety of ways available to a
knowledgeable Master to impose an equally infinite variety of
torments.) But there is so much, much more .... endless means, endless
targets, endless degrees. To a really imaginative and experienced
Master, a marvelous and exquisite and almost limitless choice is
available. But he must also have the sensitivity and the understanding
and, yes, the love, to choose the right ones. If he does, he will be
successful in fulfilling his role as a Master. He will provide pleasure
for himself, of his own choosing, but he will also provide his
submissive partner either extreme pleasure or total psychological
fulfillment or, often, both, depending on her own special nature and
needs.

Then there is the whole area of submission without bondage. A true
Master, using proper training, can teach a woman to be totally
submissive without putting her in bondage. If you really have accepted
a man as your Master, you should want to totally obey him without being
"forced" If he orders you to strip, you will strip. If he orders you to
kneel, you will kneel. If he orders you to stand before him with your
legs apart and your arms stretched high above your head, and not to
move, you will do as he orders. And if while you are standing there, he
chooses to whip you, you still will not move. And if he orders you to
count the lashes, you will count them for him. And if he orders you to
kneel, naked next to his bed while he sleeps and to remain there,
instantly ready too serve him in any way should he awake, you will
kneel there, silent and naked and ready, and you will stay there. And
if he does not awake until morning, you will still be there ... still
kneeling .... still naked .... still ready. But then a wise Master will
order you to join him, and he will acknowledge the great pleasure your
obedience has given him, and he will reward you with that special
marvelous pleasure of your own that he knows so well to give you.

So what's this all about? A wonderfully elaborate, infinitely varied,
terribly exciting series of scenarios, carefully and lovingly selected
and orchestrated by the Master to provide both himself and his
submissive partner with the most exquisite and profound emotional and
sexual pleasure, each scenario based on, taking advantage of, and
dramatizing the dominant nature of one and the submissive nature of the
other.

It is of course, a tremendous challenge. First, there's the challenge
to the submissive to accept and endure the torment of bondage and
discipline by which her chosen Master tests her and through out which
he realizes the most profound pleasure. (A weak or sniveling
"submissive/slave" provides little pleasure for a Master) Of course,
there are limits and, of course, they must be respected. But there will
be those special times when, after being queried by her Master, the
proud submissive will take as deep a breath as her chains will permit,
look him in the eye, and in her own special way and words say, in
effect, "I'm here for your pleasure. Please don't stop until you are
totally satisfied." That is the challenge of the body.

But there is also the challenge of the mind and the spirit. After all,
a man is physically stronger than a woman, so physical domination (in
its rawest sense, at least) is easy. But intellectually it's a
different matter because in an ideal S/M relationship, both partners
should be equal in intellect, so that the dominant and submissive roles
result from conviction and choice rather than imposition.

In addition to being physically dominant, a "Master"- while not
intellectually superior, must also be intellectually dominant ...
dominant by nature and spirit and will .... choosing to dominate while
the submissive chooses to understand and appreciate and ultimately
submit to that will. That is a much more subtle and a far more
difficult challenge. But you need two things:

1. A Master who really knows how to lead the slave to the far most pleasures.

2. A submissive/slave with the courage to take the first step to try it.


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